Kirstie Salter Coaching

13/04/2026

“I’ll deal with it when I feel a bit calmer.”

Sounds sensible... But when it comes down to fears and phobias, waiting to 'feel ready' will only keep you stuck.

It’s a bit like saying, “I need to get fitter before I join the gym.” We both know it’s unlikely to happen that way.

Whether it’s flying, driving, health anxiety, social anxiety or something else entirely… the instinct is to avoid the thing that makes you feel uncomfortable. In the short term, that works, you feel relief. But underneath, the fear stays exactly where it is.

From a brain perspective, real lasting change doesn’t come from ‘thinking' about doing something differently, it comes from experiencing something different.

Because then your mind updates from “I thought this would be unbearable” to "I managed it.” That’s where the shift happens. That learning doesn’t come after you feel calm or confident, it’s what creates those feelings.

Which is where I come in. My role isn’t to tell you to just “face your fears,” it’s to help you get to a place where taking that first step feels possible, manageable and supported. Because once that first step happens, everything else starts to change.Those words “I feel like I’ve got my life back” might feel hard to imagine right now, and that’s completely okay. You don’t need to fully believe it’s possible yet. You just need a willingness to begin.

If there’s something you’ve been putting off because you’re waiting to feel ready… you don’t have to figure that out on your own. You’re very welcome to message me if you’d like to know more.

Kirstie 💛
Mindset Coach | Solution-Focused Therapist | Clinical Hypnotherapist

Read more….What’s the difference between fear and phobia?
https://www.kirstiesalter.co.uk/post/fear-or-phobia

05/03/2026

“The holiday sounds amazing… it’s the flight I can’t face.”

With spring around the corner, lots of people are excited for their summer holiday. But for some, trips abroad feel impossible. The moment flights enter the conversation, a wave of dread appears.

Fear of flying is far more common than people realise.

“I feel like I’m holding everyone back.” This is something I hear a lot. When partners, friends or family are excited about travelling, it can leave you feeling guilty or even embarrassed, as though you’re the reason plans can’t happen. That feeling alone can be incredibly heavy to carry.

“Flying is the safest way to travel.” Comments like this often come from people trying to help. But when fear is coming from a deeper, subconscious level of the brain, logic rarely makes you feel better. Instead it can leave you feeling even more isolated — as though no one really understands what you’re experiencing.

Some people can trace their fear back to turbulence or a difficult flight. Others are completely puzzled by it: “I used to fly all the time and it was fine. So why now?” Either way, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. And it’s important to understand that it’s not you that’s irrational, it’s your thoughts. Thoughts and responses can be changed.

The goal isn’t about suddenly loving flying. It’s about reaching a place where you feel able to cope… able to book the flight… and able to dial down that sense of dread on the lead up to the holiday.

I use a combination of solution-focused therapy and hypnotherapy to help people change the way their mind responds to flying — working both with mindset and at a deeper subconscious level. Most people work with me for a short series of sessions (typically starting with three), allowing us time to properly shift the patterns behind the fear and build your confidence step by step.

In fact, I’ve recently had a few clients return from trips abroad who, only months earlier, thought flying again wasn’t even in the realm of possibility. It’s truly an area of work I love, because freeing yourself from a phobia is life changing.

If this resonates with you, you’re very welcome to message me for more information. My private therapy room is based in Wells… It’s quiet, calm, confidential (and easy to park!).

Kirstie 💛
(Specialist in anxiety and phobia treatment)

Mindset Coach | Solution-Focused Therapist | Clinical Hypnotherapist

23/01/2026

Do you ever catch yourself watching other people and thinking…

“There is no way in this world that I could stand up and speak in front of an audience”

“I could never ask them out on a date… I’d be completely mortified.”

“I wish I had the confidence to go for that promotion.”

“I’d love to compete, I’m just not that confident.”

“I admire people who put themselves out there… I just couldn’t be one of them.”

And before you know it, that quiet thought settles in…’That’s just not me’. So you stay in observer mode. Watching others step forward, take risks, put themselves out there and grow. Whilst your confidence dwindles.

The truth is confidence isn’t something we’re born with… we either have it or we don’t. No, we build it.

Behind most confident people is a long list of moments where they felt nervous, uncomfortable, doubtful — they just did it anyway (often with a wobble!).

Anyone can become more confident. Yes it requires getting a bit uncomfortable, but you can do it in manageable steps,
not huge leaps and forcing yourself to “just be brave”.

And even better, with the right mental preparation, those overwhelming feelings will soften. What once felt terrifying will start to feel… doable.... And maybe even a little exciting!

This is an area I genuinely love supporting clients with.
Whether it’s confidence around public speaking, getting yourself out there on social media, interviews, dating, competing, or doing something you’ve avoided for years.

And for some people, it isn’t confidence at all —
it’s a fear or phobia that’s been quietly running the show in the background.

So if there’s something you keep thinking…
“I wish I could — but I can’t.”

Maybe the question isn’t why them?
Maybe it’s…Why NOT you? 💛

I'm a fully certified therapist, coach and hypnotherapist based in Wells (who used to be absolutely TERRIFIED of public speaking... !)

If this resonates, you’re very welcome to message me — no pressure, just a conversation. I’ll pop the contact details in the chat.

14/01/2026

07/01/2026

The beginning of a new year brings a lot of talk about what we should be adding into our lives. New routines. New goals. New habits.

But for many, the real work isn’t about starting more. It begins with letting go of what’s holding you back.

That might be persistent worrying that never really switches off. A constant undercurrent of negative thinking. Feeling overwhelmed, on edge, or emotionally exhausted for no obvious reason. An overworked nervous system that’s been stuck in “alert mode” for far too long.

For others, it shows up as fears or phobias that limit life more than they’d like to admit. Or behaviours that once helped them cope, but now feel out of control; alcohol, smoking, compulsive habits, or patterns they keep promising themselves they’ll change… tomorrow.

None of this means you’re weak, broken, or lacking willpower. It usually means your mind and nervous system have learned ways to protect you… they’re just no longer useful.

But If you could gain control of those patterns…What would you then actually like more of?

More calm? Contentment? Sleep?!
A sense of peace or emotional space? Kindness… with yourself?
Confidence, self-worth, freedom, control?

Letting go creates room. Room to think clearly again. Room to respond rather than react.
Room to get back to yourself again (not just someone getting through the days).

If any of this resonates, and you’d like to make some changes but unsure how, just send a DM to get started.

You don’t have to have it all figured out before reaching out. I’m always happy to answer questions — quietly, confidentially, and without pressure. 💛

I offer a powerful blend of Solution Focused Psychotherapy with coaching and I use Hypnotherapy to work at a deeper level. I have over 10 years experience and I work from a quiet, relaxing office in Wells with plenty of off road parking. It’s a great space to reset. I also offer online therapy and coaching.

Remember the decisions you make now affect your year - make it a good one.

Kirstie 💕

04/01/2026

Warning!! Very slippery underfoot this morning!! Reminded me of falling on ice snowboarding!! Beautiful start to the day though up at crooks peak!

30/12/2025

hate this bit….As we enter a New Year, there’s a lot of pressure to do more. To be more.

Because what I’ve witnessed (again and again) in particular, during my work as a menopause coach, is that too many women in mid-life are already stretched way too thin. Time poor. Pulled in every direction.

So maybe this is the year we rethink all of that?

Maybe instead of making plans to push harder, we make space. Space to rest, to reconnect with ourselves, to stop constantly rushing.

To listen to what our bodies are asking for.

Because what if doing less is exactly what we need?

I know from experience, both personally and professionally, that when we give ourselves time to pause, to be present, to simply enjoy the small things… life starts to feel richer. Not because we’ve added more, but because we’ve made space to feel better.

We often wait for a health scare to start taking our wellbeing seriously. But our health (physical and menta), It’s the absolute foundation.

Over Christmas, many of us reflect on what really matters, don’t we? Time with family and friends. Fresh air. Proper unrushed conversations. Simple joy. And then January hits…. full throttle, and we forget it all over again.

You don’t need to become a “new you” in the new year.

You just need to take care of the real you.

And if 2025 didn’t work out the way you wanted it to, stop beating yourself up and show yourself some of the compassion and kindness that you give to others..

Wishing you rest, space, peace and good health as we move into 2026. 💫

Lots of love,
Kirstie 💕

WorkplaceWellbeing

30/12/2025

I hate this bit….As we enter a New Year, there’s a lot of pressure to do more. To be more.

Because what I’ve witnessed (again and again) in particular, during my work as a menopause coach, is that too many women in mid-life are already stretched way too thin. Time poor. Pulled in every direction.

So maybe this is the year we rethink all of that?

Maybe instead of making plans to push harder, we make space. Space to rest, to reconnect with ourselves, to stop constantly rushing.

To listen to what our bodies are asking for.

Because what if doing less is exactly what we need?

I know from experience, both personally and professionally, that when we give ourselves time to pause, to be present, to simply enjoy the small things… life starts to feel richer. Not because we’ve added more, but because we’ve made space to feel better.

We often wait for a health scare to start taking our wellbeing seriously. But our health (physical and menta), It’s the absolute foundation.

Over Christmas, many of us reflect on what really matters, don’t we? Time with family and friends. Fresh air. Proper unrushed conversations. Simple joy. And then January hits…. full throttle, and we forget it all over again.

You don’t need to become a “new you” in the new year.

You just need to take care of the real you.

And if 2025 didn’t work out the way you wanted it to, stop beating yourself up and show yourself some of the compassion and kindness that you give to others..

Wishing you rest, space, peace and good health as we move into 2026. 💫

Lots of love,
Kirstie 💕

WorkplaceWellbeing

26/12/2025

Forever grateful for the special people in my life 💕(and the ones that don’t like to be photographed!)

26/12/2025

Bit of sea spray?! No thanks!!

24/12/2025

Merry Christmas!

It’s been such a privilege to support you this year. Thank you for your trust, your openness and your courage ⭐

If Christmas feels calm and joyful for you, I hope you soak it up. And if it feels complicated, emotional or tiring, that’s okay too. Be kind to you (and your nervous system).

Wishing you a peaceful Christmas and a gentle start to the New Year.

New group coaching coming in 2026!

Kirstie 💛

21/12/2025

At ives 💕 beautiful whatever the weather! Wait I see a bit of blue sky 🙌