The Relationship Therapy Practice

09/09/2025

What other therapist cliches have you heard?

16/07/2025

Criticism & defensiveness are two of the biggest issues in a relationship and can really threaten the quality of a couple. Here’s some tips about what you can do to break this cycle.

16/06/2025

When you’re in the middle of an argument, pause and ask yourself — what am I actually fighting for here?
Is it to be heard? To feel respected? To feel close again?
Most arguments aren’t really about the dishwasher or the tone — they’re about unmet needs underneath.

💬 Try this: “I got snappy, but what I really needed was to feel like we’re on the same team.”

🔁 Less defensiveness, more connection.

08/06/2025

🔥 Understanding Female Desire Isn’t Just About Libido 🔥
It’s about brakes and accelerators. 🧠💥

Swipe through to learn about the Dual Control Model—a science-backed way to understand what turns desire on and what shuts it down, especially for women.

✅ This isn’t about being “broken”
✅ It is about tuning into your body and context
✅ And it might just change how you understand intimacy forever

Tag someone who needs to see this 💌 and ask me a question below! ⬇️
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02/05/2024

Get £25 off with our MayDay Discount 😀 -

We love a good discount and are delighted to offer a whopping £25 off to all new clients booking an Initial Assessment Session with us this month.

29/02/2024

Leap Year Day Sale! - https://mailchi.mp/0b5462f428de/50-off-in-our-leap-year-day-sale Get a whopping **£50 off** your Initial Assessment Session!

12/02/2024

Read my new article about intimacy after kids- live on the HuffPost website right now!

Maintaining connection, even when you're absolutely exhausted.

02/08/2023

🌟Join us- tomorrow Thursday 3rd August 8pm BST🌟

⚡️I’m so excited to be doing an insta live with the amazing Aby Tobin

⚡️ Aby is a leading Pelvic Health & Exercise Specialist Physiotherapist, empowering women with information about their bodies and how they can best take care of it at every stage of life

⚡️ Aby and I met through being Experts on the team at and we love sharing our wealth of knowledge on insta to new audiences, and reducing the stigma around talking about pelvic issues and s3xual health.

⚡️ Working closely with a pelvic health physio is a key part of being a psychos*xual therapist so I’m really looking forward to sharing how our worlds overlap and how we can support women and all v***a owners to improve their s3xual wellbeing

⚡️We’ll be talking all things v***a, s3xual pain, pelvic floor exercises, prolapse, birth recovery and more and we would love to take some of your questions too!

⚡️ Feel free to DM me with anything you’d like to us to discuss

⚡️See you tomorrow!

10/05/2023

What will it take to help you turn your No 🛑 into a yes ✅ ?

We shouldn’t be afraid to use our No- it keeps all intimacy consensual and safe. ❤️

But sometimes in loving relationships we can feel sad if we are always saying no as our default, and it can cause a cycle of rejection and avoidance. 😞

So instead of automatically going to no, can you ask yourself what you might say yes to?
What you might be willing towards? 🙃

What you might be motivated to do instead?

A touch 🖐🏼? A kiss 💋 ? A hug 🤗 ? There is so much more to intimacy than just PIV!😛

So, next time you go to say no, what else might you say yes to instead? 💕

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30/03/2023

I joined the lovely Peachy With Zoe for her podcast this month- please do watch it here and enjoy our chat about all things s*x and relationships !

This is "Elinor Harvey Relationship Therapist" by Zoe Warren on Vimeo, the home for high quality videos and the people who love them.

23/02/2023

I did a podcast with The S*xEd Mum! Do tune in if you’re interested in my thoughts on helping children understand healthy relationships, s*x education and generally being kind to ourselves as parents ❤️

‎Show The S*xEd Mum, Ep Talking about healthy relationships with Elinor Harvey - 1 Feb 2023

21/02/2023

🦔Do you want to play find the hedgehog? 🦔Which parts of your inner hedgehog do you show to your partner?
🦔And which parts do you expect to find in them?
🦔 See what happens if you look for the lovely little soft fluffy hedgehog belly, instead of focusing on their spikes.