05/05/2026
“How do I help someone else to have more confidence in themselves?” I get asked this a lot…
You can see the potential in your child, colleague, friend or family member… but you wish you could give them more confidence and self-belief.
Am I right?
So how do you support the confidence of someone else?
Well, for me, this photo says it all.
My son is 19. On Saturday, he and my husband set off on a motorcycle journey from Wrexham to Glasgow, then on to Inverness and around the “North Coast 500” route.
For some parents that might sound terrifying.
Letting your son spend his gap year savings on a motorbike and encouraging a trip like this…
But there’s a phrase I live by when it comes to helping others with their confidence and self-esteem, and it’s this:
“If it matters to you, it matters to me.”
Supporting someone’s confidence starts with listening, and standing side by side with them.
In my stallion mind metaphor, that means:
🏇1. You cannot take the reins for someone else, and you shouldn’t try.
🏇2. You can ride alongside them, letting them know you hear them and will support them
🏇3. You show trust they they’ve got what it takes
🏇4. You respect what matters to them rather than imposing your own view if it is not asked for.
I feel so proud of the way my husband is supporting our son’s confidence this week.
Rather than resist or “fight” his passion for motorbikes, my husband (who had no real interest himself) stepped into his world.
🏍️He learned.
🏍️He joined him.
🏍️He supported him.
And in doing that, he didn’t just keep him safer.
He strengthened his confidence.
Many parents I work with are unintentionally doing the opposite: over-worrying, over-helping, problem-solving, or steering their children towards what they think is best.
And it comes from love.
But confidence isn’t built by being protected from life.
It’s built by being supported through it.
This trip is just the beginning, Freddie is planning a solo motorcycle tour of Europe’s capital cities this summer.
And I couldn’t be prouder!
If you want to build someone’s confidence, child or adult, start here:
✨ What matters to them?
✨ What lights them up?
✨ How can you support that?
I’d love to hear your thoughts.