27/03/2025
For most people, it is safer and more straightforward to present the âIâm doing GREAT; Iâm so BUSYâ version of ourselves. This is a common conversation piece that gets played out:
âHow are you?â
âGood, good. Busy. Howâs yourself?â
âYeah allâs good!â
âIâm sure youâre busy yourself.â
âBusy surely, and time is just flying in!â
âI know, it just seems to go quicker!â
âAnyway, I have to run, lovely seeing you!â
âYou too!â
Quite often there is a subtext just beneath the words, a barely audible whisper of yearning which is too risky to say aloud: "What if I told you Iâm not okay? What if I admitted that Iâm not just busy, but overwhelmed? What if I confessed that behind the smiles and the quick exchanges, I feel so lost and lonely and sad at times that it almost takes my breath away?" These are the things we conceal behind the veil of productivity, the things we donât have the courage to share for fear of burdening others or being seen as weak. So, we settle for the easier script, the one that requires no vulnerability, no real honesty.
In truth, we may be longing for someone to ask, âHow are you, really?â But those words are rare, often falling in the silence between the casual chatter of daily life. And so, we keep moving, keep busying ourselves, masking the gaps with the familiar dance of pleasantries, all the while wishing someone might stop long enough to notice the cracks in our carefully curated exteriors.
Surround yourself with safe people...they make a difference. đĽ°