04/10/2022
Have you ever wondered what is synchronicity? Why it happens & what does it mean?
How come you are in an exact time & place and you meet someone? What is that encounter about? What kind of story is it written there?
Our experiences whatever they may be are simple facts, either pleasant or unpleasant. There is no such things as just 'good' or 'bad'. This is an evaluation we make later when we attribute meaning to a situation.
Think, for example, that your parents didnt love you the way you wanted them to as children & you assumed that this was because you were too difficult, too weird,too demanding etc. Of course you had to believe in something in order to justify their behaviour and lack of attunement. Of course,you couldnt imagine that there could be something related to their inability to love, even themselves, and, yet, this could be the truth.
So you have already created your story,that you dont deserve to be loved,you are too difficult & too weird and you go on building your lives around these truths.
Until at some point (through therapy or otherwise) you realise that this is just a story. It is not the ultimate truth. Of course you are left with the wound of not being loved by your parents the way you wanted to, but now you can heal this, by unbelieving that it was your fault and by loving yourself and being loved by others who appreciate you for who you truly are.
Exactly the same happens with encounters. Every day when you go out of your house (where there are people), you can meet that special someone, a new friend, a grumpy gizzard, a goodmorning smile, or noone at all depending on yours and their mood, intentions, desires, availability. Then you can built a story around it, a story you can invest in with feelings, you can colour it and put it in your life's book among other stories. A story of love, of rejection, of bonding, of lust and so on.
We are all here, moving around directed by conscious and unconnscious drives, we cross paths with others, with some our paths are being entagled, with others they separate quickly. We constantly co create and construct meaning, we are all artists in life's 'blank' canvas. ☺️❤️