Reflection Meditation

20/12/2025

Good advice from Paul Wilson:

Float in a swimming pool, a float tank, or even a bathtub, and weightlessly feel your tensions dissolve.

If you want to deepen the effect:

Close your eyes and slow your breathing.
Imagine the water carrying everything you don’t need to hold.

18/12/2025

Richard Hawley’s People is a song I keep coming back to because it sees things realistically, not overly or unjustifiably positive — and I appreciate that honesty.

It shows loss, hardship, and endurance as part of ordinary life, shared among people, not carried in isolation. Suffering isn’t a personal failure — it’s part of being human.

Strength appears here not as being unhurt, but as continuing. Hawley’s Sheffield is tough and weathered, and the song doesn’t romanticise pain — it respects survival.

Love and loss exist side by side. Losing someone doesn’t erase love; it proves it existed. Pain doesn’t cancel meaning.

This song is a good example of how to embrace all types of feelings, including the difficult ones. It doesn’t offer quick hope, advice, or empty promises, and that’s why it feels honest rather than dismissive.

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13/12/2025

I really love this interview where Bruce Lee drops his famous line: “Be like water, my friend.”

He has a fun, expressive way of speaking in this old video, but that’s not the main point. What really stays with me is the metaphor. Water can flow gently or crash hard. It doesn’t fight reality or wish it were somewhere else—it simply flows. Its strength comes from its flexibility. And ironically, it can change its surroundings because it doesn’t resist them.

When we accept the moment as it is, we see more clearly, act more naturally, and allow change to happen without forcing it.

In the same way, when we let go of cravings, our minds become more fluid. We stop resisting what’s happening right now and find freedom within the moment—rather than trying to escape it.

If you like practising with affirmations, here’s one to sit with:

“I allow the moment to shape me, and in doing so, I remain free.”

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07/12/2025

The party-dance scene in Babylon isn’t your typical polite ballroom dance, it’s wild, raw, and full of energy. The jazz-infused music, the dancing bodies, and the lively crowd create a sensory overload that lets you shed your inhibitions, stress, and overthinking. But even in all that chaos, there’s beauty—in the music, the movement, the ambition, and the human desire to connect.

Being part of such an intense scene can really motivate you to express yourself, whether that's through dancing, moving, journaling, making art, or any spontaneous outlet you can think of. It’s a reminder to tap into those impulsive, unfiltered, and emotional parts of yourself. Sometimes, a powerful moment in a movie can give you the “okay” to let go in your own life—to dance around in your room, create messy art, and embrace the imperfections.

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06/12/2025

Here’s another triplet to practise being graceful. Being aware really helps when it comes to feeling grace, so it’s good to notice the little things we can appreciate throughout the day and reflect on them later. I try to come up with at least three things in the areas of Joy, Comfort, and Inspiration.

Even though it’s Saturday and I’ve caught a cold that’s keeping me from being as active as usual, I can still fill these categories:

Joy ✨

Seeing my son’s cute sleeping face this morning
Finding out The Paper Kites are coming to Bristol in February!
Rewatching an episode of The Durrells always makes me laugh, especially on gloomy days.

Comfort ☕

My cosy, fluffy blanket
Hot morning coffee
Super soft almond & milk hand cream
Tasty hot lentil stew for lunch

Inspiration 💛

Going through some of the quotes from my last year’s desk calendar
Listening to a podcast about charisma
Starting `20 Days of Heart Healing` on Insight Timer

I hope you're finding some good sources of joy and inspiration too!🙂

04/12/2025

I usually just grab whatever aromatic oil catches my eye in the cupboard, but after a suggestion in a recent course, I decided to try black spruce — and I’m so glad I did.

They mentioned that Mars, the God of War, would wear it, which definitely got me curious. The scent makes perfect sense.

It’s beautiful: grounding without being intense, deep and resinous with warm woodsy notes, and none of the sharpness you get from pine. It feels like the presence of a warrior with a calm, cool, and gentle kind of authority.

A quiet strength in aroma form.🌲

01/12/2025

Freedom has always been important to me — not the big, dramatic kind, but the quiet kind. The kind that lets you breathe, choose, and slow down.

