心理治療師Janice Lam

心理治療師Janice Lam Psychotherapist - supporting professionals in Hong Kong & beyond

Janice是一位受過專業訓練,私人執業的認證心理治療師及母職教練。她擅長幫助女性處理影響她們生活的困擾,包括對工作、人際關係、家庭和自我價值感的不滿。當中,女性職業生涯輔導是她的專長。作為認證遊戲治療執行師,她於面對情緒及行為問題的兒童、及家長輔導亦有相當經驗。

Janice運用她作為母親和前金融專業人士的知識和經驗,幫助各個階段的女性整理人生並積極實現改變。作為香港首位獲專業認證的母職教練,她致力於引導女性度過由孕期開始的母職期,為準媽媽、母親和適應父母身份的夫婦提供心理健康教育和心理輔導。

For those working in demanding roles, the persistent feeling of needing to perform better can often lead to a cycle of a...
08/09/2025

For those working in demanding roles, the persistent feeling of needing to perform better can often lead to a cycle of anxiety and worry. It’s not uncommon to experience racing thoughts, physical tension, and a sense of being overwhelmed—particularly when the expectations placed upon us seem unrelenting.

What’s happening beneath the surface:
🔹 The body’s natural response:
When faced with continual pressure, our nervous system perceives a threat—whether it’s looming deadlines or perceived judgment. This triggers the stress response, releasing hormones like adrenaline and cortisol, which heighten alertness but also amplify feelings of anxiety.
🔹 The thoughts and worries:
Common concerns include “Am I doing enough?”, “Will I be judged?”, or “What if I fail?” These thoughts often become habitual, and physical sensations—tight shoulders, clenched jaw, rapid heartbeat—can intensify the sense of unease.
🔹 The origins of these worries:
Many of these feelings are rooted in internalised messages — beliefs that worth is tied to productivity or success. Such beliefs often originate from early experiences, and are reinforced by the culture of the workplace.

Practical steps to consider:
✔️ Pause and breathe: When feelings of anxiety emerge, take a moment for mindful breathing—inhale slowly through the nose, exhale gently through the mouth. This activates the body’s relaxation response.
✔️ Ground yourself physically: Feel your feet on the ground, notice the sensation of contact with your chair or the surface beneath you. This anchors you in the present moment.
✔️ Acknowledge your worry: Name the thought—“This is just anxiety”—and remind yourself that thoughts are transient. Observing them without judgment reduces their hold.
✔️ Challenge catastrophic thinking: When your mind spirals into worst-case scenarios, ask yourself, “What evidence supports this? How likely is the worst outcome?”

Remember:
Your value is inherent, not solely based on your output. Managing anxiety is a skill—one that fosters resilience, clarity, and well-being in the workplace.

As we prepare to say farewell to our helper, who has been with us since the birth of our eldest four years ago, I find m...
01/09/2025

As we prepare to say farewell to our helper, who has been with us since the birth of our eldest four years ago, I find myself experiencing a complex blend of emotions.

Balancing my roles as therapist and primary caregiver for my two young girls—aged two and four—feels both daunting and profoundly meaningful. I worry about whether I’ll be able to manage everything on my own and how my little one will adjust to me taking on a more central role in her daily life.

At the same time, I feel a quiet sense of excitement. An opportunity to foster a deeper, more intentional connection with my youngest, guiding her through these formative years with closer attention and care. To nurture and educate with more presence and purpose.

As a therapist and mother, I understand that transitions like these bring both challenge and growth. With patience, compassion, and a little grace, I trust that we will navigate this new chapter—learning, adapting, and ultimately deepening our bonds.

Wishing us all strength and serenity as we step forward. 💫

Working with high performers has shown me that success often masks deeper struggles. Behind their relentless drive for e...
30/08/2025

Working with high performers has shown me that success often masks deeper struggles. Behind their relentless drive for excellence, many carry silent burdens—perfectionism, fear of failure, and burnout.

They chase perfection, hoping it will bring validation, yet beneath that quest is often a fear of inadequacy. This pressure to always perform can be exhausting, leading to emotional suppression and reluctance to show vulnerability.

