Olga’s Psychoanalytic Clinic. Butterfly Effect.

13/12/2025

13/12/2025

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12/12/2025

“It’s normal when some people refuse to help you fulfill your desires. You can always turn to others. But when you yourself refuse to pursue your own desires, there’s no one else you can turn to.”

07/12/2025

1. Betrayal gives you back your true self.
When someone leaves, cheats, or goes cold without a word, it doesn’t end the relationship — it ends the illusion.
And that moment becomes a turning point.

Research shows that after a major breakup, most people finally do the things they’ve been afraid to do for years: change careers, move to a new city, cut toxic ties.
Pain forces clarity — and clarity sets you free.

2. Solitude isn’t emptiness. It’s recovery.
Those who finish the year alone aren’t being punished — they’re rebooting.
Your nervous system finally gets a chance to rest after years of noise, demands, and emotional strain.

Give yourself 2–3 months of quiet, and you’ll notice something powerful:
your standards rise, your boundaries strengthen, and your intuition gets louder.
This isn’t isolation. It’s alignment.

3. Betrayal makes you brave.
It forces you to be honest with yourself in a way comfort never could.

“I’m too demanding” turns into “I deserved affection, not coldness.”
“It’s my fault” becomes “I tried to earn love from someone who never intended to give it.”
This is maturity — the kind that can only be earned through fire.
Betrayal hurts, yes. But it removes what has been hurting you far longer.

4. A breakup shows you the truth.
Often we weren’t in a relationship — we were in a fantasy.
We held on to potential instead of reality.
When everything collapses, you finally see what was real, what was missing, and what you truly want.
A breakup doesn’t destroy you — it restores your dignity.

And here’s the secret:
A year that ends in loneliness gives you something priceless — your freedom of choice.
No need to prove your worth.
No need to chase love.
No need to shrink yourself to be accepted.

It’s in this quiet, honest place that real strength forms — the kind that doesn’t beg to be loved but naturally attracts love.

Solitude isn’t the end of your story.
It’s the beginning of the chapter where you finally become the person you were meant to be.

23/11/2025

Никто, в наших письмах роясь,
Не понял до глубины,
Как мы вероломны, то есть —
Как сами себе верны.

М.Цветаева

14/11/2025

The feeling of one’s own superiority and absolute rightness, imposed on others, is essentially pride.

From a spiritual perspective, it is the first of the sins; from a psychological perspective, it is a lack of dialog and an inability to negotiate; from a human perspective, it is an aggressive demand that another person must unquestionably comply with my expectations, or else they will be “punished,” or “I will hurt them” (morally, physically, or legally). In other words, pride inevitably contains an element of blackmail and suppression.

When there has been love (or friendship, or partnership) between people, and they must continue interacting, it becomes especially difficult if such behavior starts to appear and it is impossible to immediately leave the communication.

With strangers it is easier, because you always interact from a polite but emotionally closed state. But here you love and still trust — and then this happens…

It is clear that one must separate, clearly that one must leave. But the soul will need some time to hurt — it needs more time to fully comprehend what is happening and to convince itself that the person who once loved you is now destroying you.

You may intellectually understand the destructive nature of the actions of someone you once loved, but you cannot explain this to your soul right away. For the soul to be fully convinced, it often has to remain open until the moment when the beloved but “prideful” person, through their words, actions, and behavior, finally kills the love for them in the other person’s heart…

Most of what is described above happens beyond the level of conscious awareness, on an energetic level.

It becomes fully recognized and verbalized only when there is a well-developed connection between the emotional (intuitive) and conscious (intellectual) parts of a person’s personality.

12/10/2025