Sli an Chroi Children's Therapy

10/03/2020

Love. 💗

06/03/2020

Comfort is the most powerful thing we can offer a child. True comfort, shows they matter, they are loved.
It does not mean the behavior is acceptable. It does not mean we are being to easy or soft. It means we love them.
Comfort creates bonding and attachment as well. Something our children struggle with because their brains have not developed properly.
The therapeutic parenting way is to allow for natural consequences and still hold children accountable for their choices and behaviors. But it doesn't mean they don't still deserve comfort, because those behaviors are coming from a place of pain, confusion, control (which their survival brain tells them they need)

So yes please still offer your child comfort. Show them that your love for them has no conditions!.

15/02/2020

TEN ACTUAL THINGS THAT LOVE HAS SAID TO ME WHEN I WAS ALONE AND AFRAID (FOR ANYONE WHO MIGHT NEED IT TODAY❤️)

1. What’s that, my baby? You feel like you’re failing at life? But may I ask: By whose rules? And by what deadline?

2. Please stop looking for proof that you are wrong and bad. Don’t be in such a hurry to disown yourself. And please, for the love of God, stop trying to transform. Just sit here with me for a moment, and let me love you exactly as you are. And maybe get yourself a nice big glass of water. That usually helps.

3. You don’t need to show compassion or patience to the world right now. Why would I force that on you, when you don’t actually feel it? You don’t even need to be grateful right now. I love you so much, I will never ask you to do anything you can’t do. Just sit here with me, and know that you are loved, and let that be all we do right now.

4. Stop trying. Does that scare you? Do you still have trouble believing how loved you are—even when you are doing nothing, producing nothing, improving nothing, understanding nothing? Can you sit quietly with me for a moment and consider the possibilities?

5. Can you find the courage and curiosity to live one breath at a time? Can you breathe into this very moment, right now? Because “right now” is the only place I will ever be able to find you. So meet me halfway, dear one, by taking the next breath.

6. You are not crazy or broken, sweetheart, but you do have a mind that requires constant, tender, affectionate stewardship. Good thing you have me!

7. I see how you much you fear solitude sometimes, but trust me: This is your medicine. Also, I have a secret for you: You’re not alone. It’s actually not even possible.

8. If it helps, sweetheart, you can’t possibly do anything wrong. By which I mean—you can’t possibly do anything that will lose me.

9. I’m right here. I have always been right here. I will always be right here. And I’ve got nothing but time for you.

10. Don’t worry about how everyone else is doing it. There is no “everyone else”. There is only you and me. And my name is Love. And so is yours. So let’s just sit quietly now, and know this truth together❤️

Onward, LG

17/01/2020

17/01/2020

It is my pleasure to introduce this guest blog by Carol Duffy. Based in Mayo, Ireland, Carol is a child and adolescent psychotherapist specialising in play.

23/12/2019

Emotions aren’t good or bad, they just are!

It’s so important children get consistent messages not to suppress emotions.

And we model how to feel each emotion and to express them safely.

Then they learn three beautiful powerful lessons:

*All my emotions have value

*I can feel my emotions without being overwhelmed by them

*Everyone has a right to have every emotion respected and acknowledged.

I’ve spent my entire life learning how to ‘be with my emotions.’

It’s had a HUGE impact on my health, life outcomes and relationships along the way.

Now I’m internally safe and grounded enough to feel EVERY emotion, rather than numbing them out.

Which has truly transformed my entire life!

So let’s NOT categorise any child’s emotions, or rush them through them, or make them feel they can ONLY show the ‘good ones.’

10/12/2019

Behind the smiles of some children this Christmas.........

This Christmas some children will believe they were not worthy enough of gifts from Santa

This Christmas some children will spend their Christmas grieving a loved one

This Christmas some children will spend their time watchful because violence may escalate in their homes who live with Domestic violence

This Christmas some children will end up caring for a depressed parent

This Christmas some children will be hoping a parent does not pick up that drink or drug

This Christmas some children will hope they will not be abused by the adults who care for them

This Christmas some children will try to understand why they are in residential Care or in foster care

This Christmas some children will be spending their last Christmas with a loved one due to a terminal illness

This Christmas some children may have to open the doors to a guard or social worker for there own safety and that of a parents

This Christmas some children will be torn between parents who are battling through the courts and access arrangements

This Christmas some children will feel unloved

This Christmas remember even behind the smiles of a child, this Christmas may be one of the most difficult times of the year

20/11/2019

❤️❤️❤️

10/10/2019

What a fantastic quote.
Music has a great way of expressing emotions that have been building up.
Take time today to listen to the songs you like. Turn it up loud and sing like no one is watching.

08/09/2019

credit: The Badass Breastfeeder

03/09/2019

Let them create!!!😊

30/08/2019

Powerful words, Katie Hurley, LCSW!

24/08/2019

“When they say if you hold them too much, they'll always want to be held.... I can never understand why that would be seen as bad." - Mum Luv Support

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11/08/2019

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