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21/09/2025

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18/09/2025

The Restless Mind That Won’t Let a Decision Settle

I was sitting with someone the other day, {ME and my MIND} and they described their mind like a plate of spaghetti — tangled, looping back on itself, never quite landing.

Every time they tried to make a decision — something as small as choosing a font, or as big as starting the first sentence of a piece of writing — the mind jumped in: “Not that one. Maybe this one. No, go back. You’ll regret that choice.”

It wasn’t laziness. It wasn’t even really procrastination. It was this restless sense of never enough. A decision never felt finished, so the task never felt possible. What followed was frustration, self-criticism, and finally… walking away.

I imagine a lot of us know that feeling.

Here’s the thing: that itch for “just right” will probably always be there. The trick isn’t to silence it or get rid of it — because if that worked, we’d all be done by now. The trick is learning how to carry it differently.

One small shift is this: instead of asking, “Is this the perfect choice?”, ask, “Does this move me in the direction I care about?” If your value is creating, sharing, or connecting, then sometimes “good enough” is already serving that value.

And when the mind demands you fix or fiddle forever, you can try this:

Pick one option.

Set a timer (five minutes, ten minutes).

Say gently to yourself: “I’m choosing momentum over perfection.”

And let the itch of dissatisfaction ride along without steering the wheel.

It won’t feel comfortable. But it might feel freeing.

Sometimes the greatest act of self-care is letting “unfinished” or “imperfect” still be enough to move forward.

15/09/2025

The Man with the Compass and the Vane. By Bill Stevens
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A man set out each morning, holding a curious device: a compass with a weather vane fixed above it.

The weather vane spun constantly. Winds shifted, storms rose, breezes calmed. It turned East, West, South, North — always moving. The vane was an honest reflection of his inner weather systems: thoughts, feelings, sensations. Ever changing, never still.

Beneath it lay the compass. Unlike the vane, it did not spin with the weather. Its needle pointed North, steady, constant. The compass was his chosen perspective — his values, his direction, his truth — no matter the storms above.

And then there were his feet. The vane reflected, the compass pointed, but only his feet could move. The feet carried choice. Each step could take him East into the light of his values, West into the shadow of his vices, South into consequences, or North towards the star that guided him.

The man could not command the weather, nor still the vane. But each day, with compass in hand and feet upon the ground, he chose his path and walked into life as it came.

12/09/2025

HALT.
Hungry. Angry. Lonely. Tired.
Or —
Honesty. Acceptance. Love. Trust.

I don’t see the world the way it is.
I see the world the way I am.

That’s the pivot.
Pause. Notice. Choose.

06/09/2025

Apathy

Quote:
“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command.” – Napoleon Hill

ACT Element:
Committed Action.
Apathy tells us to wait for the perfect mood, the perfect moment. But ACT teaches us that meaningful change begins in imperfect moments, with small steps guided by values.

Daily Task:
Choose one value-driven action you’ve been postponing. Do the smallest version of it today—even if motivation is low.
Reflect: What shifted when I acted first, instead of waiting for motivation to arrive?

Metaphor:
A stone at rest on a hill needs only the smallest push to begin rolling. Once it moves, momentum carries it further than expected.

23/08/2025

🌟 Freedom From. Freedom To. 🌟

Are you sober, neurodivergent, or simply someone who knows you’re “not average” — ADHD, autistic, an addict in recovery — and want to turn your sobriety into a springboard for a new path?

You’re not alone. Many of us have a dream, a vision, a passion… but also the frustration of feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure how to make it real.

That’s why I’m starting the Soberpreneurial® Group — Tuesday mornings in Wilmslow.
A safe, supportive place to share, connect, and take those first steps towards building a life and work that truly aligns with your purpose.

This is an embryonic project — my own passion, purpose, and project — and I’m inviting you to be part of it as we grow together.

👉 Curious? Interested? Visit www.soberpreneurial.com
to see the beginnings.
📧 Email me at hello@soberpreneurial.com
to apply or find out more.

Let’s build a future that’s more than just sober — let’s build one where we flourish, thrive, and fly

26/07/2025

The Domino Effect: Recovery or Relapse – Which Line Will You Set in Motion?

At any given moment, we stand at a choice point.

In front of us are two lines of dominoes. One leads to relapse. The other to recovery. Both are set up. Both are waiting. And it’s up to us which one we choose to tip.

The First Domino Matters Most
Imagine you're staring at a huge domino display—one of those elaborate competition-style setups. On one side of the room is the relapse path: domino after domino, a long trail that tumbles towards despair, regret, and the familiar patterns of addiction. It starts with one small act: a drink, a message, a scroll, a search. One is too many, a thousand never enough.

On the other side, there's a recovery path: dominoes that fall in the direction of support, progress, connection, meaning, and life. It also starts with a single act: calling your sponsor, walking into a meeting, choosing the quiet of reflection instead of the noise of escape. Simple. Difficult. Important.

Stop Before You Start
Here's the catch: the choice happens before the first push. You’re not falling yet. You’re facing the choice of whether to push anything at all. It’s that split second—perhaps even that split hour—where you stop, breathe, and decide.

Every relapse has a beginning. And every recovery does too.

What Does Your First Domino Look Like?
For some, the first relapse domino might be:

Re-downloading TikTok or Instagram for a dopamine hit

Texting a familiar number “just to check in”

Heading to a pub “just for a soft drink”

Scrolling old photos or visiting triggering websites

And for recovery?

Phoning a friend in sobriety

Opening your ACT Today journal

Reading a Daily Reflection

Putting your trainers on for a walk instead of reaching for your wallet

Attending that meeting you didn’t feel like going to

Both paths require an action. Both start somewhere.

Momentum Builds Fast
Dominoes don’t fall slowly. They gain speed with each knock. That’s true of relapse. And it’s true of recovery. What starts as a small act—either way—quickly gains energy, force, and direction.

That’s why your first act matters so much. It sets everything else in motion.

Build Your Recovery Domino Line
This metaphor isn’t just a mental image. You can build it out practically. List your personal “first domino” recovery actions and keep them visible:

What helps you stop before you start?

What does your recovery domino look like today?

What dominoes would you like to line up next?

Start with one act. Let it tip into another. And then another. And keep going.