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11/04/2026

“I am the ancient ache within you, the longing that leads you home.”

The word Sehnsucht is German, but its meaning belongs to all souls. It describes untranslatable, sacred longing; an ache not for a person or a place, but for something eternal and just out of reach. C.S. Lewis wrote extensively of this longing, calling it “the inconsolable secret” within each of us, a desire for our true home, our source, our Beloved. “It was when I was happiest that I longed most... The sweetest thing in all my life has been the longing… to find the place where all the beauty came from.” This ache is not something to be cured, but a guiding star, the call that stirs the soul toward its true nature.

Psychologically, Sehnsucht arises from the archetype of the Self, the hidden wholeness that calls us toward integration. It is the longing to remember who we are beneath the roles and illusions. From a Jungian perspective, this yearning reflects the psyche’s attempt to reunite with its original source. Alchemically, it corresponds to the nigredo, the fertile blackness in which the longing begins, not as suffering, but as sacred invitation. It is from this dark earth that transformation begins.

The Artwork:
The woman lies in stillness, entirely entwined in ivy and vine. She is not merely not resisting, she is deeply entranced in the weaving between her body and the vine. She is remembering. The vines are not constraints, but a living embrace - the soul’s longing made visible. Ivy, with its ancient symbolism of devotion, eternity, and resurrection, weaves around her like breath or prayer. Her body becomes the threshold between rootedness and surrender. She is not lost. She is returning to herself, to the source, to the great green mystery that has called her here. That is calling her home.

Card Meaning:
When the Sehnsucht card appears in a reading, it is a signal that something deep within you is stirring, a longing that may not yet have a name. You may feel it as a homesickness, a yearning, a soul-ache that defies logic. This card asks you not to rush to soothe or solve it, but to acknowledge it and let it speak. What does your longing desire to become? What is the memory beneath your hunger?

This may also indicate a need for sacred surrender. You may find yourself entwined in something larger than yourself; a relationship, a calling, a mystery that you cannot control. Let it happen. Let yourself be wrapped and rapt within it. The ache is not emptiness. It is the shape of your soul remembering.
Trust the process.

Mantra: I honor this sacred longing within me. I surrender to the mystery that calls me home. My ache is a prayer, and my yearning is holy, and I will not deny it.

- From “The Oracle of SheWhoIs”, publishing 2026.

“Sehnsucht (Divine Longing)”
Mixed Media
2024

Prints:

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10/04/2026

The human heart longs to be chosen. Not for what it produces. Not for how useful it can be. But simply for existing.

Yet when that feeling of being wanted is missing, something inside us begins to compensate.

We start volunteering for everything.
Solving problems nobody asked us to solve.
Carrying emotional weight that was never ours.
Becoming the dependable one. The fixer. The strong friend. The person everyone calls when life falls apart.

On the outside it looks like generosity.
On the inside it can be a quiet negotiation for love.

“If I am useful enough, maybe I will not be left behind.”
“If I am needed enough, maybe I will matter.”
“If I keep giving, maybe someone will stay.”

So we build our worth around service. Around usefulness. Around being indispensable.

But being needed is not the same as being loved.

People can need what you do and still not see who you are.
They can rely on your strength and never notice your exhaustion.
They can take your help and never learn your heart.

Real belonging feels different.

You are wanted even when you are resting.
Wanted when you have nothing to offer.
Wanted when you are not fixing, rescuing, proving, or performing.

Just you. As you are. 🥺

And sometimes the bravest choice we can make is this:

Stop auditioning for love through usefulness and
Start allowing yourself to be wanted without earning it.

Because you were never meant to prove your worth through how much of yourself you can carry for others. ✨

You were meant to be seen.
You were meant to be chosen.
You were meant to be loved. 💛

06/03/2026

💔 The Body Keeps Score - Part 1: Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Tries to Forget

You've felt it.

A knot in your stomach that appears when you're anxious. A weight on your chest that returns with certain memories. A tension in your shoulders that never fully releases. A clench in your jaw that you only notice when someone points it out.

You've been taught to call these things "stress" or "anxiety", vague terms that float somewhere in your mind.

But what if they're not in your mind at all? What if they're in your body; stored, held, and waiting?

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The Body's Memory

Your body remembers everything your mind tries to forget.

· The harsh word from childhood that taught you to shrink.
· The betrayal that made trust feel unsafe.
· The loss you never fully grieved.
· The times you had to be strong when you wanted to fall apart.
· The moments you swallowed your voice to keep the peace.

Your mind may bury these experiences. But your body? Your body keeps score.

It holds the tension. It tightens the muscles. It alters the breath. It changes the gut. It shapes the very terrain of your health.

