Fiona at Consciously Loving Me

Fiona at Consciously Loving Me Conflict Resolution Coach Helping you realise your own sovereignty, connecting you back to your true self.

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Embracing our role in the dynamic creation process fosters substantial positive growth. However, for those with a histor...
17/10/2025

Embracing our role in the dynamic creation process fosters substantial positive growth.

However, for those with a history of childhood trauma or CPTSD, exploring internal spaces can be intimidating.

As a result, our early fears continue to influence our bodily, mental, and behavioral responses and the dynamics we help unconsciously create with another.

Unless we confront and explore our discomfort, we'll perpetuate the same patterns we grew up with.

By being curious and gentle with ourselves, we can expand and create a sense of safety within.

This newfound understanding helps us connect with others on a deeper level, moving beyond black-and-white thinking.

We are complex, our caregivers were complex, and every situation is nuanced.

Once we learn to navigate this paradigm, own our role, and connect without fear, everything changes.

EVERYTHING!

Most of us aren't aware that the outside world is a projection of the internal worldA lot of us want to vilify others an...
16/10/2025

Most of us aren't aware that the outside world is a projection of the internal world

A lot of us want to vilify others and miss the grounding aspect of looking inwards at our own projections

Healing is really about being curious with our thoughts and feelings

I'm not taking away from being human and expressing emotion

But how we express ourselves matters greatly to the health of our relationships!

I know it's not easy to create postive change because it feels so uncomfortable and even confusing

That's why it's amazing to have a friend or therapist that can hold the space for us and gently bring us back home to ourselves

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If we want you to experience better relationship dynamics we have to start with the one to ourselves first We can’t inte...
11/09/2025

If we want you to experience better relationship dynamics we have to start with the one to ourselves first

We can’t intellectualise and think our way out of dysfunctional patterns otherwise we’d all be ok by now

Working on the relationship to the self is what helps us to find more safety and balance within

The more we create it within the more we co create it in the dynamics we choose outside of ourselves

The nervous system needs rewiring through energetic practices such as reparenting and it also needs real life moments of connection and presence

This doesn’t happen over night

It has to be a dedication to a real lifestyle changes every time something happens that takes us into a negative spiral

The more we are there for ourselves the more we can bring to a dynamic and expect it to be reflected back

Doing this kind of work has totally changed myself, the way I see life, I express myself and what I offer to a dynamic.

I’ve come from a childhood where I experienced complex trauma to way more secure than I could have ever imagined!

Again I always state- I am in no way perfect!

I have flaws, we all do

My emotions can sometimes be big, I can say things that hurt, I can sometimes see and feel myself carrying on the same dysfunction I grew up in

But now I’m able to take responsibility for it work with it and to be accountable

To repair from a place of safety

Instead of rage and destruction taking over I’m way more grounded

And most importantly I’ve got my own back

Not so it causes disconnect

I spent too many years disconnected from others and in an ultra independent energy

But in a way that’s on my side enough to advocate for myself but also take in to consideration the feelings and needs of my spouse too

It’s all balance

I never could have possibly dreamed of navigating my life the way I do now because of the work I’ve implemented

If you feel the call to want to start implementing your own practices and to work on the relationship to yourself to bring that into your own relational dynamic please reach out.

Or if you would just like to know more and have any questions, I’d be happy to help.

Enjoy your day 🌤️

What if saying “I should know that” just highlighted where we still don’t fully understand ourselves. What if, in that p...
30/06/2025

What if saying “I should know that” just highlighted where we still don’t fully understand ourselves.

What if, in that perfect moment you weren’t supposed to know what you thought you “should” have known.

What if, this was a notion,

that we are supposed to know something we don’t in that moment.

Maybe this is just us on some level saying - “I’m less than perfect”

Maybe if we don’t know what we think we “should” know in that moment, that was perfect for the next moment that transpired out of that

Maybe we put too much on ourselves

Maybe we can allow ourselves to drop that added pressure.

We are all works in progress

We are all becoming

We are all Yin & Yang

I’m saying this because we can get fixated on our flaws instead of simply dropping weight we don’t have to carry

Perfection is a heavy expectation and a bar set too high

We are imperfect and divine

Being good with ourselves being imperfect is the perfection

Another of life’s paradox’s

Perfectly imperfect ❤️

Can you love yourself for not having all the answers and being perfectly imperfect?

