28/04/2020
I have seen a lot of messages like this in the past few weeks. I understand that people are trying to show understanding and awareness that going through this period of time is hard and that just getting through the day can take a lot of effort. This being said I would like to go one step further, I don't believe that the notion of those who are "holding [themselves] together" should be considered to be doing better, trying harder and are more worthy of praise, than those who cannot hold themselves together.
The idea that there are bad/wrong emotions is socially created. Due to this belief the physical show of negative emotions can make other people uncomfortable which is often why we try to hold ourselves together; it is more pleasing to society. I'm glad to see that this cultural value is changing and we are seeing less emotionally minimising behaviours such as my least favourite phrases: "chin up" and "smile it might never happen"!
The reason why this feels important enough for me to want to post about is because of how this message can impact those that feel they may not be holding themselves together. If somebody already feels low, we do not want to be making them feel that they are failing, that we are not proud of them and that they are wrong/bad for feeling that way. This is a dangerous message.