Salvus Psychotherapy Clinic

Salvus Psychotherapy Clinic Tweens to teens and parents psychotherapist
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If your teen isn’t talking, it doesn’t mean they don’t want you.Most teens communicate through behaviour, silence, or re...
24/11/2025

If your teen isn’t talking, it doesn’t mean they don’t want you.
Most teens communicate through behaviour, silence, or resistance — not words.
They’re not shutting you out; they’re trying to stay safe.

Stay present without pushing.
Trust is built in the calm, quiet moments too.

When your teen slams a door or shuts down, it can hit something much older inside you.That reaction isn’t “bad parenting...
21/11/2025

When your teen slams a door or shuts down, it can hit something much older inside you.
That reaction isn’t “bad parenting” — it’s your nervous system repeating what it had to do to survive.

If you grew up with minimising, shame, or emotional unpredictability, the pressure of parenting can activate those old patterns fast.

That’s why I created the Parent–Trauma Awareness Checklist — to help you notice:

When your past is hijacking your present

What’s yours vs. what’s your teen’s

How awareness helps you pause, soften, and respond differently

This isn’t about blame. It’s about insight — the kind that makes gentler parenting possible.

✨ Download the free handout: link in bio
(https://salvus-parenting.mn.co/posts/worksheets-parent-trauma-awareness-checklist
)

And if this feels personal — if you’re ready to go deeper — I’m opening a small therapeutic parent group to help you reflect, regulate, and reconnect.

📩 Message me to pre-register.

''If I don't fix it right away, I've failed.''A parent said that to me recently — and the weight of it was real.But here...
19/11/2025

''If I don't fix it right away, I've failed.''
A parent said that to me recently — and the weight of it was real.

But here’s the truth: rushing to fix often disconnects you from your teen in the moments that actually need the most softness.
This week’s newsletter breaks down three practical mindset shifts that ease tension, build connection, and help you parent from calm instead of urgency.

If you’re trying to stay steady but keep getting pulled back into old patterns, this one will feel grounding.

✉️ Landing Thursday.
Not subscribed yet? Join via the link in my bio.

Parenting gets easier when the goal shifts from control to connection.These mindset pivots help you respond with clarity...
18/11/2025

Parenting gets easier when the goal shifts from control to connection.
These mindset pivots help you respond with clarity instead of urgency — especially when things feel tense:

❌Old mindset: ''I need to stay in control of my teen.''
✅New mindset: ''I need to stay connected to my teen.''
Control pushes your teen away. Connection gives them a reason to stay close - even when things are hard.

❌Old mindset: ''I can't let them get away with this.''
✅New mindset: ''Behaviour is communication - not manipulation.''
When you respond to what's underneath the behaviour, change becomes possible.

❌Old mindset: ''If I don't fix it now, it'll get worse.''
✅New mindset: ''Regulation before resolution.''
No one learns in a moment of stress - not your teen, and not you. First calm, then clarity.

• Regulate before you resolve

You don’t have to get this perfect.
Even one small shift can change the tone of your entire home.

Want a practical guide you can use in hard moments? Join our community for more!


Grab the Emotional Regulation Cheat Sheet — link in bio. 💛

Regulation before repair.You can’t teach calm from chaos — and every parent has learned this the hard way.If you’ve ever...
17/11/2025

Regulation before repair.
You can’t teach calm from chaos — and every parent has learned this the hard way.

If you’ve ever tried to have a “teachable moment” while both sides were dysregulated, you already know how it ends.
When tension rises, the first step isn’t to fix the behaviour — it’s to steady your own nervous system.

💭 What helps you get grounded when things heat up?

15/11/2025

We start their life holding all the power - literally in our hands.
And then they crawl... walk... run... and suddenly the distance between us gets bigger.
That’s how it’s supposed to be.

The hardest part of parenting teens is loosening our grip without losing our connection.
Letting them make mistakes, knowing they’ll come back if home feels safe enough to return to.

This is something we talk about a lot in Salvus parenTEENg - that shift from control to trust.

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That split second—when your teen says the thing and you feel it rising in your chest—can change everything.You don’t nee...
14/11/2025

That split second—when your teen says the thing and you feel it rising in your chest—can change everything.
You don’t need to become a different person. You just need a plan.

💛 The Emotional Regulation Cheat Sheet was made for that moment your nervous system goes offline.

Inside you’ll find:
✨ Signs you’re about to lose it
✨ Grounding tools that actually work
✨ One-liners that buy you a breath (and keep connection alive)

You don’t have to stay calm all the time.
But learning how to come back to calm? That’s the real parenting power.

Get the guide. Keep it close.
Every regulated breath is leadership in action.

Ever lose your cool and regret it?You’re not failing — you’re flooded.Staying calm during your teen’s meltdown isn’t jus...
13/11/2025

Ever lose your cool and regret it?
You’re not failing — you’re flooded.

Staying calm during your teen’s meltdown isn’t just about willpower. It’s about nervous system safety — yours first.

This post walks you through small, powerful ways to pause, ground yourself, and respond with intention — even when emotions run high.

💬 Want a script you can actually use in the heat of the moment?
Drop a 🔁 and I’ll send it your way.

13/11/2025

Nobody talks about how a separation changes the relationship with your teen too.
They don’t shut down because they don’t care, they shut down because they’re overwhelmed and trying to survive it all.
And parents are surviving it too.

By the way, this comes up a lot in the parenTEENg community - parents figuring out how to rebuild connection after everything shifts.

12/11/2025

When your teen starts avoiding school, it’s rarely defiance, it’s fear, shame, or overwhelm hiding underneath.

Pushing harder often closes the door even more.
Start with safety. Listen first.
The rest can come later.

By the way... we’ve been talking a lot about this in the parenTEENg community - parents sharing what’s really behind school avoidance and how to reconnect through it.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/289604070444154/?ref=share

Ever think, “I should’ve handled that better”?You’re not alone. Every parent I work with has moments they wish they coul...
11/11/2025

Ever think, “I should’ve handled that better”?
You’re not alone. Every parent I work with has moments they wish they could undo. The raised voice. The silence. The words that came out too sharp.
But the truth is, repair starts the moment you notice.
When you pause. Reflect. Try again.
That’s not failure — that’s healing in real time.

💛 I’m opening a small therapeutic parent group — a space to learn, connect, and grow without judgment.
If you or your teen have been struggling, I’d love to invite you in.

DM me to pre-register or learn more. You don’t have to do this alone.

Ever notice how your own childhood shows up in the way you parent — especially when emotions run high?You’re not alone. ...
07/11/2025

Ever notice how your own childhood shows up in the way you parent — especially when emotions run high?

You’re not alone. Many of us are still healing while raising our kids.

This week’s featured read, “Understanding the Impact of Childhood Trauma on Parenting,” explores how old wounds can influence our reactions — and how to begin shifting the pattern without shame.

💛 Plus, a little celebration: Salvus parenTEENg has been nominated for Most Positive Impact and Solo Business at The Club Awards! Just being recognized alongside such inspiring changemakers already feels like a win.

Curious how your story shapes the way you parent?
👉 Join the community and read the full article

Let’s grow together — one healing step at a time.

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