Remade in Therapy

Remade in Therapy Psychotherapist & Trauma Specialist

24/01/2026

When a negative thought slips into your mind (you know the sort - the quiet one that whispers you're not enough, or that everything will go wrong), pause. Don't fight it. Don't ignore it. Simply notice it... and then deliberately call up three positive ones to meet it head-on.

One for gratitude - perhaps the warmth of your morning cuppa, or the way a friend always checks in.
One for strength - a small win from yesterday that proves you can handle more than you think.
One for possibility - something you're looking forward to, even if it's tiny, like fresh bedding or a walk in the park.

This isn't about toxic positivity or pretending life is perfect. It's about balance. It's training your mind like a muscle. Left unchecked, negativity crowds the room and starts feeling like truth. But when you actively flip the script, you remind yourself that your thoughts aren't facts - they're choices.

Over time those three positives become habit. The negative visitor still knocks, but it no longer lingers alone. It gets outnumbered. And slowly the whole atmosphere in your head begins to shift.

What if the real power isn't in never having dark thoughts... but in refusing to let them have the last word?

Next time one arrives, try it. Three positives. Right there and then. Your mind will thank you for the gentle rebellion.

23/01/2026

What if your brightest energy became a quiet boundary? Not through confrontation or cold shoulders, but simply by refusing to dim your light to match someone else's shadow.

Negativity often craves company. It feeds on shared complaints, eye-rolls over small setbacks, the familiar comfort of "everything's rubbish anyway". Yet genuine positivity disrupts that rhythm. When you greet rain with "perfect for cosy mugs of tea", when you spot opportunity in delay rather than disaster, when your default is gratitude instead of grumbling, something shifts. The air changes. The conversation falters. Those who thrive on gloom suddenly feel out of place, like they've wandered into sunlight wearing dark sunglasses.

This isn't about faking cheer or ignoring real struggles. Life can throw enough hardship without the need for us to manufacture more. It's about choosing where you invest your focus. Positivity isn't naive optimism. It's a deliberate stance, a refusal to let cynicism become the soundtrack of your days. And yes, it can feel radical. In a world quick to point out flaws, staying buoyant can almost seem rebellious.

The beautiful irony? The more consistently you embody that brightness, the less you need to push anyone away. They drift off naturally. Your vibe no longer offers the low-vibration fuel they seek. Meanwhile, different people appear - the ones who match your wavelength, who celebrate wins instead of minimising them, who lift rather than drain.

So go ahead. Laugh louder at the absurd. Find silver linings without apology. Speak hope like it's already happening. Let your positivity be so steady, so unshakeable, that it gently repels what no longer serves you.

Because the right people won't be scared off by your light. They'll be drawn to it. And the rest? They'll simply find the room too bright to stay.

Keep shining. The world needs more of that kind of boundary.

22/01/2026

Real change rarely arrives with fanfare. It is built in the quiet hours when motivation has long since left the room, when you are broke and still choosing the cheaper meal to save for something better, when exhaustion makes every step feel heavy yet you lace up anyway, when fear whispers that it is pointless and you answer by showing up regardless.

Nobody applauds the reps you force out alone at the gym. Nobody high-fives you for saying no to the impulse buy, for reading one more page, for journaling the ugly thoughts instead of burying them. The world only notices once the results become impossible to ignore, once the body has changed, the debt has shrunk, the mind has steadied, the life has steadied.

And by then, the applause feels almost secondary.

Because the deepest reward was never the clapping. It was the proof to yourself that you could be trusted with your own promises. That you did not need external validation to keep going. That you were willing to fix what was broken even when it hurt, even when it was lonely, even when no one else cared.

So if today feels invisible, if the effort seems thankless, remember this. The version of you who keeps showing up, broke, tired, scared, alone, is already winning the only competition that truly matters, the one against yesterday's excuses.

Keep going. One day the results will speak so loudly that the world cannot help but listen. But long before that, you will have already become someone you respect.

And that quiet self-respect? It echoes louder than any crowd ever could.

21/01/2026

In so many relationships, the moment someone opens up about how they feel, a quiet but crucial fork appears in the road. One path treats those feelings as communication like an honest signal, a chance to understand the other person more deeply. The other path hears only complaints i.e. something inconvenient, something to deflect, fix quickly, or silence so the discomfort passes.

The difference lies not in who is correct, but in the posture each person takes. Curiosity says, “I want to know what this means to you.” It asks gentle questions, listens without rushing to solutions, and sees emotions as important information about your inner world. Defensiveness, by contrast, often replies with “You’re overreacting,” “It’s not that bad,” or simply changing the subject.