If we want to start creating different relational dynamics to the ones we grew up in we have to start doing things diffe...
25/06/2025

If we want to start creating different relational dynamics to the ones we grew up in we have to start doing things differently

No one will come along and sweep us off our feet (unfortunately)

We have to do the deep inner work to create differently

That means working to rewire the subconscious & nervous system

I’ve been using my own tools and techniques for a long while now with great success

I also use these proven methods with my clients & have received some amazing reviews ⬆️ (In “Highlights”)

Dm me if you’d like to know more

We are all works in progress 🦋💫

Do you want to attract better? Would you like to stop getting bread cumbed? Would you like to have someone who gives you...
24/06/2025

Do you want to attract better?

Would you like to stop getting bread cumbed?

Would you like to have someone who gives you time, compassion, attention, consideration?

It’s 100% possible

Because our reality reflects our relationship to ourselves

Our inner state of mind and relationships significantly shape our reality.

According to Psychology Today, our thoughts and perceptions influence how we experience the world.

Similarly, Dr. Gail Brenner emphasizes that our inner state acts as a lens, affecting how we view our surroundings.

Additionally, Medium reports that our relationships often mirror aspects of ourselves, highlighting the impact of interpersonal connections on our self-perception.

It’s actually not difficult for the mirror to the change but of course we first have to change what’s in front of the mirror (us) (ourselves)

Anyone who is out here on social media talking about their personal shift in their own romantic relationships will tell you exactly the same thing

The reason things changed for us in magical ways isn’t because we are special

It’s because we decided to put in the work on ourselves

We give to ourselves exactly what we want from the outside

We have become the partner we wanted to be with

Without falter

And it has shifted what we see in our reality and receive

It’s a challenging but beautiful and rewarding process that ALL of us should embark on and fully embrace

If you’d like to know more then please reach out

You deserve the very best

So give it to yourself

🫶🏼🔥🦋

Join myself and my life long friend , having a good old discussion on our own healing and why we think it’s the best thi...
18/06/2025

Join myself and my life long friend , having a good old discussion on our own healing and why we think it’s the best thing we’ve ever done for ourselves and those around us.

We will be going LIVE at 12PM

Please join us if you feel the call

And feel free to ask questions, I promise we will read them as we go

Hopefully see you sooooooon ♥️

Join  TOMORROW at 12PM for a laid back chat about how healing improves life Not just for the people embarking on a heali...
17/06/2025

Join TOMORROW at 12PM for a laid back chat about how healing improves life

Not just for the people embarking on a healing journey but it also ripples out to those around us

We want to talk about the epic journey of transformation both of us have embraced

Danielle and I have known each other since about 4 years old and have witnessed the path of transformation in ourselves & each other

It’s easy to question the healing path

Especially if we have adapted to forms of avoidance

And to think we should be further on or fully healed by now

But these are things we want to chat about

Because life is the school & healing is experiential

Join us tomorrow at 12 for an open & honest conversation where we will share our views & experience

If you have any questions you’d like to ask feel free to drop us a message so we can discuss it either on the LIVE or before

We’d be delighted to have you there !

Yesterday was 10 years ago since I got spiritually awoken I spoke to a medium the day after my friend died and he came t...
14/06/2025

Yesterday was 10 years ago since I got spiritually awoken

I spoke to a medium the day after my friend died and he came through in my reading

It had the biggest impact on my life as I changed everything after that one reading

She told me the cause of death before the coroners report had been done

It was insane

I literally thought I was going crazy

It felt like I was talking to him on a phone line, it was that clear

It changed my life forever

I looked at life completely differently after that day

He gave me the message to help other people and after I got evidence that was really the cause of death ,I took the guidance

How could I ignore that calling?

I felt like I wasn’t ready but I still put one foot in front of the other

Because what it meant (to me) was that what I’d been taught about this life was completely different to the one I’d been sold

But with an awakening there means radical truth

And with that meant looking at myself head on

Looking at everything about myself and holding it tightly

The light & the very uncomfortable dark

It’s so uncomfortable when you look in the mirror and you admit your own flaws

The shame that can arise is intense

But at some point we realise it’s just energy

It’s just conditioning

And that all humans really want at their core is connection & safety

But sometimes we do that through dysfunction

And we can try to get those needs met through forms of control & manipulation (AKA attachment issues)

And we do have the power to forgive ourselves

On the other side of the forgiveness and radical honestly is our healthy relationships

Because you don’t have anything to hide

You know yourself and you know others

And flaws and feelings can be portals to deeper intimacy and security

Thank you to my friend for helping me to see the light and walk through the darkness

And guiding me towards safety & security inside

I’m eternally grateful !

