A Change of Mind

02/09/2025

The Hidden Key to Real Success

Most people think success is about working harder, learning new strategies, or pushing through with sheer willpower. And yes, those things can bring results, but usually only temporary ones.

Here’s the truth:
Real and lasting success comes from shifting your subconscious frequency.

Your subconscious mind quietly runs the show. It holds your beliefs about money, worth, confidence, and what is possible for you. If those deep patterns are not aligned with success, then no matter how hard you try consciously, you will eventually slip back into the old cycle.

That is why true transformation can never be just a conscious decision. It requires a subconscious shift. When that happens, success stops being a struggle and starts to feel natural.

This is the work I do with clients every day at A Change of Mind using Hypnotherapy & Coaching. Together, we uncover the patterns that hold you back and rewire them so your subconscious is working with you, not against you.

When you change your frequency at the deepest level, money, success, and opportunity begin to flow in ways that last.

Ready to find out how this could work for you? Email me today: Steven@achangeofmind.ie or Facebook message me.

05/08/2025

Who’s REALLY in charge of your life?

Science suggests that up to 95% of your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours are driven by your subconscious mind and not your conscious decisions.

This means:

• That habit you can’t seem to break?
• That anxiety that shows up uninvited?
• That inner voice that says “you’re not good enough”?
• The patterns you keep repeating
• Never quite reaching your goals

These are all likely programs running beneath the surface, often formed years ago.

Think about what that means – these parts of yourself that you have probably tried to change unsuccessfully:

You didn’t choose them consciously, but you can change them.
This is where hypnotherapy works.

It helps you gently access your subconscious, understand the root cause, and rewire it for peace, confidence, and clarity.
Imagine feeling free of the old stories that keep looping in your head.

Recently I helped a client who over and over got rejected in relationships. We found in the subconscious mind a memory where she concluded she wasn’t pretty because her older sister was always the one who was told she was pretty. So she ran a programme that simply mirrored the belief, and sooner or later subconsciously she did something to wreck the relationship. We released and repatterned that memory. It is too soon to know the long term outcome in this case, but I am confident her relationships will now change.

This is why hypnotherapy can be more powerful than any other psychotherapy. “It reaches the parts that other therapies cannot reach!”

Interested to explore – sign up for an initial hypnotherapy session:

https://achangeofmind.ie/hypnotherapy/

10/06/2025

Is it time for a reset?

Sometimes life doesn’t collapse. It just quietly wears us down.
You find yourself more tired, more anxious, more flat.

The usual things don’t help anymore. You might even tell yourself “I should be able to handle this”; but deep down, you know something needs to change.

This is the point where many people seek therapy. What they are really longing for is not just to fix symptoms. They are longing for a reset.

A reset is not about wiping the slate clean. It is about pausing long enough to reconnect with what matters and to restore the system that has been running on empty.

What does a reset look like?

• Letting go of old survival patterns
• Relearning how to feel safe in your own body
• Questioning the beliefs that are quietly driving anxiety or self-criticism
• Allowing yourself to imagine a life you do not yet believe is possible

Here are two simple ways you can begin to reset:

1. Hum to soothe your nervous system

Gentle humming stimulates the vagus nerve, calming the body and allowing more ease. Try sitting comfortably and humming softly on the out-breath for a few minutes. You may feel warmth or release in your chest and belly. This helps restore the sense of safety that deeper change depends upon.

2. Journal to uncover your mind’s story

Set a timer for ten minutes and write freely on this prompt: “The story I am living in is…” See what emerges. Often we are living in unconscious narratives about who we must be and what is possible.

Awareness is the first step to freedom.

If this resonates, it may be time for your reset. My Transformational Mind sessions can provide a safe space to explore this and to create the inner conditions for lasting change.

If you would like to know more, visit www.achangeofmind.ie or message me directly.

25/04/2025

Why do I keep ending up in the same place... no matter what I do?

