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24/07/2025

And the day came
When the risk to remain
Closed tightly in a bud
Became more painful
Than the risk it took
To Blossom
AnaisNin

23/07/2025

The Gift of Therapy
In this book, we are given an honest reflection from psychiatrist Irvin D. Yalom, who invites us behind the therapy room door — where real transformation begins within a therapeutic relationship.

He reminds us that therapy is not about fixing people. It's about walking alongside them, sitting with their pain, and helping them reconnect with meaning, choice, and freedom.

🌱 A few gentle truths from Yalom:
🌀 The relationship is the therapy
🕯️ Every person is a unique story unfolding
🧠 Insight matters — but presence matters more
🫂 The most healing moments are often the most human ones

As a therapist, this book reaffirmed why we do this work:
To meet people where they are.
To honour their courage.
To witness their growth.
To offer presence over perfection.

📖 Recommended for:
✔️ Therapists at any stage
✔️ Clients curious about the therapy process
✔️ Anyone who believes in the power of connection to heal

Therapy is a gift — not just for the client but also for the therapist. 💬

02/07/2025

"I have worked with Kirsty for months now following the breakdown of my marriage. She immediately put me at ease, and I feel like I can open up to her in a way I can't talk to friends and family. She has really helped me to look at myself differently, and to challenge myself when needed. I feel stronger and better prepared to deal with life's challenges. I would highly recommend her."

30/06/2025

The cycles of grief for heartbreak can quite often mirror the stages of grief described by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, originally outlined for bereavement. However, when it comes to heartbreak—especially after a romantic relationship ends—the emotional process can be more cyclical than linear. You may loop back through stages or experience several at once. Here's a breakdown:

💔 1. Shock & Denial

“This isn’t happening. We’ll get back together.”

You might feel numb, dissociated, or in disbelief.

Your brain may struggle to accept the sudden absence of the person.

😡 2. Anger

“How could they do this to me?”

Anger can be directed at your ex, yourself, or even the universe.

This phase is protective—it helps mask deeper pain and vulnerability.

🛠️ 3. Bargaining

“If I change, maybe they’ll come back.”

You may ruminate over what you could have done differently.

Some try to "win back" the other person or make deals with themselves or a higher power.

😞 4. Depression

“I feel so empty.”

Sadness, withdrawal, fatigue, and hopelessness are common.

This is often the hardest stage, but it’s also a gateway to healing.

🌱 5. Acceptance

“It happened. I can live with it.”

You’re not necessarily “over it,” but you start to move forward.

The pain may still be there, but it no longer rules you.

🔁 6. Possible Relapse

Triggered by a memory, a song, a message, a place.

A return to earlier stages—especially anger or sadness—is natural.

This doesn’t mean you’ve failed; healing isn’t linear.

💡 7. Reconstruction & Hope

“I’ve grown. I see the lessons. I’m rediscovering myself.”

You begin focusing more on your future than the past.

You explore who you are outside the relationship.

Important Notes:

These cycles may repeat or overlap.

It’s okay to grieve a relationship like a death—it is the end of something real.

Trauma bonding, attachment styles, or unhealed wounds may intensify certain phases.

Support (friends, therapy, journaling, somatic healing) helps you move through rather than get stuck.

29/06/2025

🌱 What’s Your Attachment Style?
Understanding your attachment style can offer powerful insight into how you connect, love, and respond in relationships — and where your healing begins.

There are 4 main types of attachment:

💚 Secure
You feel safe to be close and also to be independent. You trust others, communicate openly, and seek support when needed. This often comes from consistent, loving caregiving in early life.

🧡 Anxious (Preoccupied)
You crave closeness but fear abandonment. You may worry about being too much or not enough. This often develops from inconsistent caregiving — sometimes your needs were met, other times not.

💙 Avoidant (Dismissive)
You value independence, sometimes at the expense of intimacy. It may feel hard to rely on others or show vulnerability. This can stem from early experiences where emotional needs were minimized or dismissed.

🖤 Disorganised (Fearful-Avoidant)
You long for closeness but fear it too. Relationships may feel confusing or unsafe. This often comes from early trauma or unpredictable caregiving, where love and fear were mixed together.

✨ The good news? Attachment styles can change. With awareness, healing, and safe relationships, it's possible to move toward secure attachment — with others and within yourself.

💬 Which one resonates with you the most?

26/06/2025

🧠 CHILDHOOD CORE WOUNDS
✨ The invisible roots that shape how we love, trust, and see ourselves.

So many of our adult struggles—people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, overachieving, fear of abandonment—can be traced back to core wounds formed in childhood.

These aren't just "bad memories."
They’re emotional imprints left when our needs weren’t consistently met.

Here are a few common ones:
🔹 I am not enough
🔹 I am too much
🔹 I can’t trust anyone
🔹 I don’t matter
🔹 Love is conditional

💬 These wounds often whisper: “Don’t speak up. Don’t need too much. Don’t be vulnerable.”

But here’s the truth:
🌱 You are allowed to outgrow the survival strategies that kept you safe.
🌱 Healing begins when we meet those wounded parts with compassion, curiosity, and care.

🖋️ What core belief might still be living inside you?

24/06/2025

🌿 "What’s the bravest thing you’ve ever said?" asked the boy.
"Help," said the horse. — Charlie Mackesy

As a therapist, this line resonates deeply. Asking for help isn't a weakness. It's one of the most courageous things we can do.

In a world that often praises independence, vulnerability can feel like a risk. But healing begins the moment we allow ourselves to be seen, to be supported, to say, "I can’t do this alone."

You don’t have to carry it all by yourself.
You're not too much.
You’re human.

✨ If you’ve been thinking about reaching out — whether to a friend, a therapist, or simply acknowledging your feelings — consider this your sign. Help is hope in action.

19/06/2025

"Kirsty is an extremely kind and patient therapist and gave me the listening ear and gentle nudge in my life that really needed. It has been an extremely helpful experience, and I highly recommend her."

06/06/2025

"Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present. " Marcus Aurelius

01/06/2025

Taking a moment to pause and enjoy nature.

29/05/2025

Sometimes, the feedback I get can be astonishing, but the clients are the ones who do all the hard work and deserve the credit. I have only facilitated the space for them to explore.

"Highly recommend, saw a huge change even from the first session."

14/05/2025

"Hi Kirsty, once again thank you so much for helping me find the joy in living again. I will definitely miss these sessions with you, I wish you all the best! 🩷"

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