Cat Williams Rapid Transformational Speaker, Therapist & Coach

21/12/2025

Today is the Winter Solstice, the longest night of the year.

It is a time to pause before the light begins to return.

🐎If we see our subconscious mind as a powerful stallion, with us as the rider, then today isn’t about urging it forward.

🐎It’s about letting it feel safe, warm and unhurried.

Here are 3 gentle ways to calm your stallion mind today, aligned with the wisdom of the Solstice:

🌟 1) “Rest the rider”

The winter solstice traditions honour rest for a reason.

When the conscious mind softens, the stallion mind follows.

🕯️Slow your breath. Sit by a window or a candle.

Nothing to fix. Nothing to plan.
Stillness isn’t stopping, it’s signalling safety.

🌟 2) “Befriend the dark”

Darkness isn’t the enemy of light. It’s what allows the stars to be visible.

When your mind feels heavy or uncertain, remind it, this is not a failure phase.

It’s a listening phase.

The stallion mind relaxes when it realises the dark is kind and thoughtful, not dangerous.

🌟 3) “Warm the body”

Cold sharpens our appreciation of warmth.

A fire. A hot drink. A blanket. A hand on your chest.

Connection to nature, to animals, to each other, steadies the nervous system.

Warmth tells the stallion mind it is held and safe.

🌅 Tomorrow, the days begin to lengthen.

No rush. No push.

Just a quiet knowing that light always returns.

How are you honouring rest, peace and gentleness today? 🌙✨

18/12/2025

Christmas can be many things, often all at once, which is why I’m giving you a FREE Christmas gift! 🎁🌟🎁

For some, this season is deeply happy.

For others, it’s complicated, emotional, or something to be navigated with care.

And for most of us, it’s a mix of both.

🐎At this time of year our subconscious “stallion mind” can easily go into overdrive, racing ahead, scanning for pressure, expectations and “shoulds”, even when all we really want is a moment of peace.

🎁That’s exactly why I created my “Confident, Calm and Joyful Christmas” flashcards, a short, supportive set of gentle prompts to help you:

💫calm the stallion and steady the rider
💫soothe your nervous system
💫quiet the inner pressure
💫reconnect with what actually matters to you
💫move through the season with more ease and self-trust

They’re simple. Reassuring. No fixing required.

Just small moments of grounding, perspective and kindness, whenever you need them.

Whether you’re celebrating loudly, opting out gracefully, or creating your own perfectly imperfect version of Christmas, these are my gift to you.

🎁 Free to download here ⬇️

https://www.buildingyourconfidence.com/store/p/calm-confident-joyful-christmas-flashcards

🙏🌟🙏Wishing you a Christmas that aligns with you, and a new year that begins with calm, clarity and possibilities you may not yet see.

16/12/2025

13/12/2025

To receive messages like this on an almost daily basis makes my heart sing in a way I cannot fully describe in words.

I am so grateful to be able to do what I do, I truly have the best job ever 💫💫💫💫💫

12/12/2025

Imagine how grateful I am as a therapist, when clients do me the honour of a public testimonial. 🙏

It was a pleasure and a privilege to meet Martin and to support him on his recovery following a car incident.

10/12/2025

I’m not actually a nice person…

I hear this far more often than most people would ever imagine.

Many of my clients arrive with a quiet, gnawing fear that at their core they’re somehow not nice, not good enough, or fundamentally flawed.

And that fear usually shows up as issues such as anxiety, guilt, shame, obsessive thoughts, people pleasing, and a relentless inner critic.

The irony?

Only genuinely good, kind people worry they’re not good or kind enough!

And in trying to “prove” they’re enough, they push themselves to do everything, please everyone, avoid any hint of criticism, and keep going long after their emotional tank is empty.

That’s how burnout can happen.

Which can then “confirm” the very lie they’re afraid of: “maybe there really is something wrong with me?”

🌟So how do I help?

💡One of my favourite metaphors is a lighthouse.

I help the good, kind people of the world (which I genuinely believe is all of us at our core) to reconnect with their natural energy and their sense of “enoughness”.

🌟A lighthouse doesn’t run around in fear trying to prove anything.

🌟It doesn’t chase boats, panic about being useful, or question whether it’s doing enough.

It simply stands where it is:

– steady
– certain
– shining its brightest light

even in the darkest, wildest storms.

Its job isn’t to be everything to everyone.

Its job is to shine for the people who need it.

🌟And so is yours.

I help people who feel lost in the fog remember that they are the lighthouse they’ve been searching for.

They don’t need to become anything.

They just need support to switch their light back on.

❓How did you switch your own light back on after a dark or overwhelming time?

❓What helps you keep it shining brightly now?

10/12/2025

I’m not a nice person…

I hear this far more often than most people would ever imagine.

Many of my clients arrive with a quiet, gnawing fear that at their core they’re somehow not nice, not good enough, or fundamentally flawed.

And that fear usually shows up as issues such as anxiety, guilt, shame, obsessive thoughts, people pleasing, and a relentless inner critic.

The irony?

Only genuinely good, kind people worry they’re not good or kind enough!

And in trying to “prove” they’re enough, they push themselves to do everything, please everyone, avoid any hint of criticism, and keep going long after their emotional tank is empty.

That’s how burnout can happen.

Which can then “confirm” the very lie they’re afraid of: “maybe there really is something wrong with me?”

🌟So how do I help?

💡One of my favourite metaphors is a lighthouse.

I help the good, kind people of the world (which I genuinely believe is all of us at our core) to reconnect with their natural energy and their sense of “enoughness”.

🌟A lighthouse doesn’t run around in fear trying to prove anything.

🌟It doesn’t chase boats, panic about being useful, or question whether it’s doing enough.