But growth begins when they take specific, actionable steps:
1. Practice Self-Compassion:
When you catch yourself being overly critical after a mistake, pause and say, ‘It’s okay to be imperfect. I’m learning and growing.’ For example, if you miss a deadline, instead of harsh self-talk, acknowledge your effort and plan how to improve next time.

2. Challenge Perfectionism:
Set a ‘good enough’ standard for tasks. For instance, instead of spending hours perfecting an email, give yourself a time limit—say 15 minutes—and move forward. Celebrate completing tasks rather than obsessing over every detail.

3. Share Vulnerabilities:
Pick one small thing you feel unsure about and share it with a trusted friend or mentor. For example, tell a colleague, ‘I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed with this project,’ instead of hiding your feelings. This builds emotional resilience and authenticity.

4. Prioritise Self-Care:
Schedule regular breaks or activities that restore you—like a walk, meditation, or hobbies. For example, set a reminder to step away from work every hour and do a quick breathing exercise or stretch.

Remember: True strength lies in embracing your imperfections and being authentic. Change takes time, but each small step brings you closer to sustainable success.




If you ever wonder why She & Co is named She & Co… If you ever wonder whether I only support women… “She & Co” embodies ...
21/08/2025

If you ever wonder why She & Co is named She & Co… If you ever wonder whether I only support women…

“She & Co” embodies a holistic and empowering philosophy — recognising that every individual is at the centre of a wider constellation of relationships and responsibilities.

🌿 The “She” celebrates the strength, resilience, and unique journey of women, while the “Co.” represents the collective support system — partners, family, and community — reminding us that she is never truly alone.

💛 My practice is dedicated to supporting not only women but also men and young adults, understanding that healing and growth are interconnected experiences shared within families and communities.

This name reflects my commitment to creating a space where personal well-being and relational harmony flourish together — affirming that every person, regardless of age or gender, is part of a nurturing, supportive network.

🌟 Ultimately, “She & Co” celebrates the beautiful interconnectedness of individual identity and collective support, guiding growth, healing, and empowerment for all members of the family and community.

[photo: me when I first started She & Co in 2022]

Recent weeks in Hong Kong have brought relentless rain, typhoons, and overcast skies ☁️🌧️. While we can’t control the we...
19/08/2025

Recent weeks in Hong Kong have brought relentless rain, typhoons, and overcast skies ☁️🌧️. While we can’t control the weather, it can influence how we feel and perform. Research shows that gloomy days can impair concentration, decrease motivation, and slow reaction times (Keller et al., 2017).

The lack of natural light disrupts our internal clock and lowers serotonin, affecting alertness and mood. This can lead to fatigue, irritability, and sluggishness—making it harder to stay focused and productive. But with some intentional adjustments, you can counteract these effects:

✨ Optimize Light Exposure: ensure your workspace is well-lit with full-spectrum lighting to boost alertness.☀️🧠

✨ Create a ‘Performance Nook’: Dedicate a specific, inviting space for work that’s bright and clutter-free, signaling your brain it’s time to focus. 🌻🪴

✨ Sync Tasks with Natural Rhythms: Schedule demanding tasks during peak daylight hours—usually late morning or early afternoon. 🗂️🧑‍💻

✨ Break into Micro-Intervals: Use focused short bursts (like 25-minute Pomodoros) with quick movement or stretching in between to maintain mental agility (Petersen et al., 2018). 🙆

✨ Incorporate Indoor Mood Boosters: Engage in quick indoor activities such as dance, yoga, or even a brisk walk around the house to stimulate circulation. 🧘🧘‍♀️

✨ Leverage Aromatherapy: Scents like citrus or peppermint can enhance alertness and reduce stress (Moss et al., 2010). 🕯️

✨ Practice Mindful Pauses: Take brief deep breaths or visualize positive outcomes when feeling sluggish to reset focus and energy.😮‍💨😮‍💨

Remember, small, intentional adjustments can make a huge difference. Acknowledging the weather’s impact and proactively adapting helps maintain your productivity and emotional wellbeing—even on the gloomiest days. Stay resilient, and take good care of your energy and mindset.

Stay bright, even on the gloomiest days. 🩶🤍

Have you ever felt the quiet ache when your efforts fall short of perfection? When, despite your unwavering dedication, ...
18/08/2025

Have you ever felt the quiet ache when your efforts fall short of perfection? When, despite your unwavering dedication, the outcome doesn’t quite meet your expectations, and you find yourself questioning, “Am I enough?” If you are someone of high standards and relentless ambition, such moments can feel especially heavy.

