
11/10/2025
✨ PRESENCE over ADVICE ✨
So often, we feel the urge to help by giving advice, sharing insights, or finding solutions. But this week, I was reminded: the most healing thing we can offer is not our advice … but our presence.
I saw this clearly in my counselling placement with a young person. I noticed myself slipping into “fixing mode” - high expectations, pressure of limited sessions, trying too hard to apply theory. I wanted to help create change quickly. And doing that, I lost touch with the person in front of me, I felt stuck.
After reflecting this, I let go of the need to “fix” and simply showed up, everything shifted.
And you know what happened?
💫 She smiled when I played with slime alongside her
💫 She shared her plans and stories while we coloured on the floor
💫 She showed me her world, and I simply showed interest
And it made me realise�
🌱 Children don’t always need advice, they need our presence.�
🌱 Friends may not need fixing, just someone who truly listens.�
🌱 Even we sometimes don’t need answers, only a safe space to be.