06/02/2026
Όλοι έχουμε ανάγκη από αποδοχή, σύνδεση και αίσθηση του ανήκειν· ταυτόχρονα όμως έχουμε ζωτική ανάγκη και αναφαίρετο δικαίωμα να είμαστε ελεύθερα ο εαυτός μας…💫
I think it's an incredibly disempowering thing.
To have tried to fit in, time and time again.
Just to feel rejected just because of who we are.
It's makes us feel flawed.
It makes us feel unaccepted.
Like there's just something deeply and fundamentally wrong with us.
Because you see, I think all of us long for a sense of acceptance.
Belonging.
Whether be it friends, or even be loved.
But when that doesn't happen.
Especially time and time again.
Doesn't all evidence point to the fact that yes?
There it's me?
That I'm not good enough?
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What really inspires me and that I think is so deeply underrated...
Is being on a journey and watching people quietly and gently find change within themselves.
And the post today is inspired by not just one, but actually several of the wonderful people and clients I've come across.
Where despite having gone through the most painful of relational rejections.
Even pure abandonment in some.
They've sat down and processed these deeply painful emotions.
And didn't give up on the possibility of what's to come.
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You see, and again this point is such an important one.
We all long to be loved, understood and accepted don't we?
But that can never truly be done be shrinking ourselves.
All that does it puts us at the mercy of others.
Telling us "this version of us is not good enough".
At the same time, realizing that adapting and trying to fit ourselves into spaces that dont fit us.
Just makes us end up feeling lonely, isolated and still not good enough.
So we give up the act.
Understanding that it's not eveyrone will accept us.
And that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with us either.
Yet still we can choose ourselves.
To show up as ourselves.
Some people will go.
But wonderfully enough, this makes space for the right people to come.
Just give it time okay?
Know that it's a two way street too.
We can do our best to meet people's needs.
But don't forget that your needs are important too.
(because that's what it means to be truly seen, understood and accepted as you for "you")
Take care,
Hernping
P. S. Dedicated to A, JY, and to my past self too.
