30/12/2023
Parenting is hard and stressful at times but there is some useful information here
Harsh punishments leave a child’s nervous system trying to find safety and making them reactive. Helping a child calm and coaching them through, will build a calmer nervous system and allow them to learn to manage their emotions better.
We need to discipline our kids in the true sense of the word; teach direct and guide them. We need to work with them and not be an authority to cause fear, but someone that will help them develop to the same moral standard we have.
So when setting a limit:
👉Is it reasonable? Sometimes our first response is "no". But can it be done a different way or at another time?
👉Is it developmentally appropriate? Often our expectations of our kids are just too high
👉 you can set limits in love. Connection is is so important if we want kids to follow our instructions. Be careful not to damage it
👉 problem solve together. If we work with our kids and get them to find a solution then they learn to make good decisions and you are more likely to have cooperation
More information in my book.
Guidance from The Therapist Parent
Available on my website www.thetherapistparent.com/online-store
And on Amazon
