07/02/2026
Welcoming a new baby is a huge change, especially for older siblings.
Here are some gentle, practical ways to help them feel secure, loved and included during those early weeks.
Plan the first meeting:
* If you can, avoid holding the baby when they first meet.
* Free arms mean you can give your older child lots of cuddles first, then bring baby in together.
* Prepare your visitorsAsk friends and family to make a fuss of your older child too.
* A small gift just for them can really help them feel included.
* Avoid calling them “the big one”It can feel quite jarring for a child who has always been the baby.
* Try not to change expectations overnight and ask others to do the same.
* Get them their own baby - a doll they can feed, cuddle or change alongside you can be a lovely way to play and feel involved.
Invest in a good sling- there may also be a sling library near you so you can try lots out to find the one that suits you best. A sling can be a real lifesaver with a newborn and a toddler. Baby stays close and content while your hands are free for play and cuddles.
Create a special feeding box. Save a box of activities just for feeding times. It comes out while you feed the baby and goes away again afterwards.
Don’t “blame” the baby. Try swapping “I can’t, I’m holding the baby” for “my hands are busy right now, I’ll help you as soon as I can”.
Make time for one-to-one moments. Even short pockets of time can mean the world. If you can, step away from the baby and focus fully on your older child.
There is no perfect way to do this. Be kind to yourself, take it one day at a time, and remember that love is not divided, it grows.