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“Enjoy every minute, it goes so fast.”I remember hearing this over and over in early motherhood. And honestly? In the th...
11/05/2026

“Enjoy every minute, it goes so fast.”

I remember hearing this over and over in early motherhood. And honestly? In the thick of it, those words didn’t feel comforting… they felt heavy.

My eldest wasn’t a fan of sleep. He was up at 5am, down at 8pm, with a couple of naps scattered in. I was “on” for around 15 hours a day. I was exhausted. Touched out. Running on fumes. And quietly wondering…
How am I supposed to enjoy every minute of this?

Instead of feeling grateful, I felt guilty. Like I was already failing at motherhood because I wasn’t soaking up every second.

But here’s what I’ve come to understand, both personally and professionally:

Comments like this are often spoken from hindsight. From nostalgia. From someone remembering the highlights, not the relentless, blurry, sleep-deprived reality of the early days.
And while they’re usually well-intentioned, they can land like pressure on a mum who is already giving everything she has.

New mothers don’t just need reminders that time passes.
They need support. Rest. Reassurance. Someone to say,

“This part is hard, and you’re doing an incredible job.”

So when you hear “enjoy every minute” and guilt creeps in, try to remember:

It’s not about you.
You are allowed to not enjoy every moment.
You are allowed to feel bored, overwhelmed, frustrated, and deeply in love all in the same day.
That doesn’t make you a bad mum.

It makes you a real one 🤍

"Our pets aren’t “just animals”, they’re family. The muddy paw prints, the fur on the couch, the early morning walks… it...
07/05/2026

"Our pets aren’t “just animals”, they’re family. The muddy paw prints, the fur on the couch, the early morning walks… it’s all part of a life filled with love, loyalty, and lessons that last a lifetime.

Growing up with pets teaches children things no classroom can fully capture:
How to be gentle
How to be responsible
How to care for someone who depends on them
How to understand feelings without words
How to love without conditions

They learn that feeding time matters. Those walks still happen when it’s cold and you're not feeling it. That comfort can be given with a quiet cuddle. That loss, when it comes, is part of loving deeply.

These little everyday moments are shaping kind, patient, compassionate humans and we’re so grateful our kids get to grow up with best friends who have paws.
Hug your pets a little tighter tonight. They’re raising good humans

This Maternal Mental Health Awareness Week, let’s talk more honestly about matrescence, the profound physical, emotional...
05/05/2026

This Maternal Mental Health Awareness Week, let’s talk more honestly about matrescence, the profound physical, emotional, psychological, and identity shift that happens when a woman becomes a mother.

Let’s lower the expectations.
Let’s name the invisible load.
And let’s remind mothers that needing help does not make you a bad parent, it makes you human.

💛 If this resonates, you’re not the only one. Reach out. Talk. Share. You deserve support too.

When children squabble, it can activate:our own unmet needsmemories of how conflict was handled in our childhood homefea...
04/05/2026

When children squabble, it can activate:

our own unmet needs
memories of how conflict was handled in our childhood home
fears that we’re “failing” as parents
our overstimulation / exhaustion / sensory load

So sometimes our reaction is bigger than the situation itself.
That’s not a flaw, it’s insight. It helps us understand ourselves better.

🤝 Our Role as Parents

We can’t (and shouldn’t) stop all conflict.

Conflict is how kids learn to:
communicate needs
tolerate frustration
problem‑solve
set boundaries
repair after rupture

Our real job is to guide - not eliminate - these moments.
We teach them:

✨ You can disagree AND still love each other
✨ You can feel angry AND stay respectful
✨ You can make mistakes AND repair

We are helping them build skills they’ll use in every relationship for the rest of their lives.

I’m a Clinical Psychologist.I’ve worked with parents.I know the research. I understand attachment, development, what bab...
01/05/2026

I’m a Clinical Psychologist.
I’ve worked with parents.
I know the research. I understand attachment, development, what babies need in their first years of life.

And still… I found the transition to motherhood completely overwhelming.

Knowing the theory didn’t stop the 3am doubts.

It didn’t quiet the worry.
It didn’t make the sleep deprivation easier.
It didn’t stop me wondering if I was getting it wrong.

Because nothing fully prepares you for becoming someone’s entire world overnight.

In those early months, a few things felt like a lifeline for me and they’re the same things I now see helping my clients too:

Finding your village.
People who are at the same stage as you, who get it without needing an explanation.
Being intentional about what you take in.
Only following accounts that feel supportive rather than shaming. Muting or unfollowing anything that leaves you feeling like you’re failing.
Blocking out the noise and the constant stream of opinions.
And choosing instead to listen to a small number of voices you genuinely trust.
Getting outside.
Fresh air, gentle movement, even a short local walk. Nothing fancy, but it can do wonders for both you and your baby.