Hi I’m Fiona Gillespie Thanks for following me I’m very grateful to have you here with me!Apologies I don’t show up cons...
12/06/2025

Hi I’m Fiona Gillespie

Thanks for following me

I’m very grateful to have you here with me!

Apologies I don’t show up consistently

In all honesty I don’t want to live my life on a Hamster wheel, churning out content in a bid to get clients

In more recent times I’ve fallen into this, what feels like a marketing trap

And I know there’s a lot of phycology that backs up why we should do things on social media

But for me personally it hasn’t felt good to me

It didn’t feel authentic

It hasn’t felt like I could fully be myself because my true self has no concept of time

I feel I’ve been fearful & in a mindset of scarcity

I only want to do things that feel good to me & share from my heart when I get inspiration

I feel that inspiration is our connection to source and our divine alignment

I believe creativity can only come from that place

Not because I want to gain something but because I want to give something

Over the past month or soI decided I was just going to share from divine alignment

Meaning, I’ll write what I write because I want to

Because I believe it’s something that the world needs to hear or because I value the feedback 1 of my posts might conjure up by being a bit thought provoking

I felt so done with social media I just wanted to delete the whole lot

And that’s when things started to open up

I don’t need it anymore, I have enough work coming in without having to do something that doesn’t feel aligned

So now I am able to just say what a want to say, when I want to say it

Hopefully this content will be more of service now

I love to share what’s on my heart

Not share because someone else told me I need to do something in order to gain

I’m not a performing monkey

I’m a creator

And creators have to get tapped into their gifts as and when they come

My whole business is set up around people loving & honouring themselves and taking aligned action from that space

So you may not see me here consistently but I am here for my the ones I love and my clients consistently & that’s what matters

I feel like we are all bombarded constantly with too much information as it is so I need to go back to back to basics

Join  and I for a LIVE discussion about how healing our traumas can change us in the most amazing ways Healing our past ...
11/06/2025

Join and I for a LIVE discussion about how healing our traumas can change us in the most amazing ways

Healing our past trauma doesn’t only help us, as individuals, it spills out to all those around us should we embrace it to its full potential & make the positive changes we are being energetically pushed to make

We can choose to be in the drivers seat of our lives or in the passenger seat

Both bring their own discomfort

Both choices are ours to make.

Daniele & I really wanted to share with you how we have stepped up for ourselves
& cultivated a better relationship to ourselves & how this has shifted a lot in our own reality

And we have & are currently helping other people to turn their trauma into triumph by doing the consistent inner work

Please join us next week if this sounds like a discussion you’d like to get involved with

And feel free ask questions before or during so we can discuss our own perspectives on the answers

We will be going LIVE next Wednesday 18/6/25, 12PM

And we’d love to have you there !

Thanks for being a part of

🙏🏼🦋💫✨

A message from a fearful avoidant - I want you more than you’ll ever know My eagerness to find love can very quickly tur...
23/05/2025

A message from a fearful avoidant -

I want you more than you’ll ever know

My eagerness to find love can very quickly turn into fantasy & obsession

But I’m also on the lookout for any queues that you may be unsafe for me

I can be extremely intense

But also switch off my feelings at a drop of a hat

One minute we are enjoying one another very much the next you’re eating my dust because you said or did something that scared me

I was never given the tools to self soothe and to communicate my fears

So before you know it, I’m gone

But afterward I’ve gone and Ive gone & taken some space I realise that maybe there was a chance

I can’t stop ruminating & fantasising about seeing you or talking again

But I can’t apologise or own my responsibility because the fear of you rejecting me is just too big

I’d rather remain to look like the one that took control & stood my ground

You must know you have done wrong through my distance & silence

Even though underneath I actually feel like I’m dying now

Until the next time where I’ll repeat this very same pattern all over again with you or someone else and just think I’m unlucky in love

If this sounds familiar to who ever is reading this - Let me tell you - I feel you & from someone who’s recovering from this herself, healing is absolutely possible!

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