E-Motional Solutions

29/01/2026

Do You Enjoy Public Speaking?

Public speaking (Glossophobia) is consistently ranked as one of the top fears in Great Britain, trumped only by heights, snakes and spiders dependent on what survey you find.

It is reported around 77% of Britons experience some form of anxiety around public speaking.
Many admit to significant anxiety when it comes to speaking in public. The impact is highlighted with many avoiding a dream job due to public speaking being an element of the role.

Core issues often include the fear of judgement and looking foolish in front of others, stumbling over words and imposter syndrome.

I can identify with this fear and have experienced it in the past, wanting to avoid at all costs having to stand up and speak and being put in the spotlight.

I am eternally grateful I learnt to relish the opportunity to share tools and messages in a group environment.

What changed?

I watched others sharing in groups and had a feeling that what I had to share was of value and helpful to others and how it would be wasted to keep it to myself.

I started to discover my voice when the passion and motivation became way too important to keep quiet. It took some time to get completely comfortable and if you had told me at the beginning of my career as a practitioner I would actually enjoy public speaking I would not have believed it.

I was lucky enough to experience NLP training over 20 years ago and many of the techniques aided my ability to convey my message.

The first presentation was clunky, but the message was strong. it doesn't have to be perfect! Remember only you know what you are going to share.

When I utilised grounding techniques and strategies for getting myself out of my own way, I discovered an easier flow of thought and words. It was as if a block had been dissolved and I realised we all have a message and we are natural conduits for sharing.

Many of us experience imposter syndrome, which can be rooted in doubts in self belief. However, when the inner chatter creeps in and whispers 'Who are you to speak out?' perhaps you can quieten the inner critic with 'I have an important message to share, if not me then who?'

The best of humanity comes from sharing with positive intention to empower others and can far exceed fear of judgement when we can begin to believe our audience wants us to succeed.

The first step when getting ready to present is to create the environment by consciously sending out the energy of interest and curiosity to your audience. You are priming them to be open to seeing, hearing and feeling the elements of your public presentation that resonate with them.

Take your time to slow your breathing, ground yourself, connect to what is above and beyond you, centre your energy and create a sense of balance. EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is great for assisting you into this powerful state. Take a look at the free EFT Tapping chart on my website: www.e-motionalsolutions.co.uk/downloads

Before you even say a word take a long breath as if energising the power of your words.

Take your time, remember when speaking to a group it is more effective if you slow down your speech and punctuate your words with pauses.

Make eye contact with your group ensuring you move your gaze around the room, bringing everyone in to the space.

The power of group work can be so rewarding and works as an energy loop back creating higher frequency energy for the speaker and the group.

I love to help others find their voice and imbue them with the passion for public speaking.
Contact me for a free explorative chat about the modalities and process to take steps towards confident public speaking and inspire others.

karen4@e-motionalsolutions.co.uk
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16/01/2026

Intentional Positive Influence

We could all be forgiven for believing we do not hold any power to influence.

We are often discouraged and disempowered by the supposed authorities that have an underlying dictate on how we live and what is right or for the greater good.

When we can reflect on what could be the reason for this mechanism of compliance it becomes more apparent that global enlightenment would have a detrimental effect on the influence of those that claim to rule our land.

Fear is a very easy emotional state to keep in line and limit individual power and the ability to intentionally and positively influence.

When fear populates our lives for a period of time it becomes not only habitual, but not so easy to rise above. Fear can become temporarily paralysing and inform our energy fields of impending doom that requires disengagement and avoidance.

Fear is usually triggered by a perceived threat and it is in our nature to want to avoid threats and survive. However, as a society we have been blasted with messages of fear on a continuous loop for decades, if not longer, and it is no surprise it has taken its toll on our own perception and ability to utilise self power.

But what has been evident during our history is when just a few start to share their intentional positive influence it inspires others to act and has a knock on effect that ripples throughout a community.

I am sure we all had a teacher at school or in our community that sparked our interest and inspired us to be taller and bigger and stop restricting ourselves to the tiny pigeon hole we mistakenly thought we belonged to.

We all have the capacity to spread our intentional positive influence in small acts every day and we are often not aware of the impact. We may question what we can do as individuals, but all it takes is an individual with intentional positive influence and before long it builds a community based on intentional positive influence with joint power to make change, grow and develop.

What is missing in our society is community. In a time of social media and technology we are more alone than ever. Evidence is illustrated in the increasing percentage of the population who take regular medication due to depressive conditions.

Community is the antidote and real community starts in person, building trust and sharing experiences, knowledge and skills. Feeling part of something and that we belong.

I am exercising my Intentional Positive Influence to request you reflect and decide to use your intentional positive influence to shape and develop the world you want to live in.

What small step could you take?

We are igniting the flame of intentional positive influence in North West Surrey and would love to hear from you.

Now is the time for action!

karen@e-motionalsolutions.co.uk

20/12/2025

Information Overload

In an age of instant information at our fingertips we may believe we are informed and well connected and more knowledgeable than our ancestors.

However, our values have altered to such a degree that we are far more influenced by external sources.

Even in recent history prior to the incarnation of the internet our early imprinting was shaped and moulded by our parents, peers and guides who cared for our wellbeing. We had limited media exposure via our TVs, radio and newspapers but it did not invade our every thought and did not arrive as a constant stream of confusing noise or demand our focus and time.

Although you could perceive that our choices were more limited, perhaps we have forgotten how important quiet inner reflection is in being in touch with our inner knowing of who we are and what is important to us.

Perhaps we rely too heavily on the opinions of those we have no ability to know or trust and can be easily duped into believing they carry an important message for us when the reality is they are 'influencers'. They are paid to gather followers and focused on working out what could be on 'trend' at any given time to increase their views.

It is important to keep perspective. Is the content we seek giving valuable information that makes us think and question or are we seeking to quell our fear and distract ourselves with an overwhelming array of knowledge that does not enrich or add to our lives.

Does the constant quest and stream of information add to our peace of mind or create confusion and anxiety? If we are not on social media or seeking the latest trend do we get FOMA and feel left behind?

We are being encouraged to stray from our inner knowing, intuition and higher intelligence and bow at the altar of social media persuasion and programming.

There is great benefit in developing the ability to delay gratification. To work towards a long term goal requires the ability to be persistent and determined. The world of clicks and likes and virtual reality robs us from a formative age of this vital skill and steals our imagination and creativity. The advent of Chat GPT is just another step to sap away our cognitive learning and individuality.
We are frequency beings designed to plug into the universe and its infinite wisdom. We possess an electrical charge that connects like an antenna to higher knowledge beyond us and is fed at a rate that is right for each individual.

However, we can only truly tap into this higher knowledge when we take the opportunity to find silence to tune in.

Our attention has been hijacked and we have been taught to fill our lives with action and noise many of us not being at peace in our own company or without the companionship of some form of media playing in a constant loop.

A quality that is vital is discernment to be able to decipher that not all information is of equal value and the quality and source of the information we choose elicits or limits our unique growth and development.

In a world that is trying to grab our attention at every opportunity, with neon lights and commercial sales pushed in every direction filling our minds with subliminal messages, it has never been more important than now to take stock, reassess and take back our power.

The information we each require now is available when we turn our attention to embrace the silence and invest in connecting to our inner knowing the true source of inner peace.

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18/12/2025

Accepting the Shadow

Perhaps it is a good time of year to reflect on our personal shadow.
What is the shadow element of ourselves?

When we observe pre-school children they are totally accepting of themselves. They do not overthink their behaviour or chastise themselves for their actions. At that age we are completely emotional beings who seek joy and play.

Of course as we grow older we learn to think of others and manage our behaviour which is necessary to be socialised and to successfully interact with our peers, family and colleagues.
However, often we are unwittingly taught that our childhood emotions are not acceptable that we need to hide parts of us. We may bury these parts deep inside and pretend to the outside world they don't exist.

We conform and in the process reject parts of us that live in our shadow. We believe that we have learnt and moved on.

These rejected parts live in our shadow and can be activated when we see our rejected behaviour play out in the external world. It is like a mirror highlighting our unprocessed, misunderstood and undesirable parts. While our reactions to these triggers are unconscious our emotions are raw, erratic and uncontrollable.

The more we try to deny and hide behind a mask of our perception of social acceptability the further we reject these parts, the more we stoke and fuel these unacceptable emotions and behaviours.

When we can identify the shadow within us it is easier to address. We are comprised of light and shadow and acceptance of these elements within us is key to finding balance.
The shadow becomes out of kilter as we continue to judge and berate ourselves and the fear of others rejecting while we continue to reject these parts of ourselves.

Awareness is the first step as without it we are not able to exercise choice.
The next step is to be with the parts of us that were shunned and feared. By taking the position of an observer we can watch and be with these parts and begin to have compassion and understanding.

These parts are the wounds of our inner child and by observing and giving them a voice we can listen, empathise and support these parts. By recognising and acknowledging the challenges we faced and accepting the emotions we had deemed as bad, it becomes easier to dissolve the intensity of the emotion.

The emotions and behaviours that were banished to create our social mask are essential to our authentic selves. The longer they are exiled the more they disrupt our lives and turn up as self sabotage.

Our shadow is to be embraced and the fear released. There are resources in our shadow that are intrinsic in our being. They bring depth to our ability to navigate the complexities of life on earth. It is no coincidence that we live in a balance of light and dark as we are governed by the two luminaries - the sun and the moon.

We do not reject the moon, but recognise the qualities it brings and the balance of the two is essential for our wellbeing. It allows us to see life in different lights, to reflect and review, to agree and challenge and to accept all as learning.
When our shadow is accepted and in balance with the light it all becomes differing shades that are the complex colour pallet of life.

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29/07/2025

Compassion

When you think of compassion what comes up for you?
Perhaps you think of those you believe go without in third world countries or are not lucky enough to have a supportive loving family around them.

Perhaps the compassion you feel is for someone disassociated from your life where compassion is so much easier and many charities use compassion to jolt you into sending money.

The compassion that is not as obvious is the compassion you can feel for those around you who we may not even agree with. They may not be doing what you think is right.

It is not easy for you to understand their path and why they chose it.

However, there is a sense of knowing the point they have reached in life has been a long journey of struggle and challenges many of which altered them so deeply it has made their ultimate mission totally impossible. Their ability to focus and strive for themselves completely unobtainable.

When a soul is lost they flounder and behave in a way that can be incomprehensible to many.

Compassion is looking past the external behaviour, suspending the judgement and really seeing the pain that has driven them away from helping themselves or towards detrimental actions.

Compassion is feeling for someone who from the outside may not naturally attract the love of others and often pushes people away with their awkward or rude manner. It is knowing what is exhibited in the world is a defense system born out of despair and rejection.

We may have placed emphasis on having to understand how someone got to be in the position they find themselves, but compassion does not linger on analysing every move and how they could have taken a different route.

I am sure there are moments when we all have doubt in our own resources and make mistakes or sabotage our own success.
We all deserve compassion and when we develop our ability to really feel compassion for someone's demise regardless of how they got there we begin to really encompass the human capacity to open our hearts.

Compassion is the emotion that can make the difference when we feel at rock bottom. One act of compassion can recharge hope and give a glint of light to someone who has lost their way.

Compassion is the wisdom of the heart.

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karen4@e-motionalsolutions.co.uk

05/07/2025

Emotions are a Gift

It has not always been the case, and quite honestly I have at times struggled with the depth and pain of feeling emotions, but I have come to realise that emotions are a gift.

I am sure many of us can relate to being told as children we were too sensitive or big girls/boys don't cry.

For all the good intentions in the world from our care givers, who have their own challenges and disempowering beliefs, this message to a child is received as - I am wrong and my emotions are not acceptable.

As time passes the child develops coping strategies to live up to what they believe is acceptable. It is possible the child learns to mask their emotions and cut them off numbing their feelings. It is possible they become more isolated to ensure their unacceptable emotions are not seen by others.

Whatever the method it denies their true self and suppresses emotions. Unfortunately this does not automatically resolve itself when we reach adulthood. The wounded inner child lives on and the strategies continue to play out, frequently serving to sabotage our desired outcomes.

For a therapist it is far more challenging to get to the core of issues when the client presents as very controlled and when asked about how they feel are unaware of the presence of any emotion. It is as if they exist purely in their head and are cut off from their emotions that naturally reside in the body. It is just too painful to connect with the emotions that they have mistakenly labelled as inappropriate and bad.

When we are able to embrace emotions they become an ally, a gauge and an aid to intuition.

Emotions are part of our senses and not to be ignored or underestimated.

When meeting new people our emotions play an important part in deciding if they are friend or foe.

If we continue to live in our heads and deny emotions we have eradicated an essential tool for navigating all relationships and for deciding what is right or wrong for us as individuals.

Even in business decisions our emotions have to be engaged with logic to come to any sort of meaningful result. How can we successfully run a business or take on a role without a passion for what we do. A career that has no emotional connection or purpose is a space that will not fulfil or satisfy a need and is likely to feel like a soul less existence.

I believe every single one of our emotions are a gift to be embraced and when we learn to manage and navigate them they are intrinsic in creating and living a life of contentment.


karen4@e-motionalsolutions.co.uk
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06/06/2025

Every person caring for our elderly and vulnerable is blessed to be part of this very special time in their lives.
To give them as much love care and compassion as we possibly can in their final days, months and years in this world.
To know that we've made them feel safe and loved in their golden years is the best feeling in the world.
We should treat every person in a nursing home or hospital as if they were our mother, father, sister, brother etc.
To those who genuinely care, we thank you.
You are brilliant people. You have made such a difference to so many lives.

To all those who treat our loved ones as if they are only a nuisance, or a money making machine or who abuse our loved ones and who are only in the job to make a few bob then please get the hell out!

We can only hope HIQA now act properly.
That they make unannounced visits to every nursing home instead of giving plenty of notice to nursing homes. What's the point of HIQA if they give nursing homes and hospitals time to clean up their act? They only return to a bad level of care as soon as they leave.
Please never be afraid to report any level of abuse if you witness it.

Each and every one of us who care for our elderly are blessed! It is indeed one of life's highest honours ❤️

06/06/2025

02/06/2025

Stressful to Restful Workshop

I can't begin to tell you what a joy it was to co-facilitate the Stressful to Restful Workshop on May 31st at the Enchanted Studio in Bisley.

The energy was so vibrant and joyful that me and my co-facilitators: Jacqueline Chevalier, Elle Collins, Evphi Calcantera and assisted by Sue Taylor had the most powerful experience of delivering tools to relieve stress and promote restfulness more easily.

The group of 20 attendees were so engaged and interested.

When the energy is aligned the right people arrive.

We ended the day with a group sound bath and healing.

It was a great honour to be able to give some of the funds to our friend and colleague Suzanne Jayne Marie Brooker who attended and was very touched by our support to help with her health journey.

I am so grateful to have the ability to be working with such amazing ladies and create a space for likeminded people to immerse and explore and follow their true paths to personal peace.

Can't wait for the next one, watch this space.

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karen4@e-motionalsolutions.co.uk

26/04/2025

Daily Contentment

Our biology gives us a natural negative bias to protect us from danger. This has been useful to ensure our survival.

Some of us are more negatively bias than others and this can be contributed to not just the experience of trauma but also how the trauma was processed - the meaning and learning taken from these incidents.

The level of impact of trauma is dependent on how frequently and how long we endure these experiences.

So many people are now diagnosed with PTSD or CPTSD and there are many modalities that work with these conditions for those affected to manage and eliminate the associated triggers, heightened emotions and resulting behaviours.

For those of us that are dealing with lower levels of trauma a good practice to implement in our daily lives is to balance the negative bias by consciously creating a habit of daily contentment.

The steps that have proved to be helpful are as follows:

1. Check in with your body as soon as you wake - noting the sensations in your body and remaining in the moment for at least 10 minutes. A mindful narration of what you are doing keeps you present - I am feeling the carpet under my feet, I feel my heart gentIy beating, I feel my breath nurturing my body, I hear the birds outside my window, I see the sun peeking through the curtains.

2. 10 minute meditation or a couple of rounds of Emotional Freedom Technique (download a free EFT tapping chart www.e-motionalsolutions.co.uk) on any topic that could have stopped you from making the most of today.

3. Envision your day and the opportunities. Remain open to synchronicities and allow the energy of the day to feed your present contentment that whatever you do today will be enough, you are enough.

Creating and building the habit of daily contentment provides a great foundation for a more empowering mindset and the ability to bounce back quicker from any challenges that occur.

A habit is a behaviour that has been repeated at least 21 times and therefore can be part of our daily routine when practiced regularly in a very short period of time and when an action feels good and brings pleasure we are far more likely to keep repeating.

When we possess an underlying sense of contentment it amplifies a feeling of safety. In episodes of adversity this resource provides a greater ability to make sound decisions and take positive actions.
Any form of success relies on firm foundations.

We would love to share tools to increase personal peace and contentment at our one day workshop - Stressful to Restful.

Check out the link below for details and join this immersive interactive experience.

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01/04/2025

How easy do you find it to Let Go?

Maybe you are someone who has the tendency to hold on. You don't know where you learnt it and probably have never considered the reason for holding on, but I bet you notice just how letting go of even trivial things is not an easy habit for you!

The insult when you were 8 at school.
The argument you had in a supermarket.

We are often told, just hold on in there and we tend to think of letting go as giving up, but in many instances letting go is the most beneficial action you can take for your own peace of mind. Holding on to events you can do nothing about and happened so long ago is futile and a complete waste of your valuable energy.

All emotions are valid and require acceptance and acknowledgement. There is not benefit in suppressing emotions and learning how to express them in a positive way can be very liberating.

However, holding on to emotions can leave us feeling held hostage by our emotional highs and lows.

Learning to accept is key to release. Emotions come in waves and we access and leave emotional states too many times to count in a day. When it becomes apparent that one heightened emotion seems to dominate it is more obvious there is resistance to letting go.

Perhaps in your family crying was not acceptable and you tend to vent with frustration or anger. In some families anger is taboo and the whole family suppress their tempers to avoid conflict. Of course unspoken anger has a way of seeping into the environment and poisoning relationships without a single word and in addition a high level of miscommunication and misunderstanding is created.

The resistance to letting go and being more able to remain present has a foundation in fear and as you remain stuck a behaviour is built that becomes an undermining habit and in turn creates further fear.

So how can you learn to let go?

Awareness is the first key to unlocking and letting go. Once there is awareness working with the unconscious mind allows access to the root of the fear and the ability to free yourself from emotional prison.

Learning Emotional Freedom Technique is just one way of working with an energy modality that has the ability to gently move into the unconscious and shift stuck energy which equate to emotions.

If you do recognise your own challenges with letting go take that first step and notice until now releasing was not easy. Become more observant of your own behavioural patterns and the linked emotions.

Where do you notice them in your body?
How does it feel?
What other incidents are linked to this feeling?

If you want to learn more, I love to assess and identify unhelpful habits and help you to move forward.

And as part of Soul Solutions would love to share helpful techniques to release stuck emotion and bring calm and inner peace.

Come and join us for an immersive and interactive one day workshop - Stressful to Restful - designed to calm your adrenals and aid restfulness.

karen4@e-motionalsolutions.co.uk

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/1238087004559?aff=oddtdtcreator



Karen Oliver

26/03/2025

Where is your Focus?

It really depends on the way our individual experiences have turned out as to how well we focus on what we want from life.
Those that have been encouraged and supported along the way most likely have beliefs that carry them and acknowledge if they focus on what they want it is more possible.

However, many of us can focus for a short while and either get distracted, disillusioned or impatient for results and move on to something new that will be the answer to their prayers.
When focus is purely thought based and housed within our minds it is less easy to keep the faith and keep going.

The mind can fool us with fear. The internal dialogue and any discouraging external noise can put us off our track and we give up.
Thoughts are only a part of the story when it comes to being able play the long game. It is the difference between knowing and really knowing.

The sense of knowing will live in your body, often your heart. When you hold faith and remain focused you may not be able to explain to those around you but you just know.
The knowing fuels the focus and gives it metaphorical foundations. It is a form of intuition and cannot be analysed or logically worked out with a formula.

The knowing calms down the panic that can exist in our minds and contains patience and contentment in the present moment to continue with our focused quest.

Regardless of bumps in the road and dead ends the knowing keeps our focus on opportunities and solutions while in the present moment where we are energetically embodied, keeping a vision of where we are going.

The knowing dissipates the anxious clambering and struggle to get to where we want to be and replaces it with a realm of calm. Our adrenals remain firmly off and our minds are clear.

Energetic focus that incorporates the knowing brings balance and sharpens our purpose. There is nothing to prove as we move naturally towards our desired outcomes with peaceful joy.

We would love for you to join us at our workshop: Stressful to Restful and focus your energy on personal peace.

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/1238087004559?aff=oddtdtcreator

Join us in a safe space to explore and discover methods for regaining energetic and emotional equilibrium and access personal peace.