Norah Finn Therapy

08/01/2026

And just like that, it’s 2026. Happy new year to you all. I look forward to sharing the year ahead with you. 💜

08/01/2026

HOW DO YOU RELATE WITH OTHERS IN YOUR WORLD? Where there is difficulty, do you focus on you or how another behaves? The only person you can heal is yourself. Our life can be measured by the quality of our relationships. If you’re always blaming others for what happens in your relationships, then there’s a good chance you’re missing a golden opportunity to honestly look at where you can behave more effectively in this world.

What patterns did we pick up as children? What patterns did we develop to fit into our systems? There’s a good chance that we could have developed some ineffective ways of responding to others in this world. Therapy supports us in unraveling patterns that no longer serve us.

It takes courage to heal. Blame gets us nowhere, only deeper and deeper into our own denial. Therapy supports us in developing healthier ways of relating with others in this world. 💜

08/01/2026

DO YOU KNOW, you don’t need anyone’s permission to spread Choice Theory? Choice Theory is all about internal motivation. There is no external control in Choice Theory. And if there is control, then you’re not practicing Choice Theory. Dr. Glasser said “teach Choice Theory to the world”. Glasser himself wanted us to share his teachings with anyone who wanted to listen, and anyone who wanted personal freedom.

Choice Theory is one of this world’s best kept secrets. Why is that happening? Isn’t it about time that changed? If we found something that supported us so well in our own life, why are we not sharing it? Never before in this world have we needed a theory like Choice Theory more than we do today. Get out there and spread it.

I’ve met wonderful people throughout the years who have so many excellent skills. They came to learn Choice Theory to add to their tool box. We don’t qualify psychotherapists, or psychologists, or organisational psychologists, we’re simply introducing people to Glasserian psychology. A new way of relating in this world. A tool that we hope will benefit people in their personal lives. Just as it did for us. The entire process of training is done through self evaluation. No one “owns” Choice Theory. CT teaches us to use our creativity in the spreading of CT information.

Are you trained in Choice Theory? Are you already using CT alongside your personal and professional skills? Well done you. That’s what Choice Theory is all about. When I train people, I encourage them to spread and share the teachings. What else is the point of learning it?

If you have any creative ideas on how you would wish to use your CT knowledge, don’t hesitate to get in touch with me. I’d love to hear your ideas and to support you in sharing CT. I’ve done this for many years. Let’s be a part of not keeping Choice Theory hidden. There are people out in our communities who really need that information.

There is no external control in Choice Theory. Isn’t that why we love it! Let’s get creative together. It’s all about inclusion. If it’s not, then it’s not Choice Theory 🌻

07/01/2026

LOVE IS A CHOICE. It’s not something we “fall into.” The initial rush of intense feelings is lust, attraction combined with a surge of brain chemicals that temporarily alter our mood. That’s the honeymoon phase. And inevitably, it fades. When it does, we are left with a choice.

If there is a genuine connection, two people can choose to build something real together. This is where sharing deepens, growth begins, and conflict naturally arises. No two people see the world in exactly the same way. What matters is not identical perceptions, but shared core values. These are the true bonds that hold a relationship together. Even with shared values, conflict is unavoidable.

Getting to know another human being takes time, patience, and effort from both people. Choice Theory helps us navigate this process by teaching us how to relate more effectively in all interpersonal relationships.

Healthy relationships are built by doing what nourishes them and refraining from what harms them. The seven connecting habits move us closer; the seven disconnecting habits push us apart. Each moment presents us with a choice.

Imagine if, before speaking or acting, we asked ourselves: “Will this move us closer together, or further apart?” If the answer is “further apart,” perhaps we pause. Perhaps we choose a different way of saying or doing what we wish to communicate?

Using Choice Theory in relationships keeps our focus on behaviors that strengthen connection. It can prevent unnecessary arguments, resentment, and emotional distance. Love, kindness, and respect become self aware and conscious practices rather than emotional reactions. This way of living creates a win–win for everyone involved.

Learning Choice Theory has enhanced many relationships because it shifts our attention away from trying to control others, and back to the only behavior we truly can control - our own.

07/01/2026

HAVE YOU THE COURAGE TO MAKE YOUR UNCONSCIOUS CONSCIOUS? Transparency is necessary in connection and allows us to feel energised afterwards. It may be uncomfortable at times, but necessary if we desire to relate honestly and fairly in this world. It comes across as real. Authentic. A sense of shared connection.

It takes a lot of self awareness and self growth to be able to express yourself honestly. It is vulnerable. Those who cannot express themselves honestly are afraid of vulnerability. It’s not that they’re hiding or lacking honesty, they’re doing their best, but it comes across as a lack of presence.

Therapy invites us to look at our unexplored psychological issues. Our shadow side. The part of self that is dark. We all have one. If you feel you haven’t or feel you’ve “dealt” with that, then that’s your shadow talking.

We don’t eliminate the shadow. That’s the shadow talking again. The part of self that tells you that you have to be healed. We learn to live with the shadow. Embrace it. Accept it. Put an arm around it and tell it it’s ok to feel mean about self and others. That you still love it.

Psychology and psychotherapy are tools we can use to allow us to live and understand all parts of the personality. We cannot bypass that journey. As Carl Jung so beautifully says “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate”. It takes courage to heal. It’s all about self awareness.

Therapy is a journey of walking home towards self. 💜

06/01/2026

I was sent this poem earlier by a wonderful woman I know. I had never seen it before and I thought it so beautiful, especially for Nollaig na mBan. You may have read this before, but it was a first for me, and if you haven’t seen this, it’s too beautiful not to share it with you.