Over months and years, these small moments accumulate into something profound. When feelings are repeatedly dismissed, trust frays. People begin to self-censor, to rehearse what they will say so it sounds less “needy,” or they stop sharing altogether. The relationship becomes a performance in that everyone is playing the part of “fine” while the real connection quietly starves. When feelings are met with genuine interest and understanding, however, the opposite happens. Safety grows. You learn that you can be tired, anxious, angry, or simply uncertain without having to justify your existence or apologise for taking up space. That is the soil in which real intimacy takes root.

The right person does not demand that you always be easy, upbeat, or low-maintenance. They do not love a sanitised version of you. They want the unfiltered one, the one who sometimes cries in the kitchen, who feels things intensely, who needs to talk things through even when there is no tidy answer. They lean in because understanding you, truly hearing you, is one of the ways they show love.

Anything less than that is companionship in name only. It may look like a relationship from the outside, but it lacks the courage and generosity that intimacy requires.

So choose, the person who listens whilst protecting your heart.

20/01/2026

Every "yes" you whisper to what secretly exhausts you is a small, silent vote against your future self.
It's not always dramatic, no one is forcing you. It's the extra meeting you accept out of guilt, the favour you grant because saying no feels rude, the late-night scroll you allow because stopping feels like admitting defeat. Each one feels minor in the moment. Yet together they slowly redraw the map of your life, steering you away from the version of you that burns brighter, creates deeper, rests easier.
The self you're "dying to become" isn't waiting for permission or a perfect opportunity. They're already inside you, quietly suffocating under the weight of obligations you never truly chose. Every time you say yes to drain, you hand them another heavy stone.
The antidote isn't grand rebellion. It's the small, uncomfortable courage to say "no" - not out of selfishness, but out of fierce loyalty to who you're meant to be.
Because the life you want isn't built by adding more. It's revealed by subtracting what doesn't belong.

Which "yes" are you ready to turn into a loving, deliberate "no" today?

19/01/2026

The sun doesn't judge what it touches. It doesn't selectively warm the beautiful flower while ignoring the w**d, nor does it force growth or demand change. It simply shines, steadily and without condition. In that impartial light, colours deepen, shadows sharpen, and life stirs, sometimes gently, sometimes dramatically.

So it is with awareness. When we turn toward our anger, fear, joy, or boredom with clear, nonjudging attention, something shifts. The emotion is no longer a dark, shapeless mass lurking in the mind. It becomes visible, defined, and crucially impermanent. The very act of seeing it without resistance or clinging begins to loosen its grip.

Think of a hidden hurt carried for years. In the shadows of avoidance, it festers, growing heavier, more tangled. But bring mindful awareness to it, like sunlight entering a dim room and the hurt doesn't vanish instantly, yet it transforms. It reveals its origins, its messages, its fragility. Pain that once controlled us can become understanding; reactivity can soften into compassion.

The same holds for ordinary moments such as washing dishes, walking, breathing. When awareness shines on them, the mundane becomes vivid and sacred. Nothing external changes, yet everything feels alive, interconnected, worthy of presence.

The quiet provocation in Thich Nhat Hanh's words is this: What in your life have you left in the dark? What might soften, open, or reveal its true nature if you simply allowed the sun of awareness to shine on it - without hurry, without agenda?

No force required. Just light.

18/01/2026

Many of us were raised in a world where rest wore the mask of failure.
It wasn’t recovery, it was rebellion against the only currency that mattered i.e. output.
Productivity became proof of love, sacrifice the signature of worth.
So we learned to run on fumes, to apologise for needing to breathe, to feel the first flicker of guilt the moment our hands stopped moving.

The cruelest part?
That shame didn’t vanish when we grew up and left home.
It simply moved in with us like a quiet, familiar voice that whispering: “Real adults don’t pause. Real adults don’t need.”

Yet rest is not laziness in disguise.
It is the body’s quiet rebellion against a lie we were told too early.
It is medicine disguised as stillness.
It is permission we never received so we must now give it to ourselves.

Look at the child who once believed stopping meant disappearing, and offer her the gentleness she was denied.

You were never lazy for needing rest.
You were human and you still are.
Let that truth settle in, soft as sunlight on skin.

17/01/2026

Most of us spend years perfecting the art of escape.
We scroll, numb, achieve, rationalise, spiritual-bypass, stay busy, drink, achieve some more, basically do anything to keep the raw ache at arm's length.
We tell ourselves we're "moving on" when what we're really doing is moving around.
Yet evolution doesn't happen in the detour.
It happens in the exact place we most want to leave.

Presence isn't passive; it's the fiercest form of activity there is.The pain hasn't disappeared.
The person has simply stopped adding the second, unnecessary arrow of resistance and self-rejection.
The paradox is brutal and beautiful.
The moment you stop trying to outrun the hurt is the moment it loses its deepest power over you.
Not because the hurt vanishes but because you stop vanishing.
That’s where the real metamorphosis begins, not in the absence of fire,
but in learning to sit inside the blaze without burning your own soul to ash.
The phoenix doesn’t rise by pretending there was never a fire.
It rises because it stayed.
And so do we.

