Klaudia's Counselling Chairs

05/04/2026

so important to truly take this on board along your healing journey ❤️‍🩹

02/04/2026

Sound familiar? 🤔

It sure does to me! 🙃

Luckily, you don't have to live the rest of your life on eggshells! 🥚

Reach out to begin your journey ✨️

signs you grew up WALKING ON EGGSHELLS

/Ptsd A Shout Into The Void

30/03/2026

Expanding ↔️↕️ our window 🪟 of tolerance is the ultimate goal 🥅 of therapy, in my opinion 🤔

Circumstances beyond our control bring so much into our lives, if we do not learn to tolerate a wide range of issues, we will be forever stuck being overwhelmed and feeling like a victim in our own lives.💔

Increasing our tolerance for discomfort and circumstances beyond our control is what's required to keep us going in the face of adversity. 💪🏼

No amount of therapy will undo the events of the past, nor will it guarantee a trouble free future, it merely aims to help us navigate the good and the bad without feeling like we are drowning. 🩷

Here are 5 first steps to begin expanding it:
1. Learn your own edges.
Before you can expand the window, you have to know where your edges are. Start noticing what pulls you into overwhelm? What time of day, what kind of interaction, what tone of voice pushes you outside your window? Awareness is the foundation. You can't work with what you can't see.

2. Practice regulation when you're already calm.
Most people try to regulate in the middle of a flood. That's like learning to swim in a riptide. Instead, practice your tools: slow exhales, grounding, orienting, when you're already okay. This trains your nervous system to find the pathway back before it needs to use it under pressure.

3. Seek small doses of discomfort on purpose.
The window expands through small, manageable exposures to discomfort followed by a return to safety. Like a hard conversation you don't avoid. Sit with an uncomfortable feeling for 60 seconds before reaching for your phone. These small stretches will build capacity over time.

4. Build more moments of felt safety.
Your nervous system expands when it gathers evidence that the world is sometimes safe. This means intentionally creating moments of warmth, connection, stillness, and pleasure and actually letting them land. Feel them. Recognize them. Not rushing through them. Not dismissing them. Letting your body register: this is okay. I am okay right now.

5. Repair quickly after rupture.
Every time you get pushed outside your window and find your way back that's a rep. The more you practice returning to regulation, the more your system learns it can survive intensity and recover. Repair, in relationships and within yourself, is where resilience is built.

Expanding your window is about having more room. More room to feel, to choose, and to stay present for your own life.
This is slow work. And it's worth it.

Save this and share it with someone who needs more capacity right now.

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28/03/2026

Such a powerful, well illustrated message 😍

28/03/2026

Reframing is such a powerful tool 🔧

Let me know what else You have in your toolkit 🧰 for living more intentionally and positively ❣️

Four Steps to Take Control of Your Mind and Change Your Brain
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💭 Thought reframing is one of the most powerful tools for mental wellness—and it’s backed by brain science.

This post walks you through four practical steps to shift unhelpful thinking patterns, rewire your brain, and regain control of your mind.

🔹 Learn how thoughts shape your brain
🔹 Interrupt negative loops
🔹 Replace self-defeating beliefs with healthier ones

You can train your brain to think in ways that support your growth and well-being.

25/03/2026

Wow this one hits home every time. So much work done, and still I fall back into this time and time again.

I must remind myself, managing Their feelings and taking on Their accountability is Not My responsibility...

Let's practice together❣️ Call or message for an appointment 💜

24/03/2026

If you use 'I'm okay' for reasons other than being okay, just know that there is always someone who wants to listen. who doesn't think you are too much. who doesn't see it as you being a burden.

If you don't have anyone like that in your life right now, then come talk to me ❣️

"I'm okay" can have a lot of meanings.

Visibility

24/03/2026

Trauma comes in many forms, sizes and even in normalised events - "that's just how things were" but recognising symptoms and understanding that these are trauma responses can help us unlock the path to healing. 🫶🏻

If you’re always “on edge,” there’s a reason.
After trauma, we can become hyper aware of our environment and the people in it because this is what it takes to feel safe.
Our brains and our bodies are trying to protect us from experiencing more trauma.
Hypervigilance isn’t anxiety without cause. It’s your body saying, “We’ve seen this before.”
It’s instinct, not imagination, and definitely not overthinking.
The first step in PTSD recovery is understanding our symptoms and giving ourselves grace.
Be patient with yourself.

23/03/2026

Hands up, who needs to learn these sentences? 🤔

Me! 🤚🏻

Overdoing it can lead to your undoing. Make it clear, “despite what it seems like, I can't.”

22/03/2026

Letting go is easier said than done. But it is a skill, a form of art, that can be learned, practiced and mastered. 🧘🏼‍♂️

So often we tighten our grip when life feels uncertain.

But control doesn’t bring peace - it just gets exhausting..

Letting go isn’t giving up.

It’s remembering who you are beneath the tension.

It’s honoring your needs and choosing presence over pressure.

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do

is soften your hold and let yourself come home to yourself again.

Drop some 🪽🪽🪽if you’re ready to feel lighter.

19/03/2026

When we learn how to show up for ourselves, we find that other's don't have the power to make us fear and feel abandoned❣️

Need help learning how to show up for yourself consistently? Talk to me and lets figure it out together ❤️

There are so many ways we learn to abandon ourselves as we grow up.

Sometimes it happens quietly, through the subtle messages we receive about who we should be, how we should behave, and what version of ourselves will be most accepted or loved.

We begin to understand that in order to stay safe, to belong, or to avoid rejection, we must present ourselves in a certain way. So we adapt and we become who we think we need to be.

Over time, these patterns can lead us further and further away from who we truly are.

We learn to silence our needs, soften our boundaries, and prioritise the comfort of others above our own wellbeing.

From the outside it may look like we have it together, but internally we may feel like we are constantly overgiving, exhausted from holding everything up, and quietly lonely in ways that are hard to explain.

Choosing yourself is not selfish, and it is not about shutting the world out.

It is about remembering who you are underneath the roles, expectations, and survival strategies you once needed.

When you begin choosing yourself, honouring your needs, and allowing your truth to take up space, something powerful shifts. You stop shrinking to fit into places that were never meant for you.

And in that moment, when you choose yourself again and again, you step back into your power and into your light.

You deserve to live for you.

Keep shining,
Dr. Lalitaa

15/03/2026

Progress is measured in resilience, not the achievement of goals. 💫

The road to successfully achieved goals is winding, often painful and has many unexpected surprises. Learning to be resilient in the face of adversity is key ❣️

Book an appointment to learn distress tolerance skills and how to be more resilient when circumstances are not what we expected.🙃

Progress rarely looks clean.

It’s thorns, setbacks, small wins, and getting back up again, until one day you reach the flag.