01/04/2025
A colleague of mine, Frank Mellak, Director of Sympathy4u Ltd recently wrote this and I wanted to share, with you
“The clouds of reflection
Whilst travelling recently, looking out from above the clouds, with a little reflective music it proved to be a moment of reflection. Probably much more than a moment in all honesty.
These precious moments can be part of the long, long journey of bereavement and grieving, but as I looked back on this particular journey, what was much more than just a moment actually contained more smiles than tears, as I looked back on the family and friends, I have lost this past fifteen years.
My parents in 2017 and 2019, looking across the white fluffy clouds there were many smiles, possibly laughing but the person to my left seem unperturbed! The laughs were because as we reflect the good times immensely outweigh the bad times and of course the sadness of loss. The good times are of course memories, when recalled they soothe the hurt, and then of course friends, where the larger percentage of thoughts were indeed laughs, because we chose to gather for fun, enjoyment and make memories. Oddly, losing a close friend can often hurt more, naturally because often we spent more time with friends in later life. But why does this make one feel guilty? Grieving can be a sophisticated bit of travel.
In all these thoughts, I recalled the traditional funeral services, even then as funny moments were recalled, the audience chuckled through the tears. Attendees were consumed by the incredible pictures shown and music played. As the services ended, people exited with their hearts and minds full of what they had seen, heard, and discussed afterwards. How can we even consider skipping this essential part of this journey? Without this special hour or so, are the foundations of the road ahead in place?”