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Where Emotions Live in the Body

Different emotions tend to settle in different places:

Emotion : Common Storage Site : Physical Sensation

Fear : Gut, diaphragm : Knots, nausea, shallow breath

Grief : Chest, lungs : Heaviness, tightness, sighing

Anger : Jaw, shoulders, hands : Clenching, heat, tension

Shame : Face, throat, upper chest : Flushing, lump in throat, hollowness

Sadness : Eyes, throat, chest : Tears, ache, exhaustion

Anxiety : Everywhere, moving : Restlessness, shallow breath, racing heart

Unworthiness : Lower back, knees : Collapse, weakness, instability

These are not metaphors. They are physiological patterns, the body's way of holding what the mind cannot process.

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The Physiology of Stored Emotion

When you experience something overwhelming and don't fully process it, your nervous system does something remarkable: it completes the cycle by storing the unfinished energy in your tissues.

This is not weakness. It is survival. Your body protects your mind by carrying what it cannot hold.

But that storage has a cost:

· Chronic muscle tension (the body never releases the "brace")
· Altered breathing patterns (shallow, chest-bound, never full)
· Gut dysfunction (the second brain holding what you couldn't digest)
· Immune suppression (the body too exhausted to defend itself)
· Inflammation (the slow fire of unresolved stress)
· Pain (the body's final language when nothing else is heard)

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The Stories Behind the Storage

Gideon carries his grief in his chest. His wife threatened to leave. His vision is failing. He laughs, but his breath never fully exhales. His lungs hold what he cannot say.

Grace holds her strain in her shoulders. She manages her husband's diabetes, tracks his medications, carries the mental load. Her shoulders are always up, always braced, always ready for the next demand. They never rest.

Rose stores her exhaustion in her gut. Years of fighting for David's health, years of caring more than he did, years of swallowing her own needs, her digestion is a war zone. Her second brain is screaming what her first brain never voiced.

Sarah carries her worry in her jaw. Wedding stress, hospital visits, family expectations; she clenches at night, grinds her teeth, wakes with headaches. Her jaw holds the words she never says.

These are not "stress" as a vague concept. These are physical realities with measurable effects on health.

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The Question You Must Ask

If your body keeps score, the question is not: "What's wrong with me?"

The question is: "What happened to me? And where is my body still holding it?"

This is not about blame. It is not about dwelling in the past. It is about acknowledging what your body has been carrying; often in silence, often alone, often for years.

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The Path Forward

Healing stored emotion is not about "thinking positive" or "letting go" as if it were a choice. It is about giving the body what it needed then but didn't receive: witness, safety, and completion.

This happens through:

· Awareness. Noticing where you hold tension. Listening to what your body is saying.

· Presence. Staying with sensations instead of numbing or escaping.

· Expression. Allowing the body to move, sound, shake, or cry when it needs to.

· Safety. Creating conditions where your nervous system can finally downshift.

· Rhythm. Predictable routines that signal to your body: "You are safe now. You can rest."

· Touch. Gentle, respectful, self-connection that tells your tissues they are not alone.

This is not therapy. It is terrain work; the same principles applied to the deepest layer of your health.

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A Simple Beginning

Try this today:

Sit quietly for two minutes. Close your eyes if it feels safe. Bring your attention to your body.

Notice:

· Where do you feel tension?
· Where do you feel empty?
· Where do you feel nothing at all?
· If that place could speak, what would it say?

Do not judge. Do not fix. Just notice.

Your body has been waiting for you to pay attention. Today, you can begin.

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What Comes Next

In this series, we will explore:

· Part 2: The Vagus Nerve – Why Safety Can't Be Thought, It Must Be Felt

· Part 3: Grief, Loss, and the Liver – The Physiology of Heartbreak

· Part 4: When "Stress" Is Not Just Stress – Recognizing Complex Trauma

· Part 5: Nervous System Repatterning – How to Signal Safety to a Wounded Body

· Part 6: Boundaries and Autoimmune Flares – The Physiology of People-Pleasing

· Part 7: Healing Without Having to "Tell Your Story" – Somatic Approaches

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The Lesson

Your body is holding what your mind could not carry. And it has been doing this for you, silently, faithfully, for years.

It is time to thank it. And it is time to help it finally release what was never yours to hold alone.

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Next: Part 2 explores the nerve that connects everything: "The Vagus Nerve – Why Safety Can't Be Thought, It Must Be Felt."

Mike Ndegwa | Natural Health Guide

02/03/2026

“Everyone who terrifies you is sixty-five percent water. And everyone you love is made of stardust, and I know sometimes you cannot even breathe deeply, and the night sky is no home, and you have cried yourself to sleep enough times that you are down to your last two percent, but nothing is infinite, not even loss. You are made of the sea and the stars, and one day you are going to find yourself again.”

- Finn Butler

[Image: Somewhere oil painting on canvas by contemporary Ukrainian artist Taras Loboda.]

