22/11/2025
Sadness is a natural and universal part of grief.
I’m reminded that my ancestors understood emotion in a wiser, more spacious way.
In Irish, sadness isn’t something we are it’s something that comes to visit. Tá brón orm means “sadness is upon me,” a reminder that the feeling is not our identity, it arrives like weather moving over the land, shaping us, softening us, but never defining who we are.
When sadness is allowed to be felt rather than resisted, Qi can move with greater clarity and ease.
This is the ancient rhythm of grieving, allowing emotion to touch us, to move through and to pass on while holding our loved ones in memory.
I hold the same rhythm of holding my patients in their grief.
To hold a patient in grief is not to take their sorrow from them or to fix it. It is to offer a steady, grounded presence as the emotion moves through them to witness without judgment, to stay open as they meet what is rising and to trust that the body and spirit know how to find their way back to balance.
It is the quiet art of letting someone feel what must be felt, while reminding them gently, implicitly that they are more than the sadness visiting them.
What changes when we stop seeing an emotion as who we are, and begin to see it as something simply moving through.
Grief can be anything; death, parents, siblings, relationship, marriage, home, friendship, not being able to be a parent, miscarriage, stillborn, loosing a part of us that we were born with - hysterectomy, salpingectomy, limbs, organs, mastectomy, prostatectomy, vasectomy, transplants, senses, memory loss, stroke, ageing.....to name but a few.