Xenia Hatzithomas - This Is Your Parenthood

Xenia Hatzithomas - This Is Your Parenthood Εκπαίδευση και υποστήριξη γονέων

From our house to yours, Merry Christmas! May your holidays be filled with love, laughter and light. ❤️🎄✨❤️🎄✨
26/12/2024

From our house to yours, Merry Christmas! May your holidays be filled with love, laughter and light.

❤️🎄✨❤️🎄✨

‘We don’t ‘move on’ from grief. We move forward with it.’ - Nora McInernyTo each and every parent living with loss,I sha...
15/10/2024

‘We don’t ‘move on’ from grief. We move forward with it.’ - Nora McInerny

To each and every parent living with loss,
I share this gentle reminder once again, a reminder that your grief is valid.

If these days, filled with reminders and rituals of remembrance, have been tougher than expected, know that it is understandable if you do or don’t want to take part.

Your grief is your grief. Period.

There is no ‘right’ way through. No requirements. No rules.

Respectfully and with love,
🤍
Xenia

Art

When a mother somewhere forgives herself for being human, earth exhales a little. - breeze
12/10/2024

When a mother
somewhere
forgives herself
for being human,
earth exhales a little.
- breeze

Remember: What we usually see on social media is not a complete, representative version of one’s life, but a carefully s...
09/10/2024

Remember: What we usually see on social media is not a complete, representative version of one’s life, but a carefully selected view of the highs, and usually an idealistic version which leaves out all of the hard but important lows.

It’s no surprise then that rise of social media platforms has come with increased stress and a heightened sense of doubt as we (consciously or not) compare and contrast our lives to others.

I realise, as I shared some of the highlights of our family weekend away, how easy it is to fall into this trap. How simple it would have been to share a partial view of the good stuff (no doubt, there was lots of it) without also mentioning the not so good (which there was loads of too!). So I decided to change that.

Here are 7 of the raw, hard moments that made this trip well, real:

1. Having to stop by the side of the road to soothe a crying 8 year old whose older brother accidentally stepped on her in the back seat.

2. Listening to my kids argue 4372 times about who is going to sit, sleep, stand where.

3. Juggling the excitement of having our kids participate in their first mini marathon whilst simultaneously managing underlying fear of them getting lost, hurt or sick given the pouring rain.

4. Saying ‘no’ umpteen times to unnecessary soft drinks, sweets and goodies which we have already had too much of (oh, and having to explain why again and again and again).

5. 2 out of 3 kids falling asleep at the table 47 minutes into Saturday night’s birthday (my husband’s) dinner! (After having waited 3 hours for the rain to stop so we could even leave the room for dinner.)

6. Dealing with pre-teen ‘whatever-ness’ and an overall lack of enthusiasm about stuff they would have been so excited about when they were little. (Hello adolescence!)

7. The. Constant. Bickering. And trying very hard to keep my nervous system at bay while balancing both intervening and also letting them work it out (and praying that they do so quickly!).

Voila! Let’s not forget to honour the hard stuff and to remember that real life doesn’t need to be filtered through social lenses.

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Many years ago, whilst nursing my son at a local park, a curious, kind little boy approached me and innocently asked ‘wh...
08/10/2024

Many years ago, whilst nursing my son at a local park, a curious, kind little boy approached me and innocently asked ‘what the baby was doing’.

‘He’s breastfeeding’, I replied with a smile.

Before he could ask anything else, his caretaker, who I assume must have been his grandmother, summoned him not to ‘disrupt’ us. I quickly reassured her that he was not a bother at all, and then just as quickly realised that what she was worried about had nothing to do with disrupting us.

As she and the little boy walked away, I heard him tell her, in the most excited little voice, that ‘the baby was breastfeeding!’.

‘Yes, but that is something the mommy should be doing at home,’ the women explained.

‘Why?’, the boy asked, confused at the suggestion that what I was doing was wrong or at least should not be done in public.

And then came the answer I was certainly not expecting. In simple language which I suppose she deliberately chose to get her message across to the child, she said, ‘Because it’s not nice to see a mother’s breast.’

I was too shocked to speak back then, and frankly didn’t know what to say. But I remember feeling so sad, for the child that was so quickly taught the wrong lesson. For the lady who must have been raised, I thought, with such a negative perception of what it means to have the honour of nursing a child from our bodies. And for the women before me but also those after me, who will continue to be indirectly shamed for doing something so natural.

