Project Revolution at Counselling Bali

18/06/2024

What a Gem,
Sounds so easy,
Simetimes we,re presented with a version.of who they are which overrides anything and everything else,
Why, well because we want to believe in the snippet or the good parts sooo much, that we counteract, justify, ignore or rationalize anything that doesnt fit with our fantasy.

End result...disappointment, hurt , possibly self fulfilling prophecys being redefined...( ppl always let me down) for example.

Eyes wide open folks.
Take people EXACTLY as they are
Assess what feels good, talk about what doesnt

Work on you, so you can avoid NEEEEEEDING a relationship , ( usually responsible for overlooking red flags or mismatches)

Learn some skills if you need to , so you can have your boundaries, and your voice

And listen to your heart ( and your head ) ☺️

So many choices out there, not everyone will be your fit,
Not everyone needs to be

Call now for your Freeeee dicovery call ,
If you would like to learn more

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18/06/2024

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15/01/2024

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15/01/2024

There is no RIGHT choice
No ONE shot so you better get it correct,
Its only ever YOUR choice

Whats right for you,
What feels good, for you.
What YOU want
Check your intentions, are they in alignment with that snd based from a pure motive, ie you want what works, what brings peace, what you can see helps your mental health or that will benefit others long term from this choice,

Thats all you need,

You are unique, have a unique footprint and journey,
Our instincts are our guiders,

Trust in you
Have confidence in you
And allow yourself to figure YOU out ..
The goal is to enjoy your life, find pleasure and peace

WHATEVER THAT LOOKS LIKE ❤️

14/01/2024

Loneliness, thinking youre not worth more, unmet childood needs such as connection, safety or simply love, will drive you to look past flaws or warning signs, because The NEED is so painful, so holliw that you,ll do anything to just feel comfort from it,
The brain will justify, normalize and avoid truth, in order to create a picture of what you NEED them to be,
Pushing a round peg in a square hole.

They always showed you who they were, maybe not fully , but your instincts were always spot on,
But you gaslit yourself
Because you hurt ..

They provided temporary comfort, but it didnt last, andnow youre even lonelier. But angry, why couldnt they be what you are

Sweetie, youre a good person, deserve love and respect. But if you dont heal your past wounds somewhat, youre likely to keep picking from a place of desperation and bypass gods warnings to you.

If you could feel whole to an extent,
Really value you and know your worth and raise your standards because youve finally stopped feeling like your childhood was your fault.
You will feel different
Be less grasping
And capable of taking your time. Knowing that if this onr isnt right,
There absolutely will be others that are.

Therapy helps you heal
Untag from blame and unloveablility and
Raises your esteem and standards by teaching you what healthy relationships should look like ..

The full package.

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30/09/2023

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30/09/2023

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01/09/2023

Those parts that we keep hidden,
Thinking I can't reveal them,
They're too shameful,
Nobody must see that part of Me or they will surely reject me , as I reject me ,we say,
And so on we go, never truly living self or being free.
But these parts, EVERYBODY had, and I mean everybody,
They're generally trauma responses,
We judge because we need to feel better about self .
We,re jealous because we still feel inadequate,
We,re aggressive or critical because we,re frightened

All super vulnerable, hurting parts of ourselves from our past, that left unacknowledged grow bigger and more harder to bear

First things first
You are not a BAD person

You are a hurt person trying to regulate .

We can fix that .

By bravely being honest about those parts of ourself we don't like, that damage our own self esteem growth,
We shine a light on our core wounds,

We get to unpack why we,re manipulative or judgmental .
Bring to light the vulnerability underneath it,
Feel into those times that caused the original wounds so we can finally process and release old trauma.

To feel is to heal .

Then we can look at new ways to deal with our uncomfortable feelings as we continue to process

If we,re scared , well notice that fear , make room for it,
And instead of judging others for making you feel that way, or running and hiding to feel safe

We build a new strategy

We walk with ourselves with compassion,
Bravely contain our unhealthy thoughts and replace them with a new loving mantra or set of challenging the thought tips,
And do the opposite of what we would usually go

( sometimes through gritted teeth)

But

Over time , we dispell the old coping mechanism, heal the original core wound and, create a more loving approach that helps us to feel proud and in alignment, rather than bitter or ashamed.

Step by step

Day by day, we become the person we know we truly are ,

Call today, and let's start your new brave healing journey.

You are safe ..

27/08/2023

When you've grown up or experienced trauma or dysfunctional relationships,
All of the above , will tend to be normalised.

You may have a myriad of reasons or excuses for them , trauma usually impacts a person to be like that ,
But the reality is , all of these are learnt behaviours that cause harm ,
Including your justifying of them.

All relationships are challenging of course,
Most ppl don't have a healthy template from which to work on

But, healthy adults will recognise this.
Take responsibility.
Want change and more importantly follow through .

It's ok to stumble , get it wrong a few times , but after a period of time and still nothing changes ,
Well then this person is either not ready,
Not the one for you

Or isn't capable of being what you both need for sustained happiness, fulfillment and that feeling of home within each other .

Then it's your time to challenge your narrative again,
Regarding what you feel you need,
Rather that what your fear or conditioning is telling you to do

Trauma Therapy helps empower you
Separate you from your learnt behaviours and teaches you to bravely carve new choices out,
Based on thriving NOT just surviving .

We offer. Free consultation call , to see if we fit with you. ❣️

Call today ..it starts with one small step 🪜

13/08/2023

So many ppl in the world, feeling less than,
Unloveable, or a hot mess,
Whatever the inner narrative is, ask yourself first,
Where did that fractured sense of self originally come from.?
Could it be you have unknowingly, taken on the messages of people, too sick themselves,to know how to love themselves, let alone build strong, confident children.

I'm not running a blame game here ,
Everybody has come from some dysfunction, at some level or another , most parents simply pass down, what was passed down yo them,
They just had no idea they were projecting it out, or deflecting, gaining validation or worth through their kids etc....
But we do now..

You see you were a child, perfect, deserving and worthy of love, postive affirmations and esteem, just because you were you . Bottom line ...

But sadly other people's crap, got in the way.
You weren't unimportant, because your brother was the star
That was unfair and wrong and based on their childhood projections , it's common for a mother to favour the son over the daughter for example, if she's seeing a mirror image in front of her...

Wrong...not your fault...

You weren't only valuable IF you got A grades,
That was their need to look good, not yours to carry

You do not have to caretaker others to be noticed
You should have received that irregardless

We go into great detail around these false labels in therapy, so we can understand, see and more importantly see ourselves through an unfiltered lens...

The point is ...what if you've always been good enough, important , of value , this whole time ??!

You just didn't know it yet, because you naturally read the messages of your surroundings.

The lie is over

Trauma therapy helps you to give back what's not yours, was never yours to carry and find who you were, are , all along

I think you're gonna love her/ him,
Why wouldn't you, you're you.

Valuable and worthy just because you're here ..

08/08/2023

When trauma emotions and obsessive thoughts are dominating your day, it can feel like everything is most definitely not ok.
But stop for a minute, take a look around , feel your heart ,
Recall in your mind people who love you .

Now ask again, am I ok..am I safe .

The answer usually is yes, but feelings and thoughts take us away from here and now .

Little glimpses of peace like this can help you regulate the nervous system,
Send a message to the brain to switch off the freeze Fight or Flight trauma responding signals .

Cortisol and adrenaline get switched off ,
Serotonin. Signals turn on.

From here we can start to pick up the tools and feel into the healing we hope you are receiving as a result of your pain.

You are safe , you are grown now , and you are going to be ok.

Call now if you would like to know more about how to heal from trauma .

Mind body and soul ❣️.