Wishful Mammy

11/07/2025

Great information about reducing exposure to wireless radiation in pregnancy... https://www.babysafeproject.org

11/06/2025

“It’s not fair that nobody else gets to bond with the baby because you’re breastfeeding.”

I’ve heard this one before. And let me tell you something…

It wasn’t fair when I was the one sick every morning.
It wasn’t fair when my body stretched and broke itself down to grow this baby.
It wasn’t fair when I labored for hours.
It wasn’t fair when I bled, healed, and still showed up to feed this baby through the tears, the exhaustion, the pain.

So no, I won’t feel guilty that I’m the one with the closest bond through breastfeeding.
I earned this bond. Through every sleepless night, cracked ni**le, and moment of selflessness.

And let’s not forget, there are so many ways to bond with a baby.
But this? This one is mine. And I refuse to apologize for it.

19/05/2025

11/05/2025

The words that echo in your mind for a lifetime

Nothing can prepare you for hearing the words ‘we can’t find a heartbeat’.


If you need support following loss please head to: - SayingGoodbye.org
All of my books offer support, stories and grief tips and exercises to help you process pain, trauma and grief. The books also offer advice, practical support and quotes to help you navigate daily life on the other side of loss. The books can also be used to educate people on what loss is like if they are wanting to offer valuable support to the bereaved. So which books should you read? If you have lost a baby (at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in early years or lost following IVF (whether that’s pre or post getting a positive pregnancy test result)) the books you need are ‘Saying Goodbye’ and ‘The Baby Loss Guide’. Together these two books will offer you 150 days of support and advice. If you are considering pregnancy following a loss or infertility the book you need is ‘Pregnancy After loss’, If you are grieving the loss of a partner, parent, sibling, grandparent or grandchild, loss of a friend or anyone else the book you need is ‘Beyond Goodbye’. All of my books are available worldwide. You can purchase them from all good bookstores (including Amazon) - Links in my bio ♥️

22/02/2025

Aromatherapy massage is a type of massage therapy that incorporates the use of essential oils to enhance the therapeutic benefits of the massage.

These oils, extracted from plants, possess unique properties that can promote relaxation, reduce stress, alleviate pain, and improve overall well-being. During an aromatherapy massage, the essential oils are diluted with a carrier oil, and then applied to the skin using various massage techniques.
The combination of the massage strokes and the aromatic properties of the essential oils creates a synergistic effect, promoting both physical and emotional healing.

17/02/2025

Looking for a little stress relief? Massage can work wonders! It's great for calming your mind, easing sore muscles, and even giving your mood a serious boost. If you haven't tried it lately, it might be time to schedule a session.

05/11/2024

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05/11/2024

This is a quote from Homebirth Safe and Sacred, by midwife Kim Osterholzer.

And I couldn’t agree with it more.

In fact, I believed in this project so much that I ended up being the back-up, last-minute second midwife for this book. If you want to know how and why, search for “home birth” on https://www.sarawickham.com

This book helps get information out to those who have questions about home birth safety in an affordable, readable format.

It is written for a US audience, so some of the information about midwifery care is US-specific, but the stories and the evidence transcend national borders.

I loved the first draft of this book so much that I put two days of my life on hold so that I could help make it even better.

I hope you’ll take a look and see what you think.

And if you’d like more information on home birth, I have an entire information hub at www.sarawickham.com/research-updates/is_home_birth_safe/

30/10/2024

Far too many children are punished for being children. Punished for not having the impulse control and emotional regulation abilities of adults and punished for adults having expectations of them that are far too high. Punishing a child for an emotional meltdown, because they have immature regulation skills won’t help them to learn to regulate any quicker, but it may impede it. The next time your child behaves in a way that is undesirable, ask yourself “could they have handled this any better, with their level of brain development?”.

Being mindful of neurological development is critical when you discipline. Most mainstream discipline methods – time out, naughty steps, exclusion, shaming and loss of privileges – expect cognitive abilities from children that they just don’t have. Toddlers won’t sit on a naughty step, contemplate their actions and vow to do better next time, simply because they can’t. Preschoolers won’t hypothesise about future actions when they have been sent to their room, because they can’t. Effective discipline always starts from a position of understanding the neurological development of children and what they are capable of at any given age.

For more on effective, developmentally based, discipline check out my Gentle Discipline book:

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28/10/2024

Your children are learning to love by watching you...

The way you speak to your partner is how they will learn to speak to them.

How you make your partner feel special, is how they will learn to make their partner feel special.

How you talk to about your partner in front of your kids will show them how they should be spoken about by their partner.

Everything matters. But how you act with your partner leaves the biggest impact.

They are learning to love, how to love, by watching you.

28/10/2024

Perspective 🐦‍⬛

28/10/2024

Lets celebrate the clingy babies!

Why are we so obsessed with not allowing babies and young children to ‘cling’ to us?

It is this attachment that is so important for raising a child who will become a confident and independent adult.

A clingy baby or child is a great sign!

Tag a friend who could do with hearing this message today.

For more baby and toddler sleep mythbusting check out the new edition of my Gentle Sleep Book:

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