New job. New partner. New routine.

But somehow — the same anxiety, the same self-sabotage, the same stuckness comes back around.

It’s not bad luck.

It’s not a flaw in your character.

It’s deep conditioning — patterns hardwired into your nervous system and subconscious mind, often from early life experiences.

We repeat what’s familiar, not what’s healthy.

One simple but powerful step to begin shifting this is to ask yourself:

“What might I be believing — about myself, or the world — that keeps this pattern alive?”

Just sit with that.

Don’t try to solve it right away.

Let the question stir something deeper than the usual thinking.

And yet, even powerful questions like this may not be enough on their own.

Traditional therapy can be helpful — but often, it works too slowly.
Mindset work is useful — but it rarely gets deep enough.
Meditation alone won’t always shift the emotional roots.
That’s why I created Transformational Mind Sessions — a powerful integration of
therapy, coaching, hypnotherapy, ACT, solution-focused therapy, and mindfulness-based practices.

This work gets underneath the surface, working at the level where real change actually happens.

If you’re ready to break the cycle and experience what it feels like to live with clarity, freedom, and emotional resilience — let’s talk.

Book a free 20-minute discovery call here:
https://calendly.com/stevenlane/30min

Or message me with the word RESET and I’ll send you the next steps.

You don’t have to keep looping.
You can change the story.
And it starts with a change of mind.

14/02/2025

Rewiring Your Brain for Happiness and Success: The Neuroscience of Transformation

Have you ever felt stuck in patterns of negative thinking, emotional reactivity, or self-doubt—like no matter how much you try to change, something keeps pulling you back? The good news is that change isn’t just possible—it’s inevitable when we understand how the brain works.

Neuroscience has proven what ancient wisdom has long suggested: we are not fixed, and our brains are constantly evolving. Thanks to neuroplasticity, we have the ability to rewire our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors—reshaping our reality from the inside out.

The Science of Neuroplasticity: You Can Change Your Mind—Literally

For most of human history, we believed that the brain was static—unchangeable after childhood. However, research in the last few decades has revealed that the brain is highly adaptable. Every thought you think, every habit you reinforce, and every emotional response you experience strengthens certain neural pathways while weakening others.

Dr. Rick Hanson, in Hardwiring Happiness, explains how our brains are wired to focus on negativity due to evolutionary survival mechanisms—what he calls the negativity bias. But the same brain that gets stuck in patterns of anxiety, fear, or self-sabotage can be rewired for resilience, confidence, and success.

How to Rewire Your Brain for a Happier, More Successful Life

1. Shift Your Focus: Train Your Brain to See the Positive
Your brain is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones. But by actively focusing on positive experiences, you strengthen new neural pathways.
- Try this: When something good happens—even small moments of joy or success—pause and absorb it for 10–20 seconds. This reinforces it neurologically, helping to shift your brain toward greater happiness and resilience.

2. Interrupt Old Patterns & Create New Ones
Every habit—whether helpful or destructive—is just a neural pathway that has been reinforced over time. To change, we need to disrupt old patterns and establish new ones.
- Try this: When you catch yourself in negative self-talk or limiting beliefs, pause and ask:
"What would a wiser, more compassionate version of me say instead?"
By repeating this process, you weaken the old patterns and strengthen new ones.

3. Use Visualization & Mental Rehearsal
The brain doesn’t distinguish between real and imagined experiences—meaning that when you visualize success, confidence, or emotional resilience, you are literally building those neural circuits.
- Try this: Each morning, spend two minutes visualizing yourself as your most confident and successful self—how you think, feel, and act. Over time, this programs your brain to embody that version of you.

4. Regulate Your Nervous System: The Power of Breath & Mindfulness
Stress and anxiety reinforce negative neural pathways, making change harder. But simple breathwork, meditation, and mindfulness help regulate your nervous system, making your brain more open to new learning.
- Try this: Practice slow, deep breathing (four to six breaths per minute) for a few minutes each day to activate your brain’s relaxation response.

