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26/02/2026

Hiya,
This testimonial is from a girl in her mid 20’s.
This girl had enough of therapists by the time she came to see me, but somehow we were able to show each other a little spark of magic & the work started from there. This woman is now absolutely living her life on her terms & beyond her wildest dreams. To say I’m privileged & proud of her is an understatement, for once in my life, I just can’t Vocabularies the words
I need. 🫶🙏

Testimony:

From the ages of 13-21 years-old, I was in and out of therapy.
I saw psychiatrists, therapists, counsellors, specialists, but I only continued to spiral. Truthfully by 21 I had lost hope in recovery. Every appointment felt dehumanising;
I was depressed,
I had been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, I was anorexic,
I was a problem desperately looking for someone to help me.

Everyone around me had lost faith, I was on deaths door mentally and physically but then
I discovered
Agents of Change.

Colm was the first professional to treat me as a human being,
as an equal. At
Agents of Change I finally found a safe place where I could be honest not only with the professional but also myself. Colm guided me every step of the way on a gruelling but beautiful journey of self discovery and growth.

Over the months I noticed my thoughts were finally my own, my drive returned, my fight reignited , my purpose became clear, my relationships flourished.
Agents of Change was the catalyst for rebirth at a time where I was already considered dead.

It’s been a year now and
I still mentally retrace our sessions, calling upon the resources Colm provided during hard times. With this knowledge and support.
I have never looked back to my old coping mechanisms or destructive behaviours.

Connection and expression, Colm preaches it and it saved me.

I can confidently say that Agents of Change not only changed my life but, it in fact made me realise that I want to live.

It’s never too late and you’re never too far gone. Replace isolation and rumination with Connection and expression.

Gratefully Anonymous.🙏

23/02/2026

07/02/2026

Hi ✋

What’s the meaning of life?

For a lot of people it’s just getting through the day. For another lot of people it’s just getting through the day as painlessly as possible.
But can that be all life is about? Like really, that’s it? I know people who their day consists of how miserable their lives are or how miserable they can make another human beings life as miserable as their’s.
*a pretty bad way of life, & also such a waste of this gift we all have of living a life,
most people would agree.*
What if I had a better way to live our life’s & to live it to our full potential. Well there is actually a quite better way of living our lives, maybe not a perfect life because let’s face it, perfectionism doesn’t exist, I myself am imperfectly perfect & I wouldn’t have it any other way, I have a spark of madness that runs inside of me, the one the late great Robin Williams said “we all have inside us & we should embrace it.”
But if you’ve had enough of you’re life & the monotony of the way it’s flowing and would like to enjoy your life & or maybe even really enjoy your life, contact me Colm for an appointment at Ph;0857020747 or agentsofchange114@gmail.com Online Appointments also Available.

And Let’s Begin Your Journey.
😊✈️

02/02/2026

24/01/2026

Hiya,

Tony Robins is talking about Viktor Frankle’s book~
“Man’s search for meaning.”
Viktor Frankle was a psychiatrist in a N**i concentration camp, his diaries during this time were later turned into a book which explains how he found daily purpose for himself & all the other prisoners and this purpose would stop himself & the other prisoners losing hope and also stopped a lot of them from falling into despair & giving up. Frankle went onto discover legotherapy or existential theory.
In his diary/book~
“Man’s Search for Meaning,”explores Viktor Frankl’s development of logotherapy, a psychotherapeutic approach that emphasizes the importance of finding meaning in one’s life. Drawing from his harrowing experiences as a concentration camp prisoner during World War II, Frankl illustrates how a sense of purpose can sustain individuals through suffering and adversity. The book explores his views with those of Sigmund Freud, presenting a shift from Freud’s focus on sexual frustration to Frankl’s emphasis on the
‘will-to-meaning’ as a fundamental drive in human life.

Using Frankle’s method of therapy is a useful way of never allowing life happen to us, instead we always ensure life happens for us, no matter what situation we may be in, changing our perspective is key to this form of therapy. 😊✈️

20/01/2026

Hi 👋

Narcisstic Abuse-
The Flying Monkeys.🐒

Sometimes the drama is not coming from the main person.
It comes from the “helpers” who show up with messages, opinions, pressure, and guilt.
They act like they are being neutral, but they are carrying someone else’s agenda.
That is how your mental clarity gets drained without you even noticing.
In real life, it sounds like: “They’re worried about you.” “Just apologize to keep peace.”
“You’re overreacting.”
“Why are you making it a big deal?” And suddenly you are defending yourself to people you were not even talking to.
That is the power dynamic.
A manipulative person often uses others to do the dirty work so they can stay hidden, look innocent, and still control the story.

Know that you are not going crazy that the other person or persons have an agenda.

Rule number 1.
Do not play with them.

Rule number 2.
Repeat rule number 1.

