Lucy the Mindset Coach

04/05/2026

01/05/2026

There’s a familiar pattern that I often see in women who make change in their lives that really sticks and lasts, versus the women who seem to get stuck in the same exhausting cycle, over and over again. 🔁

It’s never been about motivation. It’s not about your levels of self confidence. And even though I LOVE them, it’s not even really about boundaries, either.

So what IS it about?

It’s about SAFETY. Something we talk about a lot. You hear it alot in certain spaces on the internet. I talk about it a lot, and I work with clients on this topic - a lot. ✨

So the pattern I see is that those women that have help and support to learn how to make their nervous system (the thing that is literally there to keep us alive) feel safe MAKE MORE PROGRESS. They see real shifts. They’re finally able to do things differently. 🙌

The women who perhaps don’t focus on this find it so much harder to use the tools and techniques. It feels like every boundary script fails, and every people-pleasing exercise doesn’t work. Because your poor little body is overriding what you are trying to change, every single time - until it feels safe. 😭

Deep down, you already KNOW that you shouldn’t say yes to all of the things. You know you’re exhausted, and you’re doing too much, and you really need rest. Real, proper rest. And yet, here we are my friend.

I know that, if you’re one of these women, you probably blame yourself for yet another thing that you failed at, or ‘can’t do properly’.

But friend, lemme tell you something.
Knowledge without nervous system safety is just more information you can’t use. 🛑

This is the basis of everything I teach, so if something in this post resonated with you, save it and share it with a friend. And then register for the live training on 6th May. The link is in my bio, and I’d genuinely really love to see you there.

Biggest love
L💖

01/05/2026

The last week or so has been some level of bu****it, my friends.

I feel so stuck. So paralysed. So small, flat and .... dryyyyyy.

Not selling. Not earning. Not growing. Even this post feels uncomfortable because there's no CTA (call to action), link, or sales pitch included. I'm 'wasting an opportunity'.

But I didn't want to sell today. I wanted to share. I wanted to share in case someone else who is feeling like this sees my post, and feels a little less alone. Knows that it's not a 'them thing'. It's an 'us' thing.

I know it will pass. I know this isn't forever. I know that I have the tools I need but for real, actually using them is taking every last shred of energy I have, because all I want to do is stay on my sofa, with tv, my doggo and snacks, and pretend the world isn't happening right now.

And that is totally fine. If that's what it takes to get me back up again, I'm all for it. If I need to hibernate for a little while to get refreshed, I'm going to lean in. I'm going to be still, and quiet, and I'm going to listen, because I know my body will tell me what I need.

If you're reading this and you're going through it too - I see you friend.
Hang in there.
We're going to be okay.

Biggest love
L💖

08/04/2026

Just a teeny reminder that my brand new FREE live training is tonight at 8pm - and there's still time to register!

So if you're a woman who often finds herself saying YES when you would much prefer to say NO .... this is for you!!! The link to register is in the comments.

Join me tonight at 8pm to learn the super simple shift that is going to change your life and help you say no without feeling like everyone will hate you.

Biggest love, seeya later!
L

07/04/2026

This is your gentle Lucy reminder that you don’t need another course, read another self-help book, or download another podcast. 📻

You already know when the answer is no. You can feel it straight away - the stomach drop, the feeling of dread, the little inner voice that screams please don’t make me.

You don’t have a problem KNOWING when. You have a permission problem.

And that’s not a ‘you failing at life’ thing. That’s a nervous-system-doing-its-job thing. It’s there to keep you safe and it quite often can’t tell the difference between perceived threats (saying no) and REAL PROBLEMS. ⚠️

But you’re closer than you think, my friend - so much closer. You already have the word no, it’s already there. We just need to make it feel safe enough for you to say out loud. ✨

Come to my free live training - Why You Say Yes When You Really Mean No - and we can start there, together. Link in comments.

Biggest Easter love
L 🐣

02/04/2026

If you'd asked me a month ago, I'd have told you I'm GREAT at saying no. That I never say yes when I really mean no. That I never override my gut feeling when it's screaming NO at me.

That's a lie.

And I was truly humbled into seeing this in all it's technicolour glory about 3 weeks ago.

I recently had a micro-fringe cut in an effort to help me be more playful (something I struggle with). I'm actually obsessed with it, and have had some lovely compliments so it was a 10/10 move.

However, I also have no patience and get obsessive about my hair being 'good', so I want my fringe cut back in every 10 minutes ... which is how this all started.

My fringe had grown out a fair bit and looked untidy, I'd just accidentally permanently deleted most of the content I'd created for my brand new course Self Growth 101, and I was a bit fed up (understatement of the year). So I decided that getting my fringe done would cheer me up. Which all would have been fine .....
... EXCEPT....
...my hairdresser wasn't available for a few days, so I decided I'd risk a walk-in salon in town.

I was called over to an available chair, and the lovely lady in question asked what I was in for. When I told her she instantly looked nervous and admitted TO MY FACE in plain English that she'd not done it before and was really nervous.

My gut started to churn, my hands went cold, and instantly I felt scared. She clearly didn't want to do it, she'd been really clear that this wasn't her wheelhouse, and I wasn't in a rush and had no events coming up, so the best decision would probably be to thank her, leave, and wait for my own brilliant hairdresser. Right?

So I turned to the lady in question and said brightly 'Oh don't worry about it .... I'm sure you'll be absolutely fine! And It's only hair, what's the worst that can happen???!!!!!"

WHHHHAAATTTTT NOW?????????

Like an out of body experience, I could see and hear myself telling her this, and I'm literally SCREAMING inside 'do not do this Lucy'. Instead, I sit down in the offered chair, and sit quietly and politely while this poor woman absolutely butchers my fringe.

She cuts a bit of hair that shouldn't be short, it's not straight, she's ignored my advice that the left side needs to stay longer as it bounces up and .... well. Friends. I look like someone cut my hair with a lawnmower.

So I stand up, thank her profusely, pay whilst congratulating her on her 'great job', leave, get in my car and SOB MY HEART OUT.

I'd like to remind you all that at no point was any of this the hairdresser's fault. This is totally on me.

In that moment, where I had a choice I could make, my nervous system DIDN'T choose. It REACTED. With no information and no regulation, it went for safety. Be polite, be nice, say yes and stay safe. And as a result, I had to live with a fringe that made me cry for 3 weeks.

Thankfully, I can laugh about it.
But I know that women everywhere say yes to things DAILY that make them feel sick, make their stomachs drop, and sometimes make them want to cry ... when all they really want is to be able to say 'no thank you'.

If you often find yourself saying yes when you really mean no, I've got a free live training coming up next week, where I'll be showing you:

Why you say yes automatically - even when you’re already exhausted
Why saying no feels so hard (even when you’re burnt out)
The simple skill that helps you pause before you answer

The link is in the comments, and I'd really love to see you there.

Biggest love
Lucy ❤️

24/03/2026

Yaaaayyy!!!

There's finally a new live training ... I've been so excited to bring this one to you and it's now ready to rock and roll.

That work project that you really don't have capacity for?
That social invite that you really want to decline?
That family thing that you really don't want to go to?

In this 60 minute training, I'm going to walk you through how to say no to people without it feeling like you're burning your life down.

Totally free and full of good vibes.
Come and join me on 8th April.
Link is in comments.

See you there!

06/01/2026

It's so easy to tell yourself stories about who you are, based on things that are happening.

For the last few weeks, I have been convincing myself DAILY that I am sh*t. That I'm lazy, disorganised, not motivated, and definitely not the kind of woman who wins in business.

Want to know why?

Because of a SPREADSHEET.

A fvcking SPREADSHEET, of all things.

Using the wrong tool for me got me paralysed. Zero action. Avoidance on a professional scale!!! You know what I'm talking about, right?

And a really simple process got me back on track again. Phew! The gratitude right now is overflowing, because for a minute there, I thought me and creation of the new course, Self Growth 101, were toast.

If you find yourself stuck in task paralysis ...
If you are great at telling yourself how sh*t you are ...
If you need to know how to get UN-STUCK ...
..there's nothing wrong with you friend. I can guarantee it. You just don't have the right tools.

If you'd like full on, 100% cheerleading support while you gain the tools you need to get yourself un-stuck, I'm your girl.

Comment SUPPORT and I'll send you the link to book a totally free, zero sales call with me so we can figure out what's keeping YOU stuck.

Biggest love
L💕

02/01/2026

A LETTER TO YOU 💌

As we move towards the start of a brand new year (I am a new year in Spring kind of girl), I felt really called to pen a little note to my clients, past present and future.

I consider myself incredibly fortunate to do the work I do. Not lucky (because a lot of this journey is a result of my own motivation, sacrifice and hard work) but incredibly fortunate. I have the privilege of being invited into people’s lives (sometimes at their lowest point) and am trusted to guide and support them through the process of making lasting, meaningful change; creating a version of themselves that they truly enjoy, and a life that they actually want to be in. I get to share in the wins, the crises, the good days, the bad, and everything that lies between. What an absolute joy.

So, as we move towards the year of the Fire Horse, as we slowly enter 2026, I just want to say thank you. To express my gratitude. To luxuriate in the blessings.

To the clients who have already worked with me, who invested me when I was a baby Coach, who have stuck by me through all the iterations of the business, who took a leap of faith and were part of what I have created – thank you.

To my current clients, who are showing up every day, in all the different ways, facing your fears, overcoming your anxieties and making the changes, creating new friendships and lasting habits – thank you.

And to the clients I have yet to meet, who will find me, who will join my mailing list, who will invest in my signature program, who will join me to dig deeper in one-to-one sessions, who will be a part of my most abundant year yet – thank you (and I can’t wait to work with you!).

And to everyone who supports me - who engages with my content, who shares my posts, comments on my offerings and shares their own experiences with me in my DMs – thank you. You do more than you realise.

Thank you for helping me to change my life, and to move into my best era yet.

I love you.
2026 is going to be lit.
I can feel it.
Let’s Fvcking Do It!
❤️❤️❤️

(and yes, this is a toilet selfie. Because were you even really at the party if you didn't take a pic in the toilet?????)