5. Take Small, Consistent Actions (The 1% Rule)
Your brain changes through repetition and consistency, not massive overnight shifts. The key is small, daily actions that reinforce the person you want to become.
- Try this: Instead of trying to change everything at once, commit to just one small shift daily—whether it’s changing a thought pattern, responding differently to a situation, or engaging in a new habit.

Transformation Is a Skill—And You Can Master It

The most exciting part of neuroplasticity? No matter where you are starting from, your brain can adapt. You are not your past, your old habits, or your limiting beliefs. You have the power to reprogram yourself for happiness, confidence, and success—one thought, one emotion, and one action at a time.

If you would like personalized support in rewiring your brain and transforming your mindset, my coaching can help. At A Change of Mind, I integrate neuroscience-based coaching techniques to help you break free from limitations and create lasting change.

Book a consultation at https://www.achangeofmind.ie

06/02/2025

Self-Compassion: The Key to Healing and Life Change

What if true transformation wasn’t about pushing yourself harder but being kinder to yourself?

In my practice, time and time again, I see people who despite their success, don’t feel great! Often they push themselves hard or are simply hard on themselves.

Many people believe that change comes from self-discipline and relentless effort. While determination is important, research shows that real healing and lasting life change come from self-compassion—not self-criticism.

Often they have developed an idea at an earlier stage of life (sometimes from how parents relate to them) that they have to be demanding of themselves, and push themselves with negative or tough self-talk.

Self-compassion means treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a close friend. It’s not about making excuses or avoiding responsibility, it’s about creating an inner environment where growth and healing are possible.

What is Self-Compassion?

Dr. Kristin Neff (a leading expert on self-compassion) describes self-compassion as having three key elements:

Self-Kindness vs. Self-Judgment – Speaking to yourself with warmth and encouragement instead of harsh criticism.

Common Humanity vs. Isolation – Recognizing that everyone struggles and that your challenges don’t make you unworthy or alone.

3️Mindfulness vs. Over-Identification – Observing your thoughts and emotions without letting them define you.

In my opinion, self-compassion is about developing a kind and loving relationship with yourself – ultimately this is a choice and for many people requires a RESET!

Practical Ways to Apply Self-Compassion for Healing and Growth

🔹 Reframe Your Inner Dialogue
Notice your self-talk. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, why say it to yourself? Shift from “I’m failing” to “I’m learning.”

🔹 Acknowledge Your Struggles Without Judgment
Instead of beating yourself up for feeling stuck or struggling, recognize that healing takes time. Try saying, "This is hard, but I am doing my best.”

🔹 Treat Yourself with Care
What would you do for someone you love if they were going through a tough time? Offer yourself the same kindness—whether that means rest, support, or simply allowing yourself to be human.

🔹 Practice Self-Compassion in Small Moments
When you make a mistake or feel overwhelmed, pause. Take a deep breath and remind yourself: I am doing the best I can, and that is enough.

Self-compassion isn’t about avoiding change—it’s about creating the conditions that make real transformation possible. Healing happens when we stop fighting ourselves and start supporting ourselves.
What’s one small way you can practice self-compassion today? .

21/10/2024

The Story You Tell Yourself Shapes Your Life

We all have a narrative running in our minds—a story about who we are, what we're capable of, and what we deserve. This story dictates how we approach success, money, our intimate relationships, and even how we handle life’s challenges.

But here’s the truth: Most of these stories are just that—stories. They're not reality, but interpretations we've picked up from past experiences, society, or even limiting beliefs. They are not reality but they do shape our reality.

The good news? You have the power to rewrite your story.

Imagine what would change if your internal dialogue shifted from:
- "I’ll never be successful" to "I am fully capable of achieving my goals."
- "I’m always struggling with money" to "I welcome abundance into my life."
- "I can’t trust anyone in relationships" to "I deserve deep, loving connections."

