Nicky Elmer Hypnotherapy

07/09/2025

I’ve been thinking about cancellations and rescheduling lately. A lot of people in my line of work get really strict about it. And I do get why. When you’re self employed, a missed appointment can mean earning less that week, and if things are already tight, that feels stressful.

But the way I see it, life happens. People forget. We double book. We get sick. Sometimes money is tight and you simply can’t stretch it that week. I’ve got ADHD and only the other day I realised I’d completely forgotten to put my hair appointment in the diary before I went away. I felt awful, apologised, and thankfully my hairdresser was kind about it. That kindness meant the world, because it reminded me we’re all human.

For me, creating a space of understanding and compassion is far more important than sticking rigidly to rules. Because when we let each other be human, something softens. There’s less shame, less guilt, and more room for honesty.

It doesn’t mean I don’t value my time. Of course I do. But I value kindness too. And the truth is, I’d rather work in a way that reflects that.

02/07/2025

I saw a headline earlier that really got to me.
Coco Gauff goes down in shocking first-round Wimbledon upset.

And I just sat there thinking… she’s a teenager. A human being. A world-class athlete who had a rough day. That’s not shocking. That’s life.
But the way it was written - like she’d failed, like her whole identity could be flattened into one bad match- it hit something deeper.

Because that’s the pressure so many of us carry too, isn’t it?
To get it right. To be brilliant. To never slip up or fall short.
Like the second we’re not performing at 100%, we’ve somehow let everyone down.

And it made me wonder… what would life feel like if that pressure wasn’t there?
If we didn’t have to be amazing all the time, just to feel okay?
Honestly, I think we’d all breathe a bit easier.

02/07/2025

If you live in the area, I highly recommend Shell at White Feather Wellness. I have been to see her for Reiki and other treatments and I have attended her sounbaths and can honestly she is amazing. She is a lovely kind lady and you leave feeling like the weight of the world has been lifted from your shoulders.

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Past Life Healer
Soul Midwife
Meditation Practitioner
Spiritual Life Coach

01/07/2025

Sometimes you can’t explain why you feel off.
You just know something isn’t right.

That’s okay.

You don’t need the perfect words to reach out.
You don’t need to justify why you’re struggling.
You don’t even need to know exactly what you need yet.

That’s what we figure out together in hypnotherapy.

If you want to talk it through, gently—this is the link:
👉 https://nickyelmer.co.uk/calendly-booking

30/06/2025

If you read my posts and think,
“This feels like a cuppa with someone who gets it...”
That’s exactly what my Patreon is like—just deeper, softer, more consistent.

Support that doesn’t talk at you.
Just sits beside you, reminds you of your strength, and helps you feel a little less alone in your own head.

Have a look around. It might be just the kind of support you didn’t know you needed.

👉 https://patreon.com/Mindmattersne

27/06/2025

I am obsessed with neuroscience and lately I’ve been loving the work of Dr Ethan Kross. He studies the voice in our heads. That running commentary we all carry, especially when we’re anxious or overwhelmed. The noise that gets loudest when we most need peace.

One of his tips really stuck with me. It’s simple, but powerful.

When your thoughts start to feel all-consuming, try zooming out in time. Not with judgement, just gentle curiosity.

How might this feel in a week? A month? A year?

I used it the other day when I was spiralling over something small that somehow felt huge. My whole system reacted like it was a crisis. But when I paused and asked myself what this would mean to me in six months, something shifted.
The moment didn’t vanish. But it softened.

And sometimes, that’s enough.

Is there anything you’re carrying today that might feel different from a little further away?

24/06/2025

You know that version of “fine” where you’re smiling, replying to messages, doing all the things…
but inside you feel frayed, restless, or completely numb?

That’s who I work with.

Not always the people in crisis—
People who’ve been quietly holding it together for too long.

My hypnotherapy sessions aren’t about fixing you.
They’re about helping you feel more like yourself again.

If you’re ready for that, we can start with a simple chat:
👉 https://nickyelmer.co.uk/calendly-booking

23/06/2025

I’ve had days where everything felt heavy.
Where I couldn’t think straight, and my brain wouldn’t stop buzzing, and I didn’t want to talk about it, I just wanted something to help.

That’s what I built inside Patreon.
Little things that calm the chaos.
A soft voice in the noise.
Something that doesn’t ask anything from you, but quietly supports you, without needing you to explain anything.

If you’re going through it, or just quietly exhausted…
You don’t have to carry it all alone.

https://patreon.com/Mindmattersne

19/06/2025

I love how my brain waits all day to get productive…
…then suddenly wants to solve world peace
at exactly the moment I lie down to sleep.

“Oh, NOW you want to be helpful?”

Where was this energy
when I was staring at the washing up?
Or trying to remember what I walked into the room for?

Nope.
It waits until bedtime.
Lurks quietly all day,
then goes full TED Talk the second I want to rest.

18/06/2025

You can look like you’re coping and still feel like your mind never stops.

Still functioning. Still holding it all together.
But under the surface? Exhausted. Wired. Always bracing for the next thing.
Your thoughts don’t slow down. Your chest feels tight.
You go to bed tired but can’t switch off.
You wake up already overwhelmed.

It might not look like anxiety.
But it feels like pressure. Like restlessness. Like always being “on.”

That’s the space I work in.

Hypnotherapy isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about helping your system gently learn a different way—one that doesn’t run on overthinking and burnout.

If that sounds like something you need, you can book a free consultation, link in comments.

17/06/2025

🌿 A free gift this month—no strings, no pressure 🌿

I’m opening the doors to my Patreon for a full month—free access, no card details, no expectations.

Just a gentle space to land if life’s been feeling heavy lately.

This isn’t your typical wellbeing group.
There’s no “do this to feel better.”
No to-do lists or pressure to improve yourself.
No shiny perfection or performative positivity.

Mind Matters is something quieter.
A place to be real.
To take what you need, when you need it.
To feel gently supported without being told how to feel, or who to be.
A place to help you feel like you again.

Inside you’ll find:

- Honest, heartfelt daily reflections
- A growing library of hypnosis & relaxation audios
- Calming videos each week
- 4-week courses on anxiety, sleep, and stress
- Monthly group hypnosis sessions (HypnoRelax on Zoom)

Normally £10 a month but for now, you can try it completely free.
No payment info needed. Access just ends after the month unless you decide to stay.

I don’t share from a pedestal.
I share as someone who’s been through it—who still has wobbles, still learns, still forgets her own advice sometimes.

Here’s the link if you’d like to come have a quiet look around:
👉 https://www.patreon.com/Mindmattersne/redeem/5D115

You don’t have to show up a certain way.
You don’t have to do it all.
Just breathe.
And maybe read something soft on a hard day.

That’s more than enough.

You don’t have to show up a certain way.
You don’t have to do it all.
Just breathe.
And maybe read something soft on a hard day.

That’s more than enough.

16/06/2025

Sometimes I think about the version of me from a few years ago.
The one who was holding so much, smiling politely, and quietly falling apart.

And I wish she’d had something like this.

That’s really why I created my Patreon.
It’s not a place to fix yourself.
It’s a space to breathe.
To feel understood.
To not have to pretend you're okay when you're not.

If that sounds like something you’ve been needing lately…
You’re very welcome in there.

https://patreon.com/Mindmattersne