Yet, in the stillness of those tender moments, remember this: you are inherently whole, beautifully imperfect, and deserving of compassion. Mistakes and setbacks are not marks of failure, but gentle invitations to pause, reflect, and nurture your inner resilience.

These practices are also the ones I cherish in my own journey, guiding me back to grace and compassion whenever I need it most:

✨ Extend Grace to Your Heart — Release the need for perfection; embrace the beauty of your authentic self, with all its flaws and virtues.
✨ Pause and Breathe — In the quiet of your breath, find a sanctuary of calm, where judgment dissolves and love begins.
✨ Refocus with Tenderness — Shift your gaze from what has gone awry to what is still within your gentle control, and nurture that space.
✨ Wrap Yourself in Compassion — Speak to yourself with the kindness you would offer a cherished friend—soft, understanding, and loving.
✨ Set Elegant, Achievable Intentions — Break your aspirations into graceful steps, celebrating each small victory as a sign of your inner strength.
✨ Seek Sanctuary in Connection — Remember, even the most luminous stars seek the comfort of others’ light. Reach out, and let your soul be nurtured.

Even the brightest stars encounter moments of darkness. It is in these quiet, tender spaces that your resilience deepens, and your true radiance shines through. Trust in your exquisite capacity to love yourself through every imperfection — for you are infinitely worthy, just as you are.

With gentle reverence,

There’s a common concern among parents: “Am I spoiling my child if I give them too much?” But the truth is, providing ch...
17/08/2025

There’s a common concern among parents: “Am I spoiling my child if I give them too much?” But the truth is, providing children with quality experiences, nourishing meals, or meaningful opportunities isn’t inherently problematic. When approached with care and intention, it can be a wonderful way to foster resilience, gratitude, and confidence.

🔑 The key? It’s all about the approach.
It’s not the things themselves, but how we introduce and guide them that makes all the difference.

🌟 Offer with purpose: Whether it’s a new gadget, a special time or a treasured experience, frame it as a shared adventure or a moment to cherish.
Tip: Tell stories, ask questions, and involve your child in the experience to deepen their appreciation.

🌱 Set gentle boundaries: Limit access with warmth—explain why certain experiences or possessions are special, and teach responsibility and gratitude along the way.
Example: “This book is for us to enjoy together, and we’ll share it with others too.”

🤝 Encourage a growth mindset: Celebrate effort, curiosity, and resilience rather than just achievement. When children feel supported and guided, they develop a healthy sense of self-worth.

Research consistently shows that children’s resilience and well-being are more strongly influenced by the warmth, guidance, and boundaries set by parents than by material possessions. A supportive approach—fostering gratitude and emotional strength—turns simple experiences into lifelong lessons. When you give with love and purpose, you’re not spoiling; you’re shaping resilient, confident individuals.

As a strong believer in gentle parenting, I believe it’s not what you give, but how you give it that shapes your child’s character. Thoughtful, loving guidance turns even the simplest of things into precious growth opportunities.

It’s natural we want to offer our children the best, and it’s totally ok when do so with love, purpose, and a gentle touch.
💙✨

Your Stress Could Be Showing Up on Your Skin — Here’s Why ✨  Did you know that your mental state can have a direct impac...
09/08/2025

Your Stress Could Be Showing Up on Your Skin — Here’s Why ✨ Did you know that your mental state can have a direct impact on your skin’s health? 🧠💆‍♀️ Recent research reveals a fascinating connection: when you’re stressed or experiencing hormonal fluctuations, it often shows up in your complexion.

A 2022 study in the Journal of Dermatological Science explains that elevated cortisol levels—commonly linked to chronic stress—can weaken the skin’s natural barrier, leading to increased sensitivity, inflammation, and breakouts. 🔬🔥 Additionally, hormonal changes during your menstrual cycle, pregnancy, or menopause influence oil production, skin elasticity, and pigmentation, often resulting in issues like acne, dryness, or dark spots. ✨

This highlights an important truth: caring for your mental health isn’t just about your mind—it’s essential for radiant, healthy skin too. 🌟 Managing stress and seeking support can make a noticeable difference in how your skin looks and feels.