16/01/2026

Your hardest season isn’t punishment.
It’s the brutal architect of the life you’ll later call “dream."

Look at the people living what looks like effortless freedom - the quiet confidence, the choices, the peace.
Trace it back far enough and you almost always find the same unmarked grave:
a season they thought would break them.

The nights they cried in the car.
The mornings they forced themselves to get up when everything screamed stay down.
The friendships that died.
The version of themselves they had to bury.

That pain didn’t just hurt - it carved.
It removed softness that would have kept them small.
It burned away dependencies.
It taught muscle memory for resilience.

And here’s the quiet cruelty/beauty of it...
The same storm that felt endless was secretly laying foundation stones you can only stand on later.

So when today feels like it’s trying to kill you, remember...
You’re not being punished.
You’re being prepared.

And the version of you that walks out the other side?
It won’t just survive the dream life.
It’ll feel like you were built for it.

Because you were.

Keep going.
The view is coming.

15/01/2026

That single line lands like a stone dropped into still water.
Most modern conversation has become transaction. Efficient. Sanitised. Emoji-stamped receipts of emotion rather than the emotion itself.

But there was, once, a tongue made of pulse and weather.
Words that arrived wet with grief, sharp with wonder, heavy with the smell of someone else's skin after a long absence. A language that didn't explain feeling so much as re-open the wound of it, on purpose, because only open wounds can heal.

We traded that tongue for something lighter, faster, safer.
We learned to say "I'm fine" in seventeen dialects while our chest quietly caves in. We mastered the art of being precisely misunderstood so no one has to stay too long in the uncomfortable weather of real feeling.

And now, when someone still speaks in the old dead language, when their sentences bleed a little, hesitate, reach, tremble, we stare at them the way tourists stare at hieroglyphs - fascinated, polite, utterly unable to read what is written.

They don't understand you, not because you're unclear,
but because they have forgotten the alphabet of vulnerability.
The grammar of unguarded breath.
The syntax of sentences that risk being felt instead of merely received.

So when they look at you blankly, don't mistake silence for rejection.
It's closer to exile.
They're standing on the other side of a wall they helped build,
listening to music they no longer recognise as music.

And maybe that's the quietest tragedy of our time:
not that we no longer speak the old language, but that we have almost convinced ourselves
we never really needed it.

15/01/2026

Butterflies live their entire lives never knowing the impossible colours painted across their wings.
To them, those wings are just tools for flight - functional, ordinary, necessary.
They have no mirror.
No reflection.
No moment where they pause and think, "God, look at that."

And yet every day, the rest of the world stops to stare.

We are the same.

The parts of ourselves we judge most harshly, the softness we hide, the quirks we apologise for, the dreams we call “silly”, the quiet strength we think is nothing special are often the very things that leave other people quietly astonished.

You might spend years convinced your light is too small, too dim, too ordinary.
Meanwhile someone else is keeping your words in their head like a favourite song.
Someone else remembers the way you laughed that one Tuesday afternoon when everything was falling apart.
Someone else still feels warmer because you existed in their orbit for a while.

We are all butterflies to someone else’s sky.

And perhaps the bravest thing we can do isn’t to finally see our own wings the way others do… but to trust, even just a little that the beauty is there whether we can see it or not.

Because it is.

And someone, right now, is already looking at you in wonder.

15/01/2026

Consider this for a moment:
The chair you're sitting on feels perfectly solid.
Yet physics whispers that it's mostly empty space and the tiny fraction that isn't empty is screaming with motion. Electrons dance, nuclei quiver, quantum fields shimmer. What you call "solid" is simply vibration slowed down enough, organised enough, to trick your senses into agreement.

Now listen.
That low hum you sometimes feel in your chest when music is loud, the shiver when a note hits just right, that's vibration literally touching you. Sound waves ripple through air, through flesh, through bone, until they become feeling. The boundary between "outside" and "inside" you is far more porous than we admit.

And then there are thoughts.

We still speak of them as weightless, ethereal, almost unreal.
But every idea that has ever moved you, terrified you, or made you cry in the dark began as patterns of electrochemical vibration tiny storms of sodium and potassium ions racing along axons at speeds that would embarrass most sports cars.
Your most profound realisation, your worst memory, your secret hope… all of them are, at root, orchestrated tremors in wet, pink tissue.

So perhaps the old mystics weren't being poetic after all.
Maybe they were being unusually literal.

Everything, the mountain, the melody, the memory, the moment of sudden forgiveness is vibration at different frequencies, different amplitudes, different densities of organisation.

Which means the distance between you and the world is not as great as it appears.
You're not separate from the music; you're a temporary arrangement of the same dancing energy, listening to itself.

And when someone says "I feel you" and really means it…
they probably do.

Literally.

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