Pauline Bradley, Counsellor

26/09/2025

Goodnight Poetry lovers ❤️❤️
Poem by Ida Banks ( Pinterest)

25/09/2025

Have you ever been so consumed by a crush that you couldn't stop thinking about them? Or when you weren't around them, you felt sick to your stomach?

There's a word for that, and it's called "limerence." The term was coined by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov in the 1970s to describe romantic obsession characterized by extreme emotional highs and lows.

Neuroscientist Tom Bellamy explores the condition in Smitten: Romantic Obsession, the Neuroscience of Limerence and How to Make Love Last. The book, published in April, offers a roadmap for those looking to overcome infatuation and foster healthy romantic relationships.

"Limerence is a state that many of us go into in the early stages of love: a profound romantic infatuation with another person," Bellamy says. "They give you an extraordinary natural high, so you feel a powerful desire to bond with that person."

But if you're unable to actually bond with them, and the limerence goes on too long, "it can shift from happiness and euphoria into anxiety and craving," he says.

Bellamy, an author and academic based in Nottingham, United Kingdom, talks to Life Kit about how to identify limerence and break its cycle. This interview has been edited for length and clarity. Read the story here: https://n.pr/4gCNAKv

25/09/2025

When you give of yourself,
you become part of a greater rhythm,
like a river that nourishes everything it touches,
yet is never diminished by its flow.
In service, the walls of separation dissolve.
You discover that kindness is not leaving you,
but circling back,
singing in the quiet harmony of the world.
Rivers in the Ocean

10/09/2025

20/08/2025

Child. Listen to me. Open up your heart for a moment and listen. You don’t need to banish your anger or bury your grief and sadness. The fact that you may feel anger about some injustice or inequity; the fact that you have the capacity to feel grief and sadness means that life still touches you.
Learn to trust the wisdom-river flowing beneath the river of these emotions. Learn to walk with your depression, your anxiety, your anger as a teacher and a friend. The fact that you feel means that you care. The thing you really have to watch out for is indifference. The ones who don’t feel anything are the ones who are destroying the world.
✍️ Attributed to doña Río de Gracian
🎨 Claudia Olivos

Rivers in the Ocean

04/08/2025

🌿 Distance is the most powerful response to disrespect.
No arguments.
No explanations.
No drama.

Just quietly remove your presence.

Because not everything deserves your energy.
Not every action requires a reaction.
And not every person deserves a front-row seat in your life.

Sometimes, silence and space speak louder than any words —
Not out of pride,
But out of self-respect.

— Rowan Atkinson

01/06/2025