RedChair

20/07/2025

26/06/2025

I am an A.I. expert. 25plus years experience.

22/06/2025

🧠 The Choice Point: Where Change Begins

There’s a moment—quiet, subtle, often hidden in plain sight—where everything pivots.
A choice point.

It’s the centre of human experience, that space between stimulus and response, where we either avoid or approach.
We either retreat into old patterns or step forward into possibility.

In recovery terms, it's the same moment where we either pick up the drink or pick up the phone.
Freedom from or freedom to.
The drinker or the sober person.
The yin and the yang.

Opposing, but also complementary. Both are parts of us.
Both are possible at any given moment.

And what Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) teaches us—what I’ve seen time and again with clients, and what I know to be true from my own experience—is that psychological flexibility is the skill we all need to navigate these moments.

The capacity to pause, to notice, to choose.
To observe both our internal world and the world around us with insight, soul, and a bit of spiritual depth.

All we can really ask for in this life is a bit of presight, insight, and hindsight.
Enough clarity to do something in the here and now that carries meaning.
That aligns with who we really are—our values, our identity, our authentic self.

Because let’s face it: being human is a wrestle.
To suffer is to be human.

That doesn’t mean we’re broken; it just means we’re alive.

But so much of that suffering comes not from what’s happening, but from how we talk to ourselves.
The internal chatter. The fused stories. The old narratives. The imagined futures.
It’s exhausting.

That’s why I champion ACT. Because it works.
Not in a magic wand sort of way, but in a deeply practical, quietly powerful sort of way.

It helps people get unstuck.
It creates space—space to breathe, move, grow, and act from a place of choice, not compulsion.

But here’s the thing.
While change is possible, it’s rarely done alone.
We need others.

We need people to walk beside us, to challenge us, to listen, to laugh, to mirror our truths.
As a one-to-one therapist, I’ve often found that at a certain point in someone’s growth, something shifts when they find their group—a tribe, a circle, a shared purpose.

There’s

17/06/2025

Please share this. Wonderful opportunity.

📸 There’s still a chance to join us on our next Recovery in Focus project, based in Wrexham and starting on Tuesday 24 June. Contact us today for more info or to book your place.

* learn how to take photos that tell your story of addiction and recovery

* learn photography skills and editing techniques

* build a robust toolkit to support you in long term recovery

* become part of our creative recovery community

Start date is Tuesday 24 June, running every Tuesday for ten weeks. Based at Eternal’s home in Borras this will be mixture of skills workshops and location photo shoots. It’s free, it’s got a fantastic track record and there’s ten places available!

To find out more or to secure your place, contact Jill or Marcus. Or send us a message here.

jill@eternalmedia.co.uk
marcus@eternalmedia.co.uk

~ Jill

15/05/2025

dopamine, addiction, ADHD....it must be 2025

08/05/2025

https://www.redchair.co.uk/the-puzzling-brain/

The Puzzle Brain and how it gets so stuck in the past , the future , often creating anxiety, stress, anger. ...Read on.. it may help

25/04/2025

The Spirit of Sobriety is Sanity and Serenity. Surrender is the Key.

Sobriety isn't simply about abstaining from substances; it's about reclaiming sanity and finding serenity within. At its core, sobriety is a return to clear thinking, a restoration of calm in our minds and hearts.

Sanity is the clarity to see ourselves and our lives without distortion, to recognise what is truly valuable. Serenity is the peace that comes from accepting life exactly as it unfolds, free from the endless struggle to control everything around us.

But how do we access this spirit of sobriety? The answer is simple but profound: surrender.

Surrender isn't weakness—it is a courageous act of acceptance. It is the willingness to let go of our illusions of control, to stop fighting ourselves and our circumstances. In surrender, we find freedom, we rediscover purpose, and we reconnect with what truly matters.

The spirit of sobriety emerges when we stop resisting and start living fully in the reality of the present moment, aligning our actions with our deepest values.

Sanity. Serenity. Surrender. This is the heart of sobriety.