17/10/2025
People-Pleasing yourself around in circles and exhausted and bored with it all at the same time.....
How is that working out for you?
When people say to me, 'I am a people pleaser; it's just the way I am,' Is it? People pleasing in its truest form is a big pain area at the best of times.
WHY?
- You say “yes” before you even know what you’re agreeing to.
- You say “yes” when you don't want to.
- You say “yes” to be accepted.
- You say “yes” so that others will think you are a good person.
- You draft a text saying “Sorry, I can’t” but end up sending “Of course, no problem!” instead because of the fear of being judged.
- You say yes because you don't want others to think you're lazy... even when you know you are back to back.
- Your schedule is packed… a chunk of it... is things other people need from you.
- The thought of someone not liking you gets the mind on overdrive.
- Conditioning, expectations, and obligation are winning....
The list is endless...
Sound familiar? Congratulations, you might just be a Professional People-Pleaser!
Now, don’t get me wrong, helping others is the most beautiful thing, especially if you are doing it because it makes you happy to do so, and in this pure energy, there should never be a problem with supporting or helping others, because it makes you happy, and no expectations are in play. BUT when it’s at the cost of your own sanity, happiness, truth, and free time when you are limited? Not so much.
You don’t need to be everything to everyone. And if saying “no” makes someone upset or judges you? Well, that’s their problem, not yours, especially if you are coming from the right intention and not doing it to upset or wind others up.
There is nothing more beautiful than doing things for others when it makes you feel happy to do so...BUT not all that other Jazz above that will be just you fake version in play....Nice work!
Ask yourself how it is working out for you mentally and physically if you are people pleasing for the wrong reasons. If you are going to do anything always remember be in your truth it will work out beautifully that way.
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Love & Light
Deborah
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