If you would like some help and support you can contact me on Ph:0857020747 or online therapy also available at agentsofchange114@gmail.com

And Let’s Begin Your Journey.
😊✈️

19/01/2026

Hi ✋
Flying Monkeys Explained for People Who Live in the Real World.
Flying monkeys are not evil masterminds. They are not always stupid either. They are just people who got recruited into someone else’s drama and mistook it for morality. In today’s language, a flying monkey is that person who suddenly shows up with opinions that did not come from their own brain. They say that they are just “concerned.” They say they just want peace. They repeat the narcissist’s version of events word for word, like they memorized a script, they swear they’ll never read.
They are the messenger, the spy, the guilt courier, and sometimes the attack dog. They do the dirty work so the narcissist can keep their hands clean and their image spotless.The narcissist rarely confronts you directly when things get ugly. That would expose them. Instead, they outsource the harm. That is where the flying monkeys come in.
*Why Flying Monkeys Report Back Like It’s Their Job?*
Because to them, it kind of is. Flying monkeys report to the narcissist because the narcissist makes them feel important. Special. Chosen. Like they are on the inside of something exclusive and righteous. The narcissist frames it as concern. Protection. Helping.
“I’m just worried about them.” “I don’t want drama.” “I need your help because you’re the only one I trust.”
People love being trusted. People love feeling useful. People love believing they are the good guy. So they gather information. They pass along screenshots. They casually mention things you said in confidence. They test reactions and report emotional responses.
They monitor your silence and your distance. They call it checking in. The narcissist calls it intel.
How Do Narcissists Convince People to Enable Their Behavior?
1. They never say, “Help me manipulate someone.”
2. They say, “Help me protect myself.”
3. They never say, “I lied.”
4. They say, “I was misunderstood.”
5. They never say, “I’m trying to control them.”
6. They say, “I’m setting boundaries.”
Narcissists weaponize emotionally respectable language. Therapy terms. Moral language. Victim language. They cry. They soften their voice. They share selective truths mixed with strategic omissions. They frame themselves as fragile, overwhelmed, or unfairly attacked. They create urgency. “I’m really scared about them.” “I don’t know what they’re capable of.”
“I’m worried they’re unstable.”
That is how they turn normal people into enablers of cruelty while believing they are preventing harm.
How People End Up Doing Awful Things in the Name of Doing Good?
Because the narcissist turns character assassination into a charity project.
Flying monkeys think they are calming a situation while spreading lies. They think they are helping a relationship while applying pressure. They think they are neutral while clearly picking a side. They shame you into silence. They guilt you into compliance. They pressure you to explain yourself. They urge forgiveness without accountability. They encourage you to “be the bigger person” while excusing abuse. All of it framed as maturity. All of it dressed up as love. All of it serving the narcissist’s control. By the time they realize what they have participated in, the damage is already done.
How to Recognize Someone Is Working for the Narcissist?
They ask questions that feel off, then act casual about it. They already seem to know things you never told them. They push reconciliation while minimizing what happened. They repeat the narcissist’s language almost word for word. They pressure you to explain yourself to people who are not involved. They get uncomfortable when you stop talking. They frame your boundaries as cruelty. They frame your silence as aggression.Most importantly, they never challenge the narcissist. They only challenge you. That is your confirmation.
Why Awareness Means Knowing Who to Stay Quiet Around?
Not everyone deserves access to your story. Not everyone can be trusted with context. Not everyone is safe just because they sound kind.
Some people cannot hold information without turning it into currency. Some people cannot resist the urge to report. Some people mistake loyalty for morality.
Silence is not weakness. It is strategy.
You do not owe clarity to people who are collecting data. You do not owe vulnerability to people who feed on updates. You do not owe explanations to people who already chose a side. Awareness is realizing that privacy is protection. And peace sometimes requires you to stop talking, stop correcting, and stop defending yourself to people who were never actually listening. Flying monkeys thrive on access. Starve them. And watch how fast the noise dies down.

18/01/2026

Agents of Change.

Emotional Relapse with food? Food is the most over used way we use to self medicate anxiety.
Emotional Relapse may occur when a person remembers their last relapse, or their last attempt at recovery & does not want to repeat it, and is not thinking about using.
However, their emotions and resulting behaviors are laying the foundations for their next relapse.
Individuals in this stage are often not planning to relapse so that they may be in *Denial* of their 'risk of relapse'. This *Denial* can prevent the use of effective techniques to prevent the progression of the relapse.
Signs of emotional relapse include isolation, not attending regular recovery meetings, like 12 Step Fellowship meetings, E.D.A. focusing on other people's problems, and poor sleeping or Eating habits. Alcohol is also the biggest comorbidity to any food disorders, Alcohol can also cause cross addictions especially Co***ne abuse.
There are often two main goals during this stage. The first goal is to help the Client understand the importance of self-care - sleep, *Diet.*
The second goal is to help the client to recognise their *Denial* so they can further understand the need to take steps to avoid progressing through the stages of a relapse.

If you are struggling with any of these disorders & would like some help & support with your recovery you can contact me on
Ph; 0857020747 or online therapy also available at
agentsofchange114@gmail.com

And Let’s Begin Your Journey. 😊✈️

16/01/2026

WHY YOU START DISLIKING PEOPLE AFTER A SPIRITUAL AWAKENING.

Most people think awakening makes you kinder, calmer, softer.
It does, but it also makes you LESS TOLERANT OF MISALIGNMENT.

Here are 10 reasons you start disliking people after a spiritual awakening:
1. You can no longer unsee emotional immaturity.
2. Small talk feels empty, performative, draining.
3. You feel manipulation before it’s spoken.
4. You stop bonding through trauma and complaining.
5. People confuse your boundaries with arrogance.
6. You sense when someone wants access, not connection.
7. Your nervous system rejects chaos it once normalized.
8. You outgrow identities built on ego, status, and proving.
9. You can’t participate in unconscious power games anymore.
10. Peace becomes more attractive than belonging.

Awakening doesn’t make you superior.
It makes you selective.

Not everyone is meant to come with you into clarity.
Some were only meant to meet the version of you that hadn’t woken up yet.

If this hit, save it.
If it triggered you, sit with it.

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