24/02/2026
“One of my friends got married quite early, she g0t pr£gnant to a much older guy when we were in 200 level. That was the first ore Iyawo wedding I attended in my life.
By the time we got to final year, she already had two kids.
Wnenever I visited her, there would always be something to help her with. It’s either she needs help with the dishes or folding the clothes litt£red on the sitting room couch.
One day, I went to visit her in company of our third friend and her whole house was upside down even though it wasn’t an impromptu visit.
She was aware we were coming at least two days before yet she couldn’t put her house in order.
Plates and cups were everywhere, building blocks were all over the floor, crayon marks were all over the wall and to worsen the whole situation, the enter sitting room was filled with the sm£ll of urin£, the exact sm£ll that one perceives from dried urin£ clothes 🤦♀️
She offered us food but we couldn’t eat. We assisted her with one or two things as usual then left not quite long after because we just couldn’t stay there. It was that b@d.
On our way to the hostel, my friend broke the silence and said “se Biola nikan lo ma koko bimo laye yi ni? (Is Biola the first person to give birth on earth? ) how come her house is always dirty?”
We had a long discussion on how she’s very lazy and how she needed to buckle up so her husband wont leave her, afterall, who wants a dirt¥ sm£lly woman?
I remember saying “omo meeji pere” (only two children) what will happen when she has more?
We didn’t go back to her house till we graduated and went for NYSC
I got married shortly after NYSC and my daughter came. As early as six months old, she was already turning the house upside down. She had a masters degree in pouring water everywhere and a doctorate degree in t£aring paper and money.
All I had to do was remove my eyes from her for one second and she would p££ on the extension box, paint the floor with my lipstick and break two plates 🤦♀️
One particular day, I was super stressed 😩 all I needed was rest but the house needed cleaning. NEPA had taken light for days and only brought it that afternoon.
I washed the piled up clothes then used the soapy water to wash the toilets.
After washing the toilets and arranging the rooms, I moved to the sitting room. As I was arranging something, she was sc@ttering it right after me so I decided to clean the kitchen first then come back to the sitting room later.
My daughter who had started walking came to meet me and said “mummy, poo poo” I immediately carried her to the bathroom and brought out her potty. I knew she would not sit on the potty if I didn’t stay there with her.
With soap still in my hands, I sat on the WC facing this girl for over ten minutes but she wouldn’t poo. I returned the potty and went back to the kitchen to continue washing plates.
Not more than two minutes after, she came again and added a little cry this time around, “mummy poo poo” I took her to the bathroom again and placed her on her potty. She just sat there doing nothing but continued smiling at me for over five minutes.
I brought her out and instinctively wore her a diaper and went back to continue the work I was doing.
We were together in the kitchen and I only got carried away for a moment. By the time I jolted back to the present, she was no longer in the kitchen.
Guess where I found my daughter and guess what she was doing?
She removed the diaper, climbed the neatly laid bed and pooed right there in the centre of our thick white duvet.
Immediately she saw me, she clapped and said “mummy, poo poo” she was so excited and kept shining her two little teeth
I felt like carrying her and h!tt!ng her at least a hundred times but I just couldn’t. I was so w£ak and tired that I just sat down on the cold tile and started talking to myself.
“Iru kileleyi iwo Olorun, ma ma je ki omo yi fi wahala pami” (what kind of thing is this oh God, make this pikin no use stress kpai me abeg ) as I was talking, tears started dropping from my eyes.
Right there and then, the picture of my friend’s situation quickly flashed through my mind. I started wondering how she was able to cope with having two kids in two years. Only God knows what she might have gone through. Me wey get only one sef, e dey do me like say make I leave am run go Cameroon go start another life 🥹
I had to bathe her, clean the bed and soak the duvet. Thereafter, I just lied down on the tiles and started begging God for forgiveness for thinking she was lazy and dirty.
Somehow, both of us managed to fall asleep and didn’t wake till my husband came back from work.
The first thing he noticed was the dirt¥ sitting room
My husband: Why ti e fi gbogbo ile sile bayi? Ti mo ba n mu alejo bo nko? ( why did you leave the whole house sc@ttered like this? What if I was coming with a guest?
Me: Any guest that cannot sit in a dirty sitting room should go back to their clean house, I can’t k!||myself
My husband: Dear, what happened to you?
Me: Ask your daughter 😡
Meanwhile, the daughter was sleeping and giving cute baby snores 😴 looking like the absolute angel of our lives. No one would believe she had made me cry earlier.
Chai! Don’t have kids except it’s very important 😒…” - A Nigerian lady, Aanuoluwapo Ade-Alao, has shared her experience about motherhood, revealing the harsh realities that made her reflect on mocking a friend for having a messy home.
