28/08/2025
🔺️🔻 sound familiar??
🤓 That “um…actually…” thing autistic folks are sometimes known for, can FEEL like they want the last word, but in reality, it’s ACTUALLY 👆a need for precision.
MOST people build a hierarchy of information that values the main point / conclusion,
and then the context,
and then the supporting details.
For example, you might say, “my mom just got the cutest poodle-type dog, and the other day he got into some chocolate and she had to take him to the emergency vet.”
If your mom’s dog is ACTUALLY a bichon, not a poodle,
it might not matter as much if the main point of your story was that the dog is sick.
For autistic people, our information hierarchy may involve exact details being the most important,
then chronological order of events,
and last is our main point.
Where you might prioritize social smoothness over accuracy to keep the conversation flowing, we may prioritize accuracy.
And while no one likes being corrected, especially in front of others...for us, trying to correct details is a way of stabilizing information so it feels usable to our brains.
HOWEVER, it should be noted that it’s FRUSTRATING to be on the receiving end of correction.
So here’s the middle ground…
When you hear something that’s not quite right, wait for a pause and say something like:
“I think what you meant was ___. Did I get that right?”
Or…
“Can I add a detail that feels important?”
If you’re on the receiving end of the correction that’s poorly timed, you can try something like this:
“I get that this detail is important to you, but I’d like to finish my story first.”
Or…
“Thanks for clarifying—can we keep moving? I don’t want to lose my train of thought.”
‼️Also…if you’re seeing this BEFORE August 25th register for a ✨FREE WEBINAR✨ for autistic adults 🤩 (link in comments)