Remember, true beauty starts from within—nurture your mind and body together for a truly luminous you.

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🌱 Are You Struggling to Let Go? The Asian Parenting Dilemma 🌱In many Asian cultures, parents often believe children need...
06/08/2025

🌱 Are You Struggling to Let Go? The Asian Parenting Dilemma 🌱
In many Asian cultures, parents often believe children need strict guidance — follow instructions exactly, and success will follow. But research shows that over-controlling parenting can actually hold kids back.

Why? When children are told “Do it my way”, they might feel less confident, less creative, and less willing to try on their own.
This can limit their ability to think independently and develop resilience.

Did you know? Studies say that supporting children’s independence boosts their confidence, motivation, and mental health (Grolnick & Ryan, 1989).
While discipline is important, giving children space to express themselves helps them grow into capable, creative adults.

Practical Strategies (evidence-based!):
🔹 Shift from directive to guiding: Instead of giving detailed instructions, pose open-ended prompts. For example:
“Draw a tree. You can start with the trunk, then add flowers, a swing, or whatever you like. I can’t wait to see what you create.”

🔹 Encourage self-expression: Praise children’s ideas and efforts rather than just correctness. This builds confidence and promotes a growth mindset.

🔹 Allow decision-making: Start with small choices—what to wear, what to eat—and gradually increase their independence to make bigger decisions.

🔹 Validate their uniqueness: Recognise and celebrate their creative expressions, reinforcing that their ideas matter.

🔹 Model autonomy-supportive behaviour: Show your own willingness to explore, make mistakes, and learn—setting a powerful example.

While the instinct to direct and control is natural, especially within cultural frameworks that value discipline and achievement, consciously fostering your child’s independence and creativity can lead to more confident, resilient, and motivated individuals. It is a delicate balance—one worth striving for, in the pursuit of nurturing well-rounded, capable young people.

The Surprising Divide in Workplace Mental Health Support: HK vs. SG
As a psychotherapist, I see firsthand how stigma, co...
05/08/2025

The Surprising Divide in Workplace Mental Health Support: HK vs. SG

As a psychotherapist, I see firsthand how stigma, confidentiality concerns, and lack of awareness can prevent individuals from seeking support during challenging times. Many colleagues hesitate to reach out, unaware that help is often closer than they think.

Key Insight:
* In Singapore, over 50-70% of companies offer Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs), with more than 10% of employees utilizing these services annually.
* In Hong Kong, only about 10-30% of companies provide EAPs, and less than 2% of employees access them.

This stark difference reveals a critical gap: when mental health support isn’t widely available or promoted, many suffer in silence, risking prolonged stress, burnout, or worse.

My Perspective:
An EAP is more than a benefit—it’s a vital resource for resilience and growth. It offers a confidential, professional space to navigate personal and professional challenges, fostering well-being before issues escalate.
Taking the first step to access support demonstrates strength and self-awareness. It’s an act of courage that can lead to clarity, healthier relationships, and lasting resilience.

Are you aware of the support available to you? Don’t wait until crisis—discover your EAP today. Your well-being is worth it.


From Boardroom to Therapy Room: Supporting High-Performers Through Real-World Expertise In the realm of mental health, g...
04/08/2025

From Boardroom to Therapy Room: Supporting High-Performers Through Real-World Expertise

In the realm of mental health, genuine understanding often transcends academic knowledge—it is rooted in lived experience. My journey includes a unique background working within the high-pressure environment of investment banking, where I gained firsthand insight into the demands faced by professionals operating at the highest levels.

Throughout my practice, I’ve had the privilege of supporting individuals from various fields—specialist doctors, lawyers, nurses, and other high-caliber professionals—whose resilience and dedication continue to inspire me. My corporate experience informs my approach, allowing me to appreciate the nuances of stress and responsibility in ways that many traditional therapists, unfamiliar with such environments, might not immediately recognise.

My goal is to create a space where authentic growth can occur—grounded in understanding, tailored to unique landscape, and imbued with the insights gained from real-world stakes.

Sometimes, the most meaningful progress begins when we feel truly seen and understood—by someone who recognises the terrains you navigate.

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