It simply stands where it is:

– steady
– certain
– shining its brightest light

even in the darkest, wildest storms.

Its job isn’t to be everything to everyone.

Its job is to shine for the people who need it.

🌟And so is yours.

I help people who feel lost in the fog remember that they are the lighthouse they’ve been searching for.

They don’t need to become anything.

They just need support to switch their light back on.

❓How did you switch your own light back on after a dark or overwhelming time?

❓What helps you keep it shining brightly now?

09/12/2025

I’ve just manifested something… does the word manifesting make you cringe a bit? I felt the same until I figured out what I believe it actually means…

Let me share a story that explains it well:

A man is caught in a terrible flood.
🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊

A truck battles through to rescue him and he says:

“No it’s okay, I’ve manifested being saved, I’ll be fine”

A boat appears, he refuses again.

A helicopter comes, still no.

He dies in the flood.

He gets to heaven and asks God, “I had manifested being saved, why didn’t you come and save me?”

God replies, “I sent you a car, a boat and a helicopter!”

For me, the lesson is beautifully simple:

💫Manifesting is looking for, and saying yes, to the opportunities all around you that are already the gifts you need to take you where you want to go.

I’ve just realised a huge goal in my business, and when I look back, it was dozens of tiny, almost-invisible “yeses” that have made it happen.

🐎Little steps.

🐎Micro-decisions.

🐎The willingness to keep trotting in the right direction, even when I didn’t feel fully ready.

💫Those small steps have now led to a brilliant new opportunity, and one I’m incredibly proud of and excited about!

❓What do you want to “manifest”?

❓What step could you take, or what gift or opportunity could you look for and say “yes” to that will help to take you there?

🏇Keep taking the lead of your stallion mind, and keep trotting towards the “manifestation” of your dreams!!

04/12/2025

Today I have the pleasure of speaking to the WRA (Wood Recyclers'​ Association) at the Birmingham Conference & Events Centre

What do I know about wood recycling?

Absolutely nothing!

But what I do know is that no matter what industry we work in, we can all get stressed, anxious, overwhelmed or overstretched.

My talk “Reclaim the reins: Manage your mind before it manages you.”

Is about “reclaiming the reins of your mind” because when you do, everything changes, your confidence, your clarity, your ability to stay calm under pressure, and your capacity to lead both yourself and others.

I’ll be bringing:

🌟 Straightforward strategies that work in real life

🌟 Light-bulb moments about the subconscious mind

🌟 A few fun stories & anecdotes

🌟 Practical tools to help you manage your mind before it manages you

03/12/2025

Do you feel ready… or is your stallion mind telling old stories again? I came across this little card today and know someone needs its message.

You are ready.
Even if and when you don’t think you are.

Have I always felt ready to be the speaker I know I am and can be?

Absolutely not.

My story to becoming the “stallion mind speaker” began 25 years ago as a young physiotherapist, fresh out of training, working on surgical wards.

I quickly learnt something that shaped the rest of my career:

💡How “ready” someone felt for my help determined how fast they recovered.

Their mindset, the story they were telling themselves about whether I was a “physioterrorist” or a helpful supportive guide, made a bigger difference than any exercise plan on paper.

It was my first lesson in the power of the mind, and the mind–body connection, and I’ve spent the last 25 years studying it.

🐎I’ve had to overcome the same subconscious “out of date” inner fears I help my clients ride through every day.

🐎The subconscious stallion mind loves familiar doubts:

❓What if I’m not good enough?
❓What if I don’t have what it takes?
❓Who do I think I am?
❓What if I fail and feel humiliated?

If any of these resonate with you, there’s something I want you to know.

🏇You were born ready.

Every baby arrives with natural, unfiltered, 10/10 confidence.

We scream knowing we are worthy of our needs being met.

We fall, stand, fall again, utterly convinced we will learn walk and run.

Inner confidence isn’t something you learn.

It’s something you re-claim.

So whatever dream you’re holding, whatever step you keep putting off… you want it for a reason.

And you are ready.

Go for it.
Truly.

And thank you Mark Franklin for the card, I’m so glad I came across it again today!

What are you ready to take the reins and ride towards? 🏇🏇🏇

02/12/2025

If you’ve ever wondered why you react so strongly to certain people or situations, the answer is almost never “the moment” it’s the history beneath it.

Neuroscience, psychology and trauma research all point to the same truth,
the foundations of our emotional patterns are laid subconsciously in childhood, long before we’re old enough to understand them.

And those early patterns don’t disappear… they simply mature with us.

🐎 Here’s a few examples of how childhood coping strategies may show up in adulthood:

1) Childhood sulking may become adult silent treatment i.e. withdrawing to feel safe when emotions feel too big.

2) Childhood tantrums may becom adult uncontrolled anger i.e. an overwhelming feeling of unmet needs or not being understood, is discharged.

3) Childhood insecure attachment may become adult hyper-independence i.e. “I’d rather do everything myself than risk being let down.”

4) Childhood not feeling important may become adult people-pleasing i.e. earning worth through approval, praise and performance.

5) Childhood helplessness may become adult depression or lack of motivation i.e. the nervous system going into freeze when life feels too much.

🐎 These behaviours aren’t "you" they're old protective strategies, the subconscious “stallion mind” reacting to the world using instincts it picked up years ago.

🌟 The good news is you’re not trapped by these patterns.

🌟 When you understand how your stallion mind was trained, you can retrain it.

That’s when everything changes, your confidence, your relationships, your decisions, your mental health and wellbeing.

You stop being driven by outdated beliefs, and you start taking the reins with clarity and self-trust.

🏇 Same mind. Different rider.

Do you recognise any of these “childhood strategies in adult bodies”?

What helps you to "take the reins" and stay calm and in control when your stallion mind tries to run ahead of you?