It was a reminder to me to honor all women in my life, past, present, and those who’ll come, who shared their wisdom with me through the years. Who has supported you? Who has held you? I have had so many wonderful women in my life who stood by me with patience, truth, and compassion, as I found my feet in this world. I bow my head to them. Thank you. I honour them by sharing that onwards. That is all they asked for in return.

When we dishonour another woman we dishonour the long line of women who stand behind them and with them. We honour ourselves deeply by honouring all women, without judgement. We are all doing our very best, all in our own way, with what is right for us. We are all learning and growing deeper in our personal awareness. We are not each others competition. May we all cheer each other on. That is where we all thrive together. We cannot honour ourself until we honour all women.

Happy Nollaig na mBan to all the wonderful women I know. Thank you for being in my life and enriching my soul with your beautiful presence. I am deeply honoured to know you and share with you 💜💜💜

06/01/2026

06/01/2026

NOLLAIG NA MBAN SHONA DAOIBH 💜
January 6th is a day that can go by several different names depending on where you are. Known by many as The Feast of the Epiphany or the 12th Day of Christmas, in Ireland it is known as Nollaig na mBan or “Women’s Christmas”.

Traditionally it was the day where Irish women, who had worked tirelessly for weeks to create Christmas magic for their families, had this day off to rest. I think about those women. What they achieved with so little support. Rather than us view it as these women only having one day off to rest, I rather see it as just one day in each others company was enough to fuel them for the year ahead. Power houses. May we never forget the magic they could create. They gave birth to us with the hope that we would have an easier life than they did.

Nowadays, I like to think of Nollaig na mBan as a celebration and acknowledgment of the fantastic women in our lives. To the empowered and wonderful women I know in Ireland, and around the globe, - nollaig na mBan shona daoibh. Those women would never accept anything less than equality. May we never forget that we stand on the heads and shoulders of those giants that went before us. Thank you for our sharing, love, support, and craic together. My journey is enriched on this earth by the gift of your graceful wildness and authentic presence. 💜

04/01/2026

WE ARE DELIGHTED TO WELCOME YOU AS A REGISTERED MEMBER OF . Happy new year, happy YOU year! CTI value and appreciate those who are interested in Choice Theory. We want to be a part of supporting you in learning more, and sharing more, of Glasserian Psychology.

Once you have completed any level of training with us, whether introductory or formal, you will receive a FREE lifetime membership. All you have to do is go to our website, www.choicetheoryireland.com, go to drop down menu, go to log in, click on sign up, and fill in your details. It’s that easy!

Once you register, you will receive 10 FREE online CPD points annually, 10% of all upcoming events, access to updated information about what’s happening at CTI, training dates, Choice Theory workshops/wellness groups, community events, focus groups, mental health, wellbeing, etc.

Being a part of our CT community will keep you updated with what’s happening at and keeps you current in using your CT/RT Certified qualification through CTI.

Join at any time you choose. We’re delighted to welcome you. The more who learn, share, and spread Choice Theory, the more Dr Glassers teachings can be shared within community, homes, and workplaces. It’s what Dr Glasser wanted. Choice Theory does not need to be this worlds best kept secret.

Choice Theory is a practical and straight forward psychology that can be taught simply to us all, and it unlocks the door to our personal freedom. Once we know Choice Theory, it’s just not possible to “unknow” it.

We wish you all a wonderful 2026, and we look forward to connecting, supporting, and building lasting relationships with you all.

From all the team 🌻

02/01/2026

HAPPY 2026 TO YOU ALL. Self-care is about doing all the things that feels right for you to do, without having to defend, explain, or justify yourself. It’s about living your life in a way that brings out the very best in you. Sharing your time with those who show you the same level of respect, gratitude, and support that you would them. Setting healthy boundaries for yourself. NO really is a complete sentence.

Self care is not about overindulgence, although when we do, which we’re all entitled to do, I hope you do it guilt free. Treat yourself. Be kind to yourself. True self care is about taking care of our inner responses in this world. And most of all, how we respond to ourselves. Ultimately, how we treat others is a reflection of the worth we’ve placed on ourselves.

It’s the start of a new year. Start as we mean to go on. Don’t allow what’s outside of you to impact your inner being. Paying attention to how others behave will lead to emotional fatigue. You’re only responsible for you and how you treat others in this world. Step away from unkindness, and move towards what lights you up internally.

We don’t know what this year will bring, but if it’s like every other year, it will be filled with life’s ups and downs. That’s just how life rocks. May we enjoy every bit of love and joy that comes our way, and may we find the awareness to stay soft and compassionate through any grief and sadness that could come. True compassion and gratitude is about finding acceptance of both.

I wish you a year ahead filled with self care, the real stuff, the stuff that keeps your soul healthy. Every day ask yourself “how will I choose to walk into this day”? “What do I need to do to nourish my soul and keep me loving and kind towards my own inner being”? And add a little chocolate - chocolate helps every occasion.

Happy 2026 to you all. I wish you all a great year ahead. 💜

31/12/2025

THIS YEAR, DON’T CHANGE YOURSELF, JUST BE YOURSELF. You don’t need to add anything to you, you’re perfect just as you are. But to be your authentic self, maybe you need to remove all the conditioning that was placed on you, and that you place on yourself, that stops you from standing in your authenticity. Be YOU. You’re perfect just as you are! 💜

31/12/2025

NEW YEAR, NEW YOU! The Choice is in your hands. Stay posted for details of upcoming trainings 🌻