And still… even with all of that, I have moments where I think:
“Am I doing a good enough job?”
“Am I messing them up somehow?”
And maybe the truth is that most of us are carrying those thoughts, whether we say them out loud or not.

So if you feel like you should be coping better… you’re not alone in that.

Even the people who “know” still have their struggle. 🤍

Mindfulness doesn’t need to be an item on your to‑do list.It can be a small way of meeting yourself kindly throughout th...
29/04/2026

Mindfulness doesn’t need to be an item on your to‑do list.

It can be a small way of meeting yourself kindly throughout the day.

A breath. A pause. A glance at the sea. A moment with a slow old dog.

These tiny shifts are enough.

You are enough.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed:Set realistic expectationsPrioritise self-careAccept help when offeredRemember that feelin...
27/04/2026

If you’re feeling overwhelmed:

Set realistic expectations

Prioritise self-care

Accept help when offered

Remember that feeling exhausted doesn’t mean failure

Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint. Small, intentional steps to care for yourself create a healthier environment for your children too. 💛

🌊 Mindful Moments by the SeaFor me, the sea is my haven.It’s where my breath slows, my shoulders drop, and my mind feels...
24/04/2026

🌊 Mindful Moments by the Sea

For me, the sea is my haven.
It’s where my breath slows, my shoulders drop, and my mind feels spacious again.
I try to bring mindfulness into my daily dog walk.

My old dog is very slow now. I used to love fast, long, brisk walks that helped me burn energy. Now, we potter. And I’ll be honest, some days that’s frustrating. I miss the pace. I miss the movement.

But instead of fighting it, I try to notice it.
When frustration rises, I name it gently:
“I miss how things were. I’m feeling impatient.”

And then I shift my attention outward:
the sound of the waves
the salt in the air
the inhale that fills my lungs
the exhale that softens everything a little

It’s a moment to regulate before I go back to my desk or the children.

A reset button that helps me get through the day with more steadiness, not perfection.

This is mindful living.

Not another chore, just choosing presence when you can.

Practicing what I preach!For the last couple of months I’ve actually stuck to going to the gym. Since having my children...
20/04/2026

Practicing what I preach!

For the last couple of months I’ve actually stuck to going to the gym. Since having my children, I’ve always tried to fit some kind of movement into my day, sometimes successfully, sometimes… not so much. But after two pregnancies and a few health scares within my family over the years, my view on my health (and the importance of prioritising it) has completely shifted.

It’s only recently that life has aligned in a way that lets me build a proper gym routine, one of the perks of being self-employed (trust me, there are challenges too!). And of course those little self-doubt thoughts creep in: I don’t know what I’m doing… is this even making a difference?

There won’t be any before-and-after pics from me any time soon but I HAVE noticed a big improvement in my energy levels. And honestly, I love having that time to focus on myself while blasting classics tunes from my youth!

I’ve taken the time to educate myself on what types of exercise benefit me most, and the Fitbod app has been a lifesaver, showing me what to do and keeping things varied so I don’t get bored.

And yes, the mum guilt pops up too. The kids always ask where I’m going and why I’m in different clothes, and I explain that I’m going to exercise because I want to be healthy. That in itself is a valuable lesson for them.

(Disclaimer: I didn’t use any of the weights in front of me… I’m not quite there yet )

🌱 Ways You Can Try Mindful Living (Without Extra Tasks)Pick one that feels doable:🌤 1. Anchor to your sensesWhile standi...
16/04/2026

🌱 Ways You Can Try Mindful Living (Without Extra Tasks)

Pick one that feels doable:

🌤 1. Anchor to your senses
While standing at the sink or stirring pasta:
What can I see, hear, feel, smell, or taste?

🚶‍♀️ 2. Choose one daily activity to do more slowly
Buckling a car seat. Walking down the hall. Making your morning drink.
Tiny pauses = nervous system gold.

🌿 3. Do a “micro-breath”
One slow inhale… one long exhale.
That’s it.

🐶 4. Turn an existing routine into a mindful moment
Dog walk. Commute. Shower. The moment you get into bed.
No new tasks, just new awareness.

💬 5. Offer yourself compassionate noticing
“I’m overwhelmed.”
“This moment is hard.”
“I’m doing the best I can.”

Self‑compassion is one of the most effective emotion regulation tools for parents.

At Parental Psychology, our Clinical Psychologist provides supportive, evidence-based guidance to help with challenges s...
13/04/2026

At Parental Psychology, our Clinical Psychologist provides supportive, evidence-based guidance to help with challenges such as:

• Frequent meltdowns or emotional outbursts
• Bedtime or morning routine battles
• Anxiety or school refusal
• Aggression towards you, siblings or peers
• Difficulty following instructions or boundaries
• Big feelings that seem overwhelming for your child (and for you)

We work with you to understand what’s driving the behaviour and develop practical, realistic strategies you can use every day to build calmer, more connected family life.
You don’t have to figure it out alone. Book a session via the link in bio.

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