Henry Counselling & Psychotherapy

17/11/2023

For a listening ear, gentle help & understanding call/text or WhatsApp (087)9843887 to make an appointment. Spaces are limited so don’t delay!

15/11/2023

Have you someone in your life that you are worried about? Do you think they need help coping with life’s difficulties? Do you yourself need help? As we approach the most stressful time of the year, have you considered a gift of mental health? Why not buy a gift voucher for an introductory session with a Trauma Resolution specialist? There’s no obligation to return, but it may be a way of ‘trying out’ therapy to see if it works! Contact Henry Counselling & Psychotherapy today on (087)9843887 or at Henrycounsellingtherapy@gmail.com to purchase a gift voucher & give the gift of healing.

10/11/2023

Families experience different events in different ways. We’re not clones of each other. This is something society needs to realise & accept and to stop shaming people who suffer with addiction or mental ill-health!

3 sisters, one home, same parents, 1 addict.

Contrary to popular belief, it doesn’t matter how you were raised. Addiction doesn’t discriminate. For all of the mothers thinking it is their fault, it isn’t. My 2 sisters went off to college, I went to prison. It is an illness, and the only thing that could’ve stopped it would have been to never try anything at all.

Their minds see the world in a normal way. My mind does not. It’s a disease of perception. I could have all the love in the world and still feel unloved. I could have every reason to get clean, and still get high. I could have everything or nothing to lose, and I still couldn’t sober up.

It wasn’t my childhood. It wasn’t trauma. It wasn’t daddy issues. It wasn’t my family. It wasn’t anything other than me, and my make up. I have to combat that with a daily solution of God and my program. I have to help others. I have to ask for someone else to look at my thinking because 90% of the time I am not seeing it clearly. I’ve accepted that.

So, for every family member blaming their self... racking their brain of where exactly it went wrong. Beating their self up, crying their selves to sleep, and thinking it was something they did... you can’t make someone get high and you can’t get them sober.

It’s not your fault, and it’s too heavy to carry.
Give it to God and get some rest.

07/11/2023

For a listening ear, gentle help & understanding call/text or WhatsApp (087)9843887 to make an appointment. Spaces are limited so don’t delay!

30/10/2023

Gents and…… gents

Following on from getting The Thatch Therapy Centre ready over the last few weeks, and meeting electricians, plumbers, bathroom designers, heating specialists, well engineers, architects, builders, thatchers, groundsmen, digger drivers, hedge cutters and accountants… one thing that’s popped up time and time again in the conversation is that

MEN ARE UNDER PRESSURE

They talk about being under ‘terrible stress’, being ‘horrid busy’ and when they read the psychotherapy sign on my gate, they inevitably joke that they ‘could do with a bit of that’ or need ‘sorting out’.

And the second thing they say is that they’d never actually do a session of therapy because they don’t have time/are too busy/wouldn’t know where to start/haven’t a clue about their feelings. They’ll bring their kids, encourage their partners to go, but won’t go themselves.

Lads, if you’re driving a car/digger/tractor/Jeep/quad/motorized anything, you’ve more than likely brought it for a service BEFORE things get out of hand and it breaks down. Do the same for yourself. Try a bit of therapy. You might like it. People around you might benefit from you doing it too. And your stressed-out system will thank you for it. Please share this post for the men you care about. There’s loads of great therapists. Just Nike!!!!

26/10/2023

https://www.independent.ie/style/celebrity/celebrity-news/jennifer-zamparelli-on-past-abusive-relationship-i-was-living-in-fear-walking-on-eggshells-until-he-hit-me-in-front-of-someone-else/a711789838.html

It doesn't matter who you are, controlling relationships can happen to anyone! For help in overcoming the fear, stigma, shame and trauma of being in a controlling or violent relationship in a calm, non-judgmental and caring environment, contact Henry Counselling & Psychotherapy on 087 984 3887.

