26/02/2026
๐ง๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ'๐ ๐๐ค๐ซ๐ ๐ผ๐๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ
Then there is ๐๐ค๐ซ๐ ๐ผ๐ฃ๐ค๐ง๐๐ญ๐๐, which is the ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ญ๐ด๐ช๐ท๐ฆ ๐ข๐ท๐ฐ๐ช๐ฅ๐ข๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ of connection, both emotional and physical - this can in fact affect any relationship and may stop us making/ maintaining friendships as well as loving partners.
Very often, love anorexia is underneath love addiction as ultimately they both have, at root, ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ of
๐Rejection,
๐Being abandoned
๐Shame - feeling not good enough.
Underneath the 'highs' of a love addiction (discussed in a previous post) is an the ๐ข๐ฏ๐น๐ช๐ฆ๐ต๐บ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ต๐ณ๐ถ๐ญ๐บ ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฏ/ ๐ข๐ค๐ค๐ฆ๐ฑ๐ต๐ฆ๐ฅ and utter conviction of not being good enough for their partners.
Love anorexia, aka ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ช๐ท๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ, is often about
๐ฉถDisconnection
๐ฉถAvoidance of self and others
๐ฉถFear of vulnerability.
๐ฉถRelationship anxiety
A love anorexic is not willing to take the chance of being hurt, rejected or abandoned and so has adopted a coping mechanism of shying away from human contact full stop.
Yet....
๐ช๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ต๐๐บ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ป๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐ป๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป.
Someone with love anorexia will deny themselves chances to make new connections in multiple ways and put any connection to the test - often resulting in the isolation once more.
Often, there's an intense desire to be seen....... ๐ฃ๐ถ๐ต ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ต๐ณ๐ถ๐ญ๐บ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐บ ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฏ
๐๐ผ๐๐ต ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐
๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ต๐๐ฟ๐.
๐๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ต๐ช๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ด, ๐ฑ๐ฉ๐บ๐ด๐ช๐ค๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐บ, ๐ต๐ฐ๐ฐ.
๐๐ป ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฒ.
๐ ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด
Sometimes, partners in a loveless relationship may well be held together by love anorexia - it can be the quiet deprivation of self and have many justifications.
๐๐ฉ๐ฆ '๐ด๐ข๐ง๐ฆ๐ต๐บ' ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฅ๐ช๐ด๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต.
They are very often born at earlier stages of life and often involve trauma work to begin to heal.
If you think you may want to look at this further in Psychotherapy, contact me when you're ready - ready to connect when you are.