11/02/2026
I've a little chalkboard in my therapy space.
And on it I leave weekly memos and messages, firstly for me, and also for anybody else that needs to remember, resonate with, or embody any particular feeling or sense.
Here's what's on my mind this week, and more importantly NEEDED BY MY BODY...
Play isn’t just for children — it’s a powerful way for adults to regulate the nervous system too.
When we play, our bodies release tension, creativity returns, and we reconnect with curiosity, joy, and connection. Play can look like dancing in the kitchen, drawing badly on purpose, laughing with a friend, or trying something new just for the fun of it.
But here’s the important part:
***We only play when our nervous system feels safe enough to do so***
If your system is in survival mode — overwhelmed, anxious, shut down, or constantly on edge — play might feel impossible or even irritating. That’s not a personal failure. It’s your nervous system doing its job.
Safety comes first.
Then curiosity.
Then play.
So instead of forcing yourself to “have fun,” start by asking:
What helps me feel just a little more safe or settled right now?
For me depending on my Vagal tone, that might be a walk in nature, shaking the body down or controlled breathing and so on...
The less fight and flight I feel, by showing my nervous system it's safe, play will naturally begin to return the more I can regulate.
Our capacity for joy hasn’t disappeared — it’s just waiting for safety. Regulation takes work and consistency...but its worth it!
Joan
Holistichealthcare.ie