That’s why this haiku from Ákos Fodor resonates so much. It’s a gentle reminder that we’re allowed to move at our own pace, even when the world offers more or expects more.

Sometimes freedom is simply taking small sips, even from a tall glass!

Here is the original version of the poem, in Hungarian:

"Nagy pohárból is
lehet kicsit kortyolni.
– Ez is: szabadság!"

29/11/2025

I used to think negatively about people who expect gifts, assuming they were just entitled. But then I learned something interesting from Dr. Gary Chapman: gifting can actually be one of the five love languages — just another way people feel loved and cared for.

The 5 Love Languages:

Words of Affirmation – Feeling loved through appreciation, encouragement, and kind words. A note or text can mean the world.

Acts of Service – Actions speak louder than words. Helping with a task shows care.

Receiving Gifts – Not about materialism; it’s the thought and effort that counts. A small surprise can make them feel truly seen.

Quality Time – Being fully present, sharing moments without distractions. Even a walk together can mean so much.

Physical Touch – Hugs, hand-holding, or simple closeness can communicate love deeply.

We all give and receive love differently. Understanding someone’s love language isn’t about labels — it’s about noticing how they feel cared for.

If you want to find out your love language, take the quiz here — it’s free, but it will tell you your primary category only: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

28/11/2025

I saw this guy playing this song live the other day, and the crowd shouting “Show me Naomi!” is still stuck in my head.

Catchy beat, but the message hit me too—things just flow better when we’re open about who we are and what we need.

✨ Be real
✨ Be clear
✨ Be seen

…and don’t hide the parts that matter.

Bahamas || Live @ 885FM || "Show Me Naomi" || 01.25.18Recorded and Mixed at 885FM KCSN Southern CaliforniaBy Tristan Dolce & Matt Blake

23/11/2025

I picked up this idea about peaceful communication from Davidji on Insight Timer, the meditation app, and it really stuck with me. He shares something called the “Test of Three,” and it’s surprisingly simple—but powerful.

Before we speak, pause and ask:

1. Is it true?
2. Is it kind?
3. Is it necessary or useful?

Here’s how it might play out in an everyday situation—I made up this example randomly:

You’re invited to a Christmas gathering, but you’re overwhelmed, busy, and truly exhausted. You feel guilty about declining, but you pause and run it through the Test of Three.

Is it true?
Yes—you really are stretched thin and need rest. You’re not making excuses.

Is it kind?
Kindness here means being honest without over-explaining or apologising excessively. Something like:
“Thank you so much for thinking of me. I’m going to pass this time—I’m really needing some downtime, but I appreciate the invitation.”

Is it necessary or useful?
Saying yes out of guilt only drains you and doesn’t serve anyone. Saying no clearly and kindly respects both your energy and their expectations.

When we actually use these three questions, we communicate with clarity and compassion—leaving behind something meaningful rather than spreading negativity. In Davidji’s words, we leave sweet nectars behind instead of toxic residue.

Simple, not always easy—but absolutely worth it. ✨

Message me if you want help applying this principle to a scenario of your own!😉

21/11/2025

A lot of people think monotony means life is empty, so they run after excitement wherever they can find it. But watching the looping dance in this video made me see it a bit differently.

The repetition doesn’t feel boring — it actually creates this calm, steady vibe. Monotony is not emptiness; it’s a kind of stability that my nervous system understands. It reminds me how life’s routines can hold us together and keep us grounded. The little flashes of joy feel even brighter in contrast — just like how a simple background makes any movement or colour shift stand out.

Kind of a nice thought to wrap up the workweek:
maybe monotony isn’t something to escape, but something that quietly supports us.

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19/11/2025

I stumbled into a meditation and mindfulness class at the gym the other day, and what really struck me was how many men were there — including the instructor. It’s great to see the gym embracing mental well-being and even better to see so many people, especially men, showing up for it.

People often joke about how different men and women are, but I’ve never really bought into that. At the end of the day, we all want to care, to give, and to receive.

Cheers to men today, on International Men’s Day!!🥂