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Building Your Boundary Muscle — One Step at a TimeSetting boundaries can feel overwhelming. But here’s the secret: bound...
13/06/2025

Building Your Boundary Muscle — One Step at a Time

Setting boundaries can feel overwhelming. But here’s the secret: boundaries are like muscles 💪 — they get stronger with practice.

You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight.

Here’s where to begin:

✅ Pause before saying yes — give yourself space to reflect

✅ Notice resentment — it’s often a signal a boundary is needed

✅ Be direct and clear — “I can’t make it.” No lengthy explanations needed

✅ Be kind to yourself — it’s normal to feel awkward at first

And remember: if early experiences taught you that setting limits is risky, it makes total sense that boundaries feel hard now. But you can unlearn those patterns. You can build new ones 🌱.

Burnout isn’t the price you have to pay to be a good friend, partner or employee.

Protecting your energy is an act of self-respect 🙏.

🌟 Like & follow if you want more tools for emotional resilience — and remember: you matter too 💛.

Burnout Is Not Inevitable — You Have a ChoiceBurnout is often portrayed as a side-effect of ambition 🚀.But here’s the tr...
12/06/2025

Burnout Is Not Inevitable — You Have a Choice

Burnout is often portrayed as a side-effect of ambition 🚀.

But here’s the truth: Burnout is not inevitable — it’s a sign that boundaries are missing 🚫.

Without boundaries:

🔋 You run on empty

💬 Conversations feel like obligations

🛌 Rest feels shallow

😓 Guilt becomes your constant companion

The good news? You can turn things around. Boundaries are your most powerful tool:

✨ They tell your nervous system you are safe to pause.

✨ They help you reconnect with what YOU need.

✨ They restore your capacity to enjoy life again.

If your inner voice is whispering “This isn’t sustainable” — listen to it.

The shift starts small:

👉 Take one action today that honours your energy.

👉 And if you’re ready for deeper change — therapy can help.

✨ Visit www.here4youtherapy.com to book a consult and take the first step toward emotional resilience.

Why Saying “No” Is an Act of CourageFor many of us — especially those with anxiety, trauma or low self-worth — saying “n...
11/06/2025

Why Saying “No” Is an Act of Courage

For many of us — especially those with anxiety, trauma or low self-worth — saying “no” feels risky 😟.

We fear being seen as:

❌ Selfish

❌ Unkind

❌ Ungrateful

We worry:

🚫 People will be disappointed

🚫 They’ll get angry

🚫 They might leave

If this resonates with you, know this: it’s not your fault. Often, early experiences taught us that being agreeable = being safe and loved. But this pattern leaves you drained and disconnected from your own needs.

✨ Boundaries are not about pushing others away.

✨ They are about protecting your wellbeing, so you can show up fully in life.

Start practicing:

✔️ “Not right now.”

✔️ Let a call go to voicemail — without guilt.

✔️ Take your lunch break away from your desk.

Small shifts can lead to big changes. You are worthy of setting limits. You are safe to choose 💛.

🌟 Like & follow if this message resonates — let’s build your boundary muscle together.

“I Matter Too” — The Power of BoundariesEver feel like your energy is on a constant drain 🔋?You’re saying yes to things ...
10/06/2025

“I Matter Too” — The Power of Boundaries

Ever feel like your energy is on a constant drain 🔋?

You’re saying yes to things you don’t have space for.

You’re working through lunch.

You’re answering messages late at night.

Sound familiar? 🙋‍♀️

Without clear personal boundaries, it’s easy to slip into burnout:

🌀 You feel disconnected from your own needs

🌀 Conversations drain you

🌀 Resentment builds

🌀 Rest no longer restores

Boundaries aren’t selfish — they’re essential.
They’re a way of saying: I matter too. 💛

Start small:

✅ Pause before saying yes

✅ Notice when resentment bubbles up — that’s a clue

✅ Use clear, simple language: “I can’t make it.” You don’t need to explain.

✅ Be kind to yourself — setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first

It’s not about shutting others out. It’s about protecting your energy so you can show up authentically for both yourself and others.

✨ Ready to create more balance in your life? Visit www.here4youtherapy.com to book a free consultation call today.