The Smart Witch by Elizabeth

Classic The Smart Witch
Post from 22 February 2024




01/01/2026

When I say ‘happy new year’,
I’m not for a moment,
expecting this to occur,
for that is not possible,
a year must be all things.

Happiness must come and go,
like the tides and the winds,
just as sadness,
and all the emotions in between.

When I say ‘happy new year’,
I’m really wishing you,
a baseline of peace,
of gratitude.

Because if you can sit with these things,
for the most part,
happiness will thrive,
when it does arrive,
and sadness will know its place in the mix.

If you can nourish these things,
daily,
you will also grow hope,
for it flourishes in such soil.

And hope is the key,
to this enigmatic state
of ‘happiness’ we seek.

When I say ‘happy new year’,
I’m really wishing you more happy days,
than sad days,
more joy than misery,
more laughter than tears…
and the wisdom to accept,
that they all belong.

Happy new year, my friends.
Happy new year.

( ✍️ Donna Ashworth )

Art : Joh Kagaya

24/12/2025

Not your titles.
Not your followers.
Not the applause, promises, or people who said “I’ll always be there.”

When the noise fades and the lights go out, the only voice left is your own.
The only person who wakes up with your thoughts.
The only one who carries your wounds, your regrets, your hopes, and your quiet strength.

This isn’t a lonely truth — it’s a powerful one.
Because it reminds you where your real responsibility lies.

✔ Take care of your mind — it’s the place you live in every day.
✔ Be honest with yourself — self-deception costs more than truth ever will.
✔ Learn to sit with yourself — without distractions, without masks.
✔ Become someone you can rely on — even when no one else shows up.

People will come and go.
Circumstances will change.
Life will test you in ways you never prepared for.

But if you have yourself — grounded, aware, compassionate, and resilient — you are never truly lost.

Make peace with who you are.
Forgive yourself where you need to.
Grow where you can.
And never abandon yourself just to feel accepted by others.

Because in the end…
the relationship you have with yourself is the one you’ll keep forever. 🖤

22/12/2025

Today, the Winter Solstice begins — the sacred celebration of Yule.
The longest night of the year unfolds, inviting stillness, reflection, and deep connection with the unseen.

All preparations have been made.
Candles are ready, herbs are gathered, intentions are set.
We stand at the threshold between darkness and light, honoring the cycle of death and rebirth.

From this moment on, the light slowly returns.
The Sun is reborn, carrying hope, renewal, and quiet strength.
Yule reminds us that even in the deepest darkness, light is never lost — it is simply waiting to rise again.

May this sacred turning of the wheel bring warmth to the heart, clarity to the mind, and gentle light to every home.

Blessed Yule. 🕯️🌿

~Occult Nature

Sacred Divine Feminine

16/11/2025

"But the real work for an empath isn’t to love harder; it’s to tone down the hyper-attunement and turn that empathy inward. It’s to stop confusing emotional labor with love and to stop mistaking chaos for connection."

Article link in comments. 👇

13/11/2025

Forgive yourself
for what you had to do to survive.
Forgive yourself for who you were
before you knew better.

Forgive yourself
for being fallible, broken,
for being less than perfect.

Touch the earth
in your small humanness.
Feel the dirt beneath your feet,
between your fingers,
and how your tears water
the parched, cracked soil.

Forgive yourself
for not being more,
for not knowing more,
for learning through experience,
or the hard way.

For what you did to survive life’s winters,
across life’s thin ice.
For your mistakes.

You survived.
You are here.

And in the forgiveness,
let your hands reach down
to soothe your own broken heart,
and from there,
the broken hearts of others.

For we grow humble in our falls,
compassionate through our imperfection,
not our perfection.

Forgive yourself.
Let the weight of these lessons
hold you firmly
in their dark wisdom
to the earth —

And from there,
like a sky of shining lanterns,

set your soul free.

~Rachel Alana (R.A. Falconer)
Midwives of the Soul

From "Soul Songs" by R.A. Falconer Now at Barnes & Noble, Waterstones & Amazon.

art by Pixabay.


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09/11/2025

Once, when you thought no one was looking,
I saw you open your heart so wide that the earth fell in.
Once, when you thought no one was listening,
I heard you sigh so deep that the oceans roared with support.
Once, when you thought no one was around,
every atom in this universe rushed forward to embrace you.
Again.
Thank you for existing so intensely.
~ Sera Beak
Art from Pinterest

Rivers in the Ocean

19/10/2025

How To Defeat Fear
Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn’t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave her the instructions for the battle.
The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. They both had their weapons.
The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, "May I have permission to go into battle with you?" Fear said, "Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission." Then the young warrior said, "How can I defeat you?" Fear replied, "My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power." In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear.
~Pema Chödrön
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Rivers in the Ocean

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