A Cherished Mind Counselling & Psychotherapy

27/09/2025

May I live this day
Compassionate of heart,
Clear in word,
Gracious in awareness,
Courageous in thought,
Generous in love.

JOHN O'DONOHUE

Excerpt from 'Matins' in his books, Benedictus (Europe) and To Bless the Space Between Us (US)
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Cottage Window, County Clare, Ireland
Photo: © Ann Cahill

27/09/2025

Democritus /
"Everywhere man blames nature and fate, yet his fate is mostly but the echo of his character and passions, his mistakes and weaknesses."
Democritus (/dɪˈmɒkrɪtəs/; Greek: Δημόκριτος, Dēmókritos, meaning "chosen of the people"; c. 460 – c. 370 BC) was an Ancient Greek pre-Socratic philosopher primarily remembered today for his formulation of an atomic theory of the universe.
Democritus was born in Abdera, Thrace, around 460 BC, although there are disagreements about the exact year. His exact contributions are difficult to disentangle from those of his mentor Leucippus, as they are often mentioned together in texts. Their speculation on atoms, taken from Leucippus, bears a passing and partial resemblance to the 19th-century understanding of atomic structure that has led some to regard Democritus as more of a scientist than other Greek philosophers; however, their ideas rested on very different bases. Largely ignored in ancient Athens, Democritus is said to have been disliked so much by Plato that the latter wished all of his books burned. He was nevertheless well known to his fellow northern-born philosopher Aristotle, and was the teacher of Protagoras.
Many consider Democritus to be the "father of modern science". None of his writings have survived; only fragments are known from his vast body of work..."
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21/09/2025

Religion was never meant to be a weapon to judge, criticize, or hurt others. Its essence is to help us rise above our ego, tame our desires, and cultivate compassion. Every holy book, every teaching, and every spiritual path ultimately points toward the same truth: control yourself, not others.

🙏 Real faith is reflected not in loud arguments about who is right, but in the quiet discipline of kindness, patience, humility, and forgiveness.

🔥 The world does not need more people who can quote scriptures.
The world needs more people who can live them — with love, respect, and peace.

✨ So before pointing fingers, ask yourself:

Am I embodying the values I claim to believe in?

Am I bringing more peace to others or more pain?

Am I using my faith to grow inwardly, or to control outwardly?

🌸 Religion is a mirror, not a sword. Its purpose is self-transformation, not criticism of others. When we live this truth, humanity moves closer to harmony.

21/09/2025

Understand this...
When you see a couple celebrating 20, 30, or 40 years together, understand this:
They are not celebrating perfection. They are celebrating the storms they survived, the mistakes they forgave, the patience they cultivated, and the love that refused to give up—even when things were tough.

🌿 Marriage is not about never fighting—it’s about fighting together against the problem, not each other.
🌿 It’s not about never falling short—it’s about having the humility to apologize and the grace to forgive.
🌿 It’s not about the size of the bank account—it’s about the size of the heart. Money can buy a house, but only loyalty, trust, and respect can make it a home.

✨ Tips for a Healthy & Lasting Marriage ✨

1. Choose kindness daily – A gentle word can save a day; a harsh one can ruin it.

2. Keep communication open – Speak honestly, but listen with the intent to understand, not to reply.

3. Respect individuality – You are partners, not prisoners. Give space to grow.

4. Forgive often – Not every battle needs to be fought; peace matters more than being “right.”

5. Celebrate small moments – Happiness isn’t in big gestures but in daily acts of care and affection.

6. Stay loyal through seasons – Be present in sunshine and in storms; loyalty is love’s greatest proof.

7. Grow together spiritually – Whether through prayer, meditation, or shared values, align your souls, not just your schedules.

A lasting marriage is not built in the absence of challenges but in the presence of two people who keep choosing each other, again and again.

08/09/2025

There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will. Epictetus.

07/09/2025

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13/08/2025

Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear but around us in awareness. James Thurber. (1894 - 1961).

09/08/2025

At the heart of things is a secret law of balance and when our approach is respectful, sensitive and worthy, gifts of healing, challenge and creativity open to us. A gracious approach is the key that unlocks the treasure of encounter. The way we are present to each other is frequently superficial. In many areas of our lives the rich potential of friendship and love remains out of our reach because we push towards 'connection.' When we deaden our own depths, we cannot strike a resonance in those we meet or in the work we do.

A reverence of approach awakens depth and enables us to be truly present where we are. When we approach with reverence great things decide to approach us. Our real life comes to the surface and its light awakens the concealed beauty of things. When we walk on the earth with reverence, beauty will decide to trust us. The rushed heart and the arrogant mind lack the gentleness and patience to enter that embrace. Beauty is mysterious, a slow presence who waits for the ready, expectant heart.

JOHN O'DONOHUE

Excerpt from his books, Beauty: The Invisible Embrace (US) / Divine Beauty (Europe)
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County Clare, Ireland
Photo: © Ann Cahill

02/08/2025

Here's the link to my recent interview about couples Counselling with Alan Morrissey of Clare FM radio.

Counselling In Relationships - Podcasts % Clare FM

15/07/2025