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💫Neurodivergent Therapist | Somatic Trauma Therapist | Training Practitioner - Trauma, Autism, ADHD 💫
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22/11/2025

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19/11/2025

As it is International Men’s Day I want to reflect on my experience raising boys who are now men.

When they were young, I always encouraged them to open up and explore their feelings with me. They did this so naturally until around age 13 or 14 when they both shut down emotionally at the exact same age.

It shocked me because that’s not how I raised them, but I also knew their peers, school and the wider messages about what it means to “be a man” had a big influence.

When I asked them why they stopped sharing their feelings they said they didn’t want to show emotion because it wasn’t seen as being “tough.” Good old misogyny shaping boys once again.

As they’ve grown into adults, especially after my eldest went through so much trauma following the accident, he has opened up to me about his mental health.

But he still won’t see a therapist, even with his own mum being one. This is what messages around masculinity can do.

So on International Men’s Day, I think about how far we have come and still how far we need to go.

Men are human. Humans are biologically wired to feel. Emotions aren’t weak. Emotions are courageous. Suppressing them doesn’t make them disappear, it just buries them until they come up in unhealthy, harmful and painful ways.

And when a man finally feels safe, seen, heard and cared for it can feel scary.

It can make you panic or want to shut down. But with the right person, whether that’s a partner, friend or therapist, vulnerability becomes freeing.

Healing becomes possible. Mental health improves in ways you never expected.

To the men reading this… talking about your mental health is strength. And you don’t have to do any of it alone.

18/11/2025

Therapy can change your life…
But only when it actually understands the way your brain works.

For autistic and ADHD people, traditional therapy often misses the mark.

It focuses on fixing behaviours, pushing “consistency,” and expecting you to think, feel and process in a neurotypical way.

Neurodivergent-affirming therapy is different.
It meets your brain where it’s at.

It works with your sensory needs, your pace, your communication style, your shutdowns, your overwhelm, and the way your nervous system responds to life.

It doesn’t shame you for not doing therapy the “right” way.
It doesn’t ask you to mask in the one place you’re supposed to feel safe.

And it doesn’t try to mould you into someone you’re not.

Instead, it gives you tools, language and understanding so you can finally make sense of yourself and build a life that actually aligns with you!

Because when therapy aligns with your neurology, it doesn’t just help…

It transforms how you relate to yourself, your past, and the people around you. It transforms how you feel at a core level.

Did you ever do therapy and feel like there was no hope left for you because you couldn’t even “get therapy right”?

I certainly did and it wasn’t pleasant!

15/11/2025

The struggle between needing rest and feeling like you should be productive is real.

Sometimes weekends aren’t about recharging for Monday.
They’re about recovering from the week that already drained you.

If you spend the weekend doing nothing, that’s your nervous system catching up, your body telling you to give yourself some space to reset ❤️‍🩹

If we’re constantly busy, our bodies will eventually force us to rest at the most inconvenient times.

That guilt we feel often comes from watching our parents constantly being busy when we were kids, or from society telling us we’re less worthy if we aren’t “doing.”

If you are a parent, this guilt can be amplified by watching other families on social media, constantly ‘doing’.

The guilt gremlin gets louder and says “I should be doing more with my kids this weekend.”

Actually, your kids don’t need constant activity, they need a parent to show them that rest is vital for us to recover.

So if you have a weekend full of plans and you already feel exhausted, see if you can implement some rest throughout, reduce your plans, and listen to your body… not the little guilt gremlin on your shoulder telling you to “do more.”

13/11/2025

Kindness and “niceness” aren’t the same thing.

Being nice can mean avoiding discomfort to keep everyone else happy.

Being kind means choosing honesty and care, even when it’s uncomfortable.

It’s kind to say no.

It’s kind to tell someone how their behaviour impacts you.

It’s kind to rest when your body’s saying “enough.”

Kindness without boundaries isn’t kindness, it’s self-abandonment.

So on World Kindness Day, remember:

You don’t have to be nice to be kind. 💛

11/11/2025

When self care starts to feel like a demand rather than something that soothes our nervous system

It can be tricky, especially for those of us who experience all or nothing thinking, to find the balance. We often set out with the best intentions, wanting to build consistent self care habits, but it can quickly start to feel like another rule or responsibility we have to follow.

We might notice an inner tug of war between needing structure so we don’t forget to care for ourselves, and feeling trapped when that structure becomes too rigid. When self care turns into another “should,” it stops being nurturing and instead reactivates our stress response, the very thing it’s meant to calm.

Sometimes self care isn’t about doing it every day; it’s about listening to what our body and nervous system need in that particular moment and shifting from judgment and self criticism to acceptance and compassion.

09/11/2025

Good morning you lovely lot! ☀️

How are you all doing as we edge closer to Christmas?

I’m going to be writing a newsletter soon about my relationship with Christmas over the years because, honestly, it’s rarely been a good one.

As I’ve got older and done a lot of work on myself, things have definitely shifted. Rebuilding and redefining relationships with family has made it a much gentler, more enjoyable time, and this year is actually the first in a long while that I’m really looking forward to. But I acknowledge that rebuilding and redefining relationships isn’t always an option for many people ❤️‍🩹

That said, I know Christmas can bring up a lot for many of us, feelings of dread, loneliness, and old childhood wounds that tend to resurface.

So during my usual Sunday morning musings over a cup of coffee, I thought this would be a perfect topic to write about and hopefully help some of you feel a little less alone in how you feel about the season.

This year I also want to be more intentional with gifts, supporting small businesses and giving things that feel meaningful. (Although, let’s be honest, my two teens won’t be on board with that idea… so we’ll take them out of the equation for now 😂. I’ve genuinely got no clue what to get either of them beyond a selection box, so ideas are very welcome! 🥰)

But for the rest of the family, what small businesses do you love and recommend? 🎄🤶🎁

06/11/2025

10 ways to support transitioning between tasks, especially if you work from home or an office where the tasks are all on a computer or laptop and you need to move from one thing to another 🥴

18/09/2025

Therapy isn’t lectures or quick fixes.

It should feel safe, like coffee with a friend but with the depth to explore the hidden parts of yourself you’ve been avoiding.

It’s where you’re met with curiosity, not shame.

Where your ‘stuff’ doesn’t get tangled up in someone else’s beliefs.

Where they don’t fall into people pleasing and say what you want to hear.

Where your therapist does the work too, so they have the capacity to hold yours and help you untangle it.

That’s what therapy is… safe, curious, and deeply human.

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