26/10/2023

For a listening ear, gentle help & understanding call/text or WhatsApp (087)9843887 to make an appointment. Spaces are limited so don’t delay!

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26/10/2023

https://www.independent.ie/style/celebrity/celebrity-news/jennifer-zamparelli-on-past-abusive-relationship-i-was-living-in-fear-walking-on-eggshells-until-he-hit-me-in-front-of-someone-else/a711789838.html

It doesn't matter who you are, controlling relationships can happen to anyone! For help in overcoming the fear, stigma, shame and trauma of being in a controlling or violent relationship in a calm, non-judgmental and caring environment, contact Henry Counselling & Psychotherapy on 087 984 3887.

Broadcaster Jennifer Zamparelli has spoken about the physical abuse she endured in a past romantic relationship.

21/07/2023

Wonderfully hopeful reflection on resourcing yourself to overcome personal difficulties!!

A Note on Anxiety

I have posted a few stories this week about my ongoing battle with anxiety and the response has been quite astounding.

It’s something I have been battling with for years - Since I was a teenager. It’s only as a result of my recent counselling sessions that I’ve truly understood the extent of it.

The whole reason I got into angels, meditation and moon work was because I was anxious.

I had two babies (one born 2015 and one in 2017) and early in 2018 I started having panic attacks. I was so angry with everyone and was completely overwhelmed.

I went for a healing and the healer said I had two choices - I could go to the doctor for medication, or I could do regular healing sessions over a few months and see how I felt then.

I decided to combine both options. I said I would go to the doctor, get something to calm my brain but it would only be short term. I felt that medication would dull the problem but not solve the root of it. I set myself a goal to get off it ASAP and in the meantime kept going for healings.
I also met Debbie, my angel teacher around this time and started attending her weekend courses.

6 months later I was completely weaned off the medication and felt so much more in control.

I was working with the angels on a daily basis, using the techniques I was learning, doing protection, cord cutting and meditating. I felt like miracles were showing up everywhere.

It’s honestly the best decision I made because it gave me back control.

I still have days where I feel overwhelmed but the difference is now that I know the signs and know how to get myself out of it.

I’ll do extra meditation.
I’ll go for a healing.
I’ll up my protection.
I’ll do gentle, mindful exercise.
I’ll tap (a recent addition).
I’ll talk to a friend or my husband.
I’ll book a session with a mentor.
I’ll go to bed earlier and prioritise sleep.
I’ll book a day off and get off my phone.

I don’t always need all the above but that’s what my toolkit looks like.

What I’m trying to say is that you need to have a toolkit. Prevention is better than cure. Give yourself a fighting chance for when you feel challenged and it’s sink or swim.

What’s in your toolkit?

12/07/2023

For a listening ear, gentle help & understanding call/text or WhatsApp (087)9843887 to make an appointment. Spaces are limited so don’t delay!

Viktor Frankl, one of the great psychiatrists of the twentieth century, survived the death camps of N**i Germany. His little book, Man’s Search for Meaning, is one of those life-changing books that everyone should read.

Frankl once told the story of a woman who called him in the middle of the night to calmly inform him she was about to commit su***de. Frankl kept her on the phone and talked her through her depression, giving her reason after reason to carry on living. Finally she promised she would not take her life, and she kept her word.

When they later met, Frankl asked which reason had persuaded her to live?

"None of them,” she told him.

What then influenced her to go on living, he pressed?

Her answer was simple, it was Frankl’s willingness to listen to her in the middle of the night. A world in which there was someone ready to listen to another's pain seemed to her a world in which it was worthwhile to live.

Often, it is not the brilliant argument that makes the difference. Sometimes the small act of listening is the greatest gift we can give.

30/06/2023

Without FUN life can be very hard, boring & anxiety provoking! Something as simple as sitting on a swing & letting go can increase the chances of laughter & FUN in our lives!!

23/05/2023

For a listening ear, gentle help & understanding call/text or WhatsApp (087)9843887 to make an appointment. Spaces are limited so don’t delay!