The Hidden Signs You're Heading Towards BurnoutBurnout doesn’t arrive like a thunderstorm ☁️⚡️.It creeps in quietly:😴 Ti...
09/06/2025

The Hidden Signs You're Heading Towards Burnout

Burnout doesn’t arrive like a thunderstorm ☁️⚡️.

It creeps in quietly:

😴 Tiredness sleep won’t fix

😤 Resentment for tasks you used to enjoy

🌫️ A fog that clouds your day

At first it’s subtle. You stay late "just this once", answer emails through lunch, say yes to every plan despite feeling exhausted. Each small decision builds a pattern of neglecting your own needs.

At the heart of it all? Missing boundaries.

Personal boundaries aren’t walls. They’re a way to honour your own energy 💛 while staying connected to others.

They sound like:

🕕 “I won’t check messages after 6pm.”

🗓️ “I need time to think before committing.”

🙅‍♀️ “That doesn’t work for me.”

When we lack these boundaries, life becomes overwhelming:

✨ Days grow longer

✨ Patience runs thinner

✨ Rest never feels restful

✨ Your sense of self erodes bit by bit

👉 If this sounds familiar, it’s time to explore how boundaries can support you. Burnout isn’t a badge of honour — it’s a warning light 🚨.

🌟 Like & follow for more tips on boundaries and emotional wellbeing.

You’re Not Broken—You’re Healing” 🩵✨It’s easy to think: “What’s wrong with me?” when you struggle with anxiety, trust, o...
16/05/2025

You’re Not Broken—You’re Healing” 🩵✨

It’s easy to think: “What’s wrong with me?” when you struggle with anxiety, trust, or emotional ups and downs. But let’s flip that script.

There’s nothing wrong with you. The way you feel makes sense. Your pain has roots. And most importantly—you’re not broken. You’re healing.

Many of us were taught to minimise, dismiss, or hide our pain. But it doesn’t go away just because we ignore it.

🌊 Healing means creating space for your feelings.

🧘‍♀️ Learning to soothe your nervous system.

💞 Rebuilding trust in yourself, your boundaries, and your instincts.

You don’t need to earn healing. You already deserve it—just because you exist.

📣 Share this if someone you care about needs to hear it too. And follow for more support on navigating trauma and anxiety.

What Healing From Trauma Actually Looks Like 🔄💫Healing doesn’t mean forgetting the past. It means learning to live in th...
15/05/2025

What Healing From Trauma Actually Looks Like 🔄💫

Healing doesn’t mean forgetting the past. It means learning to live in the present without being hijacked by it.

💬 So what does healing from trauma really involve?

🌱 Understanding your triggers (and meeting them with compassion)

🛑 Setting healthy boundaries to protect your energy

🧠 Processing painful memories in a safe, therapeutic space

💓 Reconnecting with your identity and worth

📣 Challenging your inner critic

🌀 Regulating your emotions and nervous system

There’s no finish line. No quick fixes. But every small step is part of something powerful: reclaiming your peace, your confidence, your life.

Healing isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being free.

💻 Ready to take the next step? Visit www.Here4YouTherapy.com to book a consult call and see if therapy could help you begin this journey.

Your Reactions Make Sense” 🧩❤️Do you ever get frustrated with yourself for reacting “too strongly”? Or wonder why you sh...
14/05/2025

Your Reactions Make Sense” 🧩❤️

Do you ever get frustrated with yourself for reacting “too strongly”? Or wonder why you shut down during arguments or conflict?

Let’s get one thing straight: your responses make perfect sense in light of your past experiences.

What looks like:

🚫 Overreacting = was once necessary for safety

😶 Shutting down = a way to avoid emotional overwhelm

🙅 Hyper-independence = self-protection from past let-downs

😊 People-pleasing = a way to avoid rejection or conflict

These aren’t character flaws. They’re trauma responses—developed when your needs weren’t met or your boundaries weren’t respected.

When you begin to see your reactions as messages rather than problems, everything shifts.

✨ Healing begins with understanding—not judgement.

You don’t have to keep doing it alone. Therapy helps you recognise these patterns, soothe your nervous system, and rewrite the story you’ve been carrying.

