10/05/2025
In case you too need a gentle reminder to slow down...
I started playing tennis again recently, after not playing regularly for over 20years. As you can imagine, I’m not great. I’m also completely out of my element and comfort zone. It’s fun, it’s humbling, and it gives me lots of time and space for self-deprecating dialogue... Perhaps because it transports me back to my teenage years! Seriously tho, I am loving the process. Several weeks ago, my coach—who’s ultra cool, slightly evil, and a little bit zen—said a few quiet words to me after observing me play a game. It went something along these lines... “There are three types of play, Tamika; attacking, defending, and keeping it steady or in play while you create or wait for the opportunity to go for the winner. At the moment, you are only attacking or defending”.
Boom.
Epiphany.
I chuckled. I nodded.
This is what I’ve been doing for a while now, and I’m not only referring to tennis. I’ve pretty much been doing this since motherhood. I go hard, move fast, fall in a heap (or attempt to pick up the pieces) and seldom hit a steady, or what could be considered, cruise mode. Smooth steady life without rushing to get somewhere or do something—or impatiently encouraging my mini spawn to get somewhere, do something, or NOT do something—happens so rarely that when it does, I’m legitimately surprised. This is not sustainable. And it’s certainly not very zen.
When I‘m on the yoga mat, I feel steady. Breath. Mind. Body. Most days I practice I actually feel calm and like I have all the time and space in the world. Yoga helps me balance the ‘crazy’. It’s when I step off the mat and into life that I sometimes slide into the extreme of attack/defend, fight/flight, or run/crash mode. And it permeates everything; body, posture, thought, speech and action.
So, yeah, I think it’s high time for more steady play. It’s time to keep things unhurriedly in motion. It’s time to enjoy a smooth, considered pace and conserve energy for when it matters most. It’s time to invite a little more steadiness into everything I do.
Thank you zen tennis master for the timely reminder, and the tennis tips. And thanks to you, dear reader, for reading. Seriously chuffed you made it this far. I hope this share will help you or someone else out there remember along with me to slow down and keep it steady. 🙏
Namaste
Tamika
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