Today, I remembered this story as I overheard an older lady encourage a young mother to ‘forget about the stupid cover up’ as she struggled to nurse whilst also cover her breast and baby. ‘It’s just a breast’, she exclaimed and then joked, ‘it’s not a weapon. You have nothing to hide and even less to justify.’

How nice, I thought, that we have finally come this far.

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One of the most rewarding things about doing this work is in witnessing the power that one person’s story can have on an...
07/10/2024

One of the most rewarding things about doing this work is in witnessing the power that one person’s story can have on another.

In holding space for parents to share their truth.

In seeing the connection that forms and the comfort that follows when one mother or father realises that they are in fact, not alone.

A bit part of what we do as perinatal professionals, birth workers and parent supporters, is to normalise hard feelings;...
05/10/2024

A bit part of what we do as perinatal professionals, birth workers and parent supporters, is to normalise hard feelings; as in making it ok to experience difficult emotions as we simultaneously raise and love on your children.

We also have a responsibility (one which I take very seriously) to educate parents about where ‘not feeling ok’ borders on or is a clear sign of things like depression or burnout.

So, while my depression related posts rarely get the traction others do, I will continue to share these pieces of information, and will always be a DM away if you want to know more.

Here are 3 helpful ways to distinguish between what are often symptoms of baby blues and signs of postpartum depression:

1. TIME: Baby blues occur within a few days after birth, usually peaking around days 3 to 5 postpartum. Postpartum depression can present at any time during the entire first year postpartum, usually peaking 4 months postpartum.

2. DURATION: Symptoms of baby blues should last no more than a few weeks. Symptoms of postpartum depression will typically last longer than 2 weeks, occur almost daily, and last throughout the day.

3. INTENSITY: Symptoms of baby blues may include crying, feeling overwhelmed or uncertain, fatigue and mood swings, but are often experienced in parallel to a predominantly happy mood. Symptoms of postpartum depression may resemble those of the baby blues but may also include irritability, aggression, sleep disturbance (insomnia or hypersomnia), significant change in appetite, unexplained physical symptoms, recurring anxiety, and feelings of detachment from the baby.

If you or someone you know could benefit from this info, pls share onwards.

This 👆🧡
04/10/2024

This 👆🧡

“Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers - strong, competent, capable mothers who trust the...
04/10/2024

“Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers - strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength.”

- Barbara Katz Rothman

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No one ever mentioned it.In a whole 9 months, not one person said, “you’re about to meet someone entirely new, and it’s ...
03/10/2024

No one ever mentioned it.
In a whole 9 months, not one person said,
“you’re about to meet someone entirely new,
and it’s not your baby, it’s going to be you.”

Photo by the incredible .photographe

The thing that launched me into the world of postpartum/ parenting work was the stark realization, as a new mom with a b...
02/10/2024

The thing that launched me into the world of postpartum/ parenting work was the stark realization, as a new mom with a big, bright vision of what life with my first baby would look like, that there is SO much about postpartum and parenthood that I was not expecting.

For me, it was about not knowing how to navigate all the newness without feeling like I’m doing it all wrong. It was about figuring out how to shush out conflicting opinions as I tried to figure out what was best for me and my baby. And most certainly, it was about feeling completely unprepared for all of the ways becoming a mother would change me emotionally, and completely unsure whether what I was feeling was considered ‘normal’.

What about you? Is it about understanding your own physical and emotional needs postpartum? Knowing how to fend off unwanted visitors and advice? Talking about how your relationship with your partner will change after baby? Figuring out how to set up a solid support system?

What is the one thing you wished we talked about more? Share below so I can make sure we’re talking about it!

…And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, “No. This is what’s important.”     ...
02/10/2024

…And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, “No. This is what’s important.”

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This is Your Motherhood is an independent maternal support center born out of the belief that every woman deserves to be supported as she experiences pregnancy, birth and the incredibly transformational transition into motherhood.

We offer prenatal classes, interactive workshops, postpartum doula and lactation counseling services designed to educate and empower women, their partners and their families on their parenthood journey. Our services are offered in English, Greek, and French, and our doors open to all persons on the parenting team, regardless of s*x, gender and identification.

Focus Areas (and passion points!)


  • Talking honestly about the transition to motherhood