When you change your story, you change your life. It will require some effort, mindfulness and practice but when you change your story, you will watch almost miraculous changes happen in your life.

Transformation isn’t about pretending challenges don’t exist—it’s about seeing them through a new lens. And that's where transformational coaching comes in. As a coach, I help you identify these limiting stories and guide you through the process of creating new, empowering ones.

Break free of the stories that no longer serve you. Your new life is waiting to be written.

Explore more about transformational coaching here: https://achangeofmind.ie/life-coaching/

What is transformational coaching?
Transformational coaching is about more than just setting goals—it’s about deep, inner change. We work on shifting your mindset, breaking free of limiting beliefs, and creating the future you truly desire. It’s a holistic approach to living your best life.

Be The Best You with Transformational Life and Mind Specialist Steven Lane. Life Coaching, Mind Coaching, Clarity Coaching, Deep Transformational Coaching

14/10/2024

What Keeps People Stuck and 4 Powerful Things you Start to Do to get Unstuck

Stuckness appears in many ways – almost everyone can relate to stuckness in some way – e.g.

- Getting emotionally triggered over and over
- Emotions and issues that don’t seem to heal – often felt in the body as stress or anxiety
- Overreacting
- Procrastinating
- Emotional avoidance or even numbness
- Failure
- Repeated relationship breakdown or problems
- Not making enough money
- Starting a business but not really getting it off the ground
- Certain life patterns repeating themselves over and over
- Lack of joy in life
- Stress
- Frequent frustration or anger
- Failure to reach your potential

We are all familiar with some of these to some extent – or a lot! Even people who outwardly seem happy and successful often have some of these things going on – for example, up to 75% of business managers and executives feel like frauds, waiting to be found out ( impostor syndrome)

And yet very few people succeed in resolving their stuckness in any meaningful way. Why?

To answer that, we must look at how people relate to their stuckness.

The most common thing people do is either NOTHING – or MORE OF THE SAME.

NOTHING means we avoid the problem and we may even attempt to distract ourselves with alcohol, drugs, work, sport, TV, Eating etc.

DOING MORE OF THE SAME (this seems to be built into most people’s brains) means we work harder, get into the same fights, keep suppressing emotions, use the same money making strategies that are already failing, maintain the same thinking as always, beat ourselves up, or simply hope things will get better.

The deeper reason we stay stuck is because our stuckness is actually a subconscious or deeply unconconsious pattern we are running related to suppressed emotions, limiting beliefs, fear, low self esteem, learned behaviours – what I call the Subconscious Blueprint.

The subconscious blueprint is responsible for whether we succeed or fail in life.

Most therapy and a lot of coaching fail to change the subconscious blueprint – mainly because the therapists or coaches have never been trained to change it!

So, people try to change it themselves with self-help books and the like. Sometimes they succeed! But more often than not – the stuckness continues year in year out.

So, what can you do? As you can imagine, change often requires a dedicated effort and a lot of untangling and subconscious reimprinting. But there are some key things you can do that will get the ball rolling:

1. OWN WHAT IS GOING ON! To do this requires you to take responsibility – to slow down and notice your stuckness – and to notice how your efforts to deal with it have not been working. Understand that you are running some kind of automated programme that keeps the stuckness in place. This returning to yourself and acknowledging a truth helps you to start to see and even go beyond blind spots. As you own what is going on, you can start to listen to yourself at a deep level.

2. BE WILLING TO STOP REACTING AND INSTEAD TO START RESPONDING. When we react we try to fight ourselves; we try to push away a problem, or artificially shift into positivity or some better state. We fail to deal with reality. How to respond? We need to stop and feel. Our mind-body system is beautifully designed to provide feedback and a doorway to problem resolution. When we stop and feel and start to relate to ourselves compassionately, problems start to fall away.

3. COMMIT YