Yasmeen Bibi Accredited Counsellor/Psychotherapist

Yasmeen Bibi Accredited Counsellor/Psychotherapist I provide relationship, mental health, self-esteem, trauma and abuse recovery therapy. Thank you for visiting my page.

Personal tragedy and peoples ability to overcome their ordeals have always moved me to do what I do. I interact with these super beings who are facing their existential limitations and crises in everyday life. I get to speak to them, listen to them and sit with them when they are breaking and making. When they are in shambles surrounded by their emotional chaos and utter disappointments and traged

ies. Yet their will to go on and work through it, making sense of it, creating a narrative for themselves, finding meaning for them to be here facing and living this life. It's such a humbling and awe-inspiring experience for me as a therapist and to be allowed to be part of their personal journey. As I strive to seek the meaning of life, I'm passionate about using psychotherapy as a ther**eutic way to connect with individuals and couples to enhance their understanding about themselves, to improve the quality of their lives and relationships. I provide a safe, confidential and non-judgmental space to my clients where they can unpack their chaos and find a narrative for themselves that can give them meaning to their experiences, help them get in touch with their grief, guilt, shame, that allows finding peace, harmony and self-acceptance. Most common feedback I get from my clients is that they have experienced a feeling of getting unstuck, authenticity and improved quality of life. As well as a positive shift in mindset, physical health, mental well being leaving them with a sense of empowerment. I have given counselling to a diverse set of clients with distinct needs and abilities over thousands of hours over nearly a decade. Many of these individuals have been referred by Healthy Minds, Well-being centres and Haven Wolverhampton, through a network of social workers, GP’s and referrals from satisfied clients. I am a Senior Psychotherapist with experience in using different modalities like Psychother**eutic, Humanistic and Existentialist. My Relationship Training and experience is in Systemic and Transactional analysis. While I provide clinical supervision to counsellors and students, you will find me regularly facilitating workshops and mentoring groups. If you would like to learn more about my services, let's have a call or drop me an email.

� : yasmeens@hotmail.co.uk
�: 07936409082
�: Wolverhampton, West Midlands

Look forward to working with you in the near future.

In therapy I often hear people say I attract narcissists. I want to gently question that idea.Narcissistic or predatory ...
13/12/2025

In therapy I often hear people say I attract narcissists. I want to gently question that idea.

Narcissistic or predatory personalities do not have a special type. They test everyone. They push boundaries wherever they can. They try their luck with many people.

What actually makes the difference is not attraction. It is tolerance.

The people who end up entangled are often the ones who give the benefit of the doubt. The ones who explain away bad behavior. The ones who offer grace again and again, hoping things will change.

So it is not that someone attracts a narcissist. It is that someone was taught to be understanding at the cost of themselves.

Healing is not about changing who you attract. It is about changing what you allow.

It is sad to see how many men remain stuck in outdated ways of thinking. Their reluctance to change and their indifferen...
20/11/2025

It is sad to see how many men remain stuck in outdated ways of thinking. Their reluctance to change and their indifference to how women feel disrespected is causing real damage. Many men are hurting their own families, their relationships, and even their overall image as a gender. This is creating fear and distance, and women are increasingly put off by these attitudes.

In the past, women often stayed silent. They were expected to compromise, to forgive, and to tolerate disrespect because society left them with very few options. But times have changed. With greater education and awareness, women know their needs and emotional boundaries. They are no longer willing to accept what they once had to endure.

Because of this shift, relationships are not forming or surviving the way they used to. Women are no longer willing to chase men or overlook harmful behavior. Yet many men continue to hold a strong gender bias and a belief that they should be treated as superior or that women want something from them. This mindset is pushing women away and harming men more than they realise.

The truth is simple. Men must reflect and grow. This culture of insult and toxic masculinity is not only hurting women, it is destroying the future of healthy relationships for men themselves.

Working as a psychotherapist and relationship counsellor, I meet many people who have been taught a misguided idea of lo...
17/11/2025

Working as a psychotherapist and relationship counsellor, I meet many people who have been taught a misguided idea of love, where love feels hurtful and loyalty feels like self sacrifice. I see how easy it is to confuse chaos with passion and to believe that pain is somehow proof of devotion.
I believe that real care never shows itself through control, anger, or emotional cruelty. Early wounds can shape what we accept, but they do not define what we are worthy of.
Strength begins the moment you set limits, challenge old beliefs, and refuse to trade your peace for someone else’s comfort.
We all deserve relationships that feel safe, steady, and supportive. Choosing yourself is not selfish. It is an act of courage.

As a psychotherapist who works with domestic abuse, narcissistic abuse and misogyny, I want to be very clear about what ...
05/11/2025

As a psychotherapist who works with domestic abuse, narcissistic abuse and misogyny, I want to be very clear about what is happening here. His behaviour is a form of boundary testing and emotional abuse.

The shift between affection and coldness is not accidental. It is a psychological tactic known as the hot and cold cycle (intermittent reinforcement). He gives warmth and attention only at certain times, then withdraws or becomes rude. This pattern creates emotional confusion and dependency, where you start waiting for the loving version of him to reappear.

In Pakistani culture, many men are raised with misogynistic beliefs that assume their emotional needs are central and unquestionable. At the same time, many women are raised with internalised misogyny, where patience, silence and emotional endurance are seen as signs of love. We are conditioned to tolerate pain and to believe that our value lies in how much we can endure. So when mistreatment happens, women often blame themselves instead of recognising the abuse.

This behaviour will not improve with time or marriage. It usually intensifies because the man feels entitled to even more emotional control. The longer this continues, the more it erodes your sense of self, confidence and emotional stability.

A healthy partner offers consistency, respect and emotional safety. Love does not leave you anxious, uncertain or diminished.

You deserve steady care, clarity and dignity. You do not have to earn basic respect.

When homes are no longer safe, divorce becomes an act of survival rather than failure. According to United Nations findi...
23/10/2025

When homes are no longer safe, divorce becomes an act of survival rather than failure. According to United Nations findings, most women who are murdered lose their lives at the hands of their husbands or relatives, within their own homes.
In such circumstances, divorce is better than death.
Respect must be earned, not demanded. Women today provide for themselves and will not be controlled or diminished. Using religion to justify patriarchy only exposes ignorance and a lack of insight. If men truly wish to save marriages, they must step up and learn to be grateful, respectful and dependable towards their wives.
Divorce is not a failure of women. It is the result of men refusing to change, still clinging to control and using scripture to defend their dominance and abuse.

I can understand why you feel afraid of marriage after seeing what your parents’ relationship was like. You grew up watc...
09/10/2025

I can understand why you feel afraid of marriage after seeing what your parents’ relationship was like. You grew up watching not only your father’s behaviour but also your mother’s response to it. When one parent allows mistreatment to continue, even out of fear or social pressure, it teaches children that love and pain somehow go together. Your mother may have believed she was doing the right thing, but her tolerance also enabled the situation to continue. That means you were not just a witness but part of that environment, and it is understandable that it has affected your views on relationships. The important thing now is to recognise that you are not your parents. You can set your own boundaries and decide what kind of love and respect you will accept. Perhaps your fear is not only about ending up with someone like your father but also about not wanting to become like your mother. The fact that you see the pattern means you have the power to break it.

You are in a challenging situation, and it is entirely understandable that you feel conflicted. The considerable age gap...
04/10/2025

You are in a challenging situation, and it is entirely understandable that you feel conflicted. The considerable age gap between you and your husband means you are at very different stages in life, and with his child now living with you full-time, the reality of your situation has shifted in ways you did not agree to. This change has acted as a catalyst, prompting you to reflect on whether the marriage truly meets your emotional and personal needs. Acknowledging that it may not is not a sign of failure but of self-awareness. You were honest about your boundaries from the start, and it is valid to recognise that the dynamic no longer aligns with who you are or what you want for your future. It takes courage to admit when something is no longer right for you, and choosing to walk away now may allow you to build a relationship that is more balanced, compatible, and fulfilling for the stage of life you are in.
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List your needs in the marriage, such as emotional, physical, social, religious and financial, and notice which are bein...
03/10/2025

List your needs in the marriage, such as emotional, physical, social, religious and financial, and notice which are being met and which are not.
Then face reality: your husband has said he is the way he is, so either accept him as he is or give a clear ultimatum, and if he does not change then walk away with honesty and grace.
Hoping or trying to manipulate him into change will only mirror the dishonesty you already feel.
Since you are aware of the situation and have the choice to leave; staying means you are accepting it because some other value in the marriage matters more to you than intimacy, it makes you complicit in it, more like an enabler but not a victim. Once you see this as your choice you won’t feel helpless.
Some couples in this position find unconventional solutions such as parallel lives or open arrangements, though whether that is possible depends on your cultural and religious values.
In the end the question is simply whether you can live this way for the rest of your life.

What you’re experiencing is not love but the effect of your brain’s reward system being hijacked by the push-and-pull dy...
02/10/2025

What you’re experiencing is not love but the effect of your brain’s reward system being hijacked by the push-and-pull dynamic of the relationship. After conflict, reconciliation triggers a surge of dopamine, creating a temporary “high” that can feel addictive and drive the urge to reconnect. This craving is your brain seeking the next reward, not a genuine sign that the relationship is healthy. If you call him, the same cycle of honeymoon, arguments, and hostility is very likely to repeat. The irritability and longing you feel now are part of withdrawal and will pass with time. To truly move forward, it’s important to focus on your own healing, ideally with the support of a therapist who can help you break this pattern.

Please think very carefully before entering into this nikkah. If a man tells you that you cannot speak to the imam, he i...
30/09/2025

Please think very carefully before entering into this nikkah. If a man tells you that you cannot speak to the imam, he is silencing you and preventing you from protecting the very rights Islam gives you. In your nikkah contract you have the right to set your mehr, to request a financial allowance, your right to divorce him and even to restrict him from marrying another wife while you are still married. If he stops you from voicing these, he is taking away your Islamic rights.
It is also worrying that he wants to keep the only copy of the nikkah. That document belongs to both of you. If he takes control of it now, what will stop him later from controlling your travel documents, bank accounts or other important papers? If you live in Europe or the United States, refusing to register the marriage legally is another red flag, as it denies you protection over property, finances and your future security. This is not about clothing but about your rights, your voice and your autonomy.
Please do not step into this unsafe situation.

At 60 your mum is still young enough to change if she genuinely wanted to. From what you describe though, it seems she h...
24/09/2025

At 60 your mum is still young enough to change if she genuinely wanted to. From what you describe though, it seems she has carried a lot of unresolved pain from her past and uses that to stay in a victim role. This can make her appear meek and beaten down, yet at the same time highly manipulative. The fact she is not changing suggests she does not want to take responsibility or accountability for her behaviour, which is often the case with manipulative people.

From what you have described, it feels as if you have been a victim of covert narcissism from your mother. This can cause deep anxiety because you end up feeling responsible for her feelings and tiptoeing around her needs rather than your own. The most important step is boundaries. If she over shares with your husband or crosses a line, calmly let her know it is not appropriate. Her anger, tears or silent treatment are likely ways to avoid responsibility rather than proof that you are in the wrong. Therapy can really help you disentangle yourself from this dynamic, reclaim your own needs and begin to feel more free and at peace in your relationships.

Visibility is ResistanceIn some societies, women are told to disappear.Showing your face, walking freely, working openly...
21/09/2025

Visibility is Resistance

In some societies, women are told to disappear.
Showing your face, walking freely, working openly, sharing your image is all policed. Morality, culture, and religion are used to justify it.

First, women are dehumanised. They are called annoying wives, objectified, treated as toys for men to play with. For example, M***i Tariq Masood once said, if you cannot find one sixteen-year-old, get two eight-year-olds or four four-year-olds. When confronted, he said he was just joking. Yet he was promoting pe******ia and violence against women. It is no wonder r**e is so common in Pakistan.

Before any male accountability for these crimes, women are demonised. Cover your faces, cover your forms, stay out of sight. They are gaslighted into believing that their very existence is a crime and a sin because men cannot regulate their sexual urges.

Those who shame women gain popularity by judging. Their weapon is shame. Their currency is fear. In such societies, women navigate an impossible space. If they are visible, they are attacked as if it is justified.

Yet women who remain visible work, speak, and exist without apology. Every step is defiance, every glance rebellion. In a society that first dehumanises and then demonises, simply being seen is resistance.

‎دیکھائی دینا مزاحمت ہے

‎کچھ معاشروں میں عورتیں غائب رہنے پر مجبور ہیں۔
‎اپنا چہرہ دکھانا، آزادانہ چلنا، کام کرنا یا تصویر شئیر کرنا سب پر پابندی ہے۔ اخلاقیات، ثقافت اور مذہب اسے جواز دیتے ہیں۔

‎پہلے غیر انسانی بنایا جاتا ہے۔ پریشان کن بیوی، اشیاء، مردوں کے کھیل کے کھلونے۔
‎مثال کے طور پر، مفتی طارق مسعود نے کہا کہ اگر ایک سولہ سالہ نہ ملے تو دو آٹھ سالہ یا چار چار سالہ لے لیں۔ بعد میں کہا کہ صرف مذاق تھا۔ لیکن یہ واضح طور پر بچوں سے زیادتی اور عورتوں پر تشدد کو فروغ دینا ہے۔

‎پھر بدنام کیا جاتا ہے۔ چہرہ چھپائیں، جسم چھپائیں، نظر سے اوجھل رہیں۔ وجود جرم اور گناہ سمجھا جاتا ہے کیونکہ مرد اپنی خواہشات قابو میں نہیں رکھ سکتے۔

‎جو عورتیں نظر آتی ہیں، وہ بولتی ہیں، کام کرتی ہیں اور بغیر معذرت کے جیتی ہیں۔ ہر قدم مزاحمت، ہر نظر بغاوت۔
‎ایک ایسے معاشرے میں جو پہلے غیر انسانی بناتا ہے اور پھر بدنام کرتا ہے، عورت کا صرف نظر آنا ہی ایک بہت بڑی مزاحمت سمجھا جا سکتا ہے

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