💬 Found this helpful? Like and follow for more tips on navigating anxiety, trauma, and emotional wellbeing.

Are You Living in Survival Mode? 🚨🧠You’ve got a job, friends, and daily routines. To the outside world, you’re doing jus...
13/05/2025

Are You Living in Survival Mode? 🚨🧠

You’ve got a job, friends, and daily routines. To the outside world, you’re doing just fine. But inside? There’s a constant hum of unease. You’re always “on,” always busy—because slowing down feels… unsafe.

This is survival mode. And it’s more common than you think.

📉 Signs you might be stuck in it:

Emotional numbness or disconnection

Needing to stay busy to avoid difficult thoughts

Feeling on edge even during calm moments

Constant self-monitoring and perfectionism

When trauma goes unrecognised, it doesn’t disappear—it just gets buried. And our nervous system stays on high alert, long after the threat is gone.

You didn’t choose to live this way. It’s how your body and mind adapted when you didn’t feel safe.

🌱 You can come out of survival mode. With the right support, healing is not only possible—it’s your birthright.

🖱️ Ready to begin your healing journey? Visit www.Here4YouTherapy.com to book a free consult call today.

Could This Be Trauma? 😔💭Have you ever felt like something just isn’t right—but you can’t quite put your finger on it?Tra...
12/05/2025

Could This Be Trauma? 😔💭

Have you ever felt like something just isn’t right—but you can’t quite put your finger on it?

Trauma isn’t always the result of a single, dramatic event. Sometimes, it builds quietly over time. It can live in the background of your daily life, affecting your relationships, confidence, and emotional wellbeing—without ever shouting its name.

💡 Common signs of unresolved trauma in adults:

Overreacting or shutting down during conflict

Anxiety in close relationships

People-pleasing and fear of rejection

Avoiding difficult emotions or situations

Hyper-independence (never asking for help)

Chronic self-criticism or low self-worth

Sleep issues, fatigue, or muscle tension

These aren’t flaws—they’re survival strategies your nervous system developed to keep you safe during overwhelming experiences.

If any of this feels familiar, you are not alone. You’re not “too sensitive,” broken, or dramatic. You’re responding to pain you were never supported in processing.

🧠 Trauma isn’t just in the past—it can shape how we feel and function today.

💬 Like this post if it resonates, and follow for more content on healing anxiety and trauma.

Speak with Curiosity, Not Fear 💬💡When rejection sensitivity kicks in, communication can turn defensive fast. Instead of ...
09/05/2025

Speak with Curiosity, Not Fear 💬💡

When rejection sensitivity kicks in, communication can turn defensive fast. Instead of connection, we end up with conflict—or silence. 😶

Here’s a game-changer: speak from curiosity, not accusation.

Instead of:

❌ “You always ignore me.”

Try:
✅ “I noticed I felt a bit anxious when I didn’t hear back. Are we okay?”

This shift keeps the conversation open. It signals safety, not blame. And it helps you feel heard rather than dismissed.

Healing rejection sensitivity is about learning to self-regulate, check your stories, and express your needs in healthier ways. You deserve relationships where you feel seen, not small. 🌱

📲 If you’re ready to change your patterns and feel more secure in love and life, visit www.here4youtherapy.com to book a free consult.

Don’t Let Rejection Define You 🚫💔What if your worth wasn’t tied to someone else’s response? What if you could feel secur...
08/05/2025

Don’t Let Rejection Define You 🚫💔

What if your worth wasn’t tied to someone else’s response? What if you could feel secure, even when others are distant or distracted?

That’s the power of healing rejection sensitivity. It’s not about never feeling hurt. It’s about knowing how to anchor yourself in those moments. 🪨

One of the most transformative steps? Building your inner sense of worth. That means:

📝 Journaling your thoughts and triggers

💭 Practising self-compassion

💬 Replacing “I’m too much” with “I’m enough”

💡 Getting support when you need it

You don’t need to shrink or hide to be loved. You deserve relationships where you’re not constantly second-guessing yourself. ❤️

🗓 Ready to explore your patterns and rewrite your relationship story? Visit www.here4youtherapy.com to book a consult call today.

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