19/04/2026
In my last reel about s*x after baby, we talked about readiness, arousal, and lubrication.
But there’s another piece that is often missed.
If s*x is painful after having a baby, many women assume they’re “not healed” yet, or that something is wrong with their scar.
Sometimes that is part of the picture.
But very often, there is also a pelvic floor that is tight, guarded, or not fully relaxing.
We see this after vaginal birth and after C-section.
The muscles can start to grip in response to pain, discomfort, or even anticipation around pe*******on. When that happens, they don’t fully relax, and that can make pe*******on feel difficult or painful.
This is not something you need to push through, and it’s not something that improves with more strengthening alone.
If you have any concerns about healing, your scar, stitches, or ongoing pain, it’s important to speak with your GP, obstetrician, or women’s health physiotherapist to make sure everything has healed as expected.
And if things just don’t feel right, even if you’ve been told you’re “fine”, a pelvic health physiotherapy assessment can help you understand what’s going on and guide you forward.
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