18/01/2026
I went rrom Fun Dad to Losing My Sh*t Dad
Id like to say that I’m always fun dad, dad thats playing games and Dad that possess the patience of a saint 😇 and I could quite easily post a highlight reel on social media to portray just that, but the truth of the matter is, that's not always the case
For the past week, I’ve been dealing with shoulder pain, and life hasn’t stopped for a second. I’m still working, doing massages and demonstrating exercises, looking after the kids, putting on a brave face during the day, even though I’m uncomfortable. 🥲
But when I get home, everything keeps going: the house needs sorting, dinner needs cooking, the kids need looking after, and all the jobs I don’t want to do still need doing The only difference is now I’m doing it all while in pain and the pain has been interrupting my sleep so now im tired to boot
So when I’m telling the kids (for the fifth time) to pick up their clothes, take their plate out, stop bickering, tidy their bed, or brush their teeth, it just hits differently. 😭
My patience isn’t what it usually is. The noise, the mess, the bickering, it all gets to me much quicker. Suddenly, I’m not the fun, happy dad, I’m the snappy, irritable dad, and I don’t like it.
But here’s the thing: many people think that their response is abnormal, but you are responding in a very normal way to an abnormal situation. 💯
Pain is a very emotional experience, and it changes how we react. It takes energy, and you know what, It’s okay to admit it’s hard. We need to be a bit kinder to ourselves, and sometimes that means not trying to be super mum or super dad all the time. 🦹♀️ Take a step back, push a few things off the to-do list, and give yourself permission to just keep things afloat, without losing your sh*t.