Έλενα Καμπισοπούλου, Ψυχολόγος- Γραφείο Δέκα

10/10/2025

This is a perspective shift for many people, and it’s also a sign of improving emotional maturity when we can begin to hold space for these complex and often conflicting feelings and truths.

People aren’t simply “good” or “bad.”
We’re all complex, multi-layered, with complicated histories, deeply ingrained patterns, and, for the most part, I believe we’re all trying to do the best we can.

Which means good people can do bad things sometimes.
But seeing the good in someone doesn’t mean you have to stay in harmful patterns or unsafe dynamics.
It means that we can still see and love them and understand how they came to a behavior, AND not be willing to tolerate that behavior.

Learning to separate out the person from the behavior is a sign of your own growth and maturity.
It means growing to trust yourself to maintain boundaries without needing hate, anger, or judgment.
You’re allowed to have boundaries simply because what you need is what you need.

Remember, boundaries ARE kind.
Boundaries are letting people see you; boundaries are part of how we co-create relationships together, through sharing our limits and needs with one another.
They’re how we build real trust because we can see how people respond when we show them parts of ourselves in naming what we need.

If you’re new to creating the types of boundaries that welcome people in, there is a lot of emotion in this process. The Relationship Management Workshop begins October 23rd. Come learn new ways to navigate conflict, communication, intimacy, repair, and more as you work on deepening your ability to relate more securely in your relationships.
Last workshop of 2025! Just a few spots left.
https://theeqschool.co/relationship-management-workshop

09/10/2025

09/10/2025

Mistakes themselves rarely destroy relationships...it’s the lack of acknowledgment that does. Relationships thrive on repair, not flawless behavior.

1. Acknowledgment matters more than perfection

People don’t need perfection from each other; they need validation that their pain or experience is real. When one partner minimizes, denies, or dismisses the impact of their actions, it creates a rupture far deeper than the original mistake because it signals indifference to the relationship itself.

2. Unacknowledged mistakes erode trust over time

What seems like a single refusal to acknowledge harm actually sets a pattern. Over time, repeated avoidance teaches the other person that their feelings are unsafe or unwelcome, which breeds distance, resentment, and silence. In this way, the damage compounds from the erosion of trust that comes when accountability is absent. Trust isn’t lost in one blow; it’s chipped away through neglect of acknowledgment.

03/10/2025

The world remembers Jane Goodall—not just for her science, but for her humanity.

On Wednesday, the world lost a voice that reminded us that real change doesn’t come from shouting past each other, but from listening—even when it’s hardest—and having the courage to engage.

Her life was proof that empathy and dialogue can transform not only how we see the natural world, but also how we see one another. Let’s carry that forward.

29/09/2025

To be seen, emotionally & intellectually attuned to, known, and validated is a human need.
It's a need that fosters our growth and development, and our ability to relate securely to ourselves, and others in relationships.

And when we don't get this need met at least somewhat consistently in childhood and adolescence, we struggle, suffer, and adapt.
We develop strategies.

Some develop walls where they don't even bother trying —
they retreat, not believing anyone is actually interested in knowing them.

Others find themselves feeling incredibly anxious if someone misunderstands them, or feel rejected if someone doesn't reflect their emotions back.
So they over-explain, reaching for external validation so they can feel calm inside again.

For those who didn't receive mirroring and attunement, it can be really hard to trust their own feelings.
They become "external processors,"
and find it hard to feel like their inner world is "real" until someone validates it or mirrors back to them in a safe way.

If this sounds like you, you don't act this way because you're broken,
it's because humans develop in relationship.
To develop secure attachment, we need to be seen, known, understood, and validated to learn how to be able to do that ourselves.
To learn how to trust our own inner worlds and to be able to make sense of our own feelings.

And in secure adult relationships, we offer mirroring, attunement, understanding, and validation to each other regularly.

If this sounds like you, it's not too late.
Healthy, secure adult relationships can help us learn how to meet ourselves safely, and over time we can develop the skill of being able to become more aware of and trusting of our own internal feelings, needs, and boundaries.

If you're working on developing the skill of attunement in your relationships (which can be hard if you didn't receive it!), the Relationship Management Workshop begins October 23.
6 weeks, small group, interactive work in a compassionate space filled with likeminded folks who are also doing the work.
Don't miss out - this is the last workshop of 2025! There are 6 spots left.
https://theeqschool.co/relationship-management-workshop

27/09/2025

5 Levels Of Listening .
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Credit wright

24/09/2025

Maybe this seems obvious reading it here, but it's something MANY of us struggle with.

Why don't you see it the same way I do?
Why aren't you upset?
Why aren't you more excited about this?

Because we're all different, that's why!

We all move at our own pace and process things in our own way (based on our lived experiences, our mood, our values, our traumas, our emotional patterns, our triggers, etc), and it's really important that we're given the time and space to do so,
AND it's important that we allow that space for others.

This is not an out to ignore a conversation or a conflict, but it's moreso to help those who feel really anxious or upset when someone doesn't react in the way that you expect them to, in the timeframe in which you expect them to.

Instead of creating stories about why this might be, get curious instead.

Ask questions about what's going on.
Meet your own fears with tenderness and compassion.
And ask the other what they need from you (and then really listen to the answer).

Try to understand their perspective BEFORE trying to get them to understand yours.
I promise you, asking to understand before forcing someone else to understand you first will yield enormous returns in your relationships.

In the Relationship Workshop beginning Oct 23, we deep dive into what secure behaviors in conflict look like - and how to take greater responsibility for what's your while respecting the other person, and how to start to navigate it with more honesty, integrity, and safety.
This is the last workshop of 2025!
The 4pm cohort is filling up!
https://theeqschool.co/relationship-management-workshop

20/09/2025

Virginia Woolf

17/09/2025

We live in a culture that promises five easy steps that will help you change in 21 days — break a habit, start a streak, fix yourself with enough willpower. But trauma doesn’t work that way.

What looks like a ‘bad habit’ is often a survival strategy — something your body learned to protect you when danger left no other choice.

Shutting down, lashing out, numbing, perfectionism…these weren’t flaws. They were your body’s way of keeping you safe.

And this is why quick fixes fall flat. You can’t punish or discipline a trauma response into disappearing. If willpower were enough, you’d have fixed this already. Healing happens deeper — in your nervous system, as it slowly learns that safety is possible again.

Real change rarely looks dramatic. It shows up in small shifts — a breath that settles you, a night of rest without dread, reaching for connection instead of isolation. These aren’t ‘small wins” that accumulate over time. They’re your nervous system practicing safety — and practice rewires.

The climb may be slow, but here’s what makes it worth it: healing doesn’t just take away pain. It creates space for joy, for connection you can actually trust, for feeling at home in your own body. And that’s something no quick fix could ever give you.

12/09/2025

From my first book Inward: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1449495753/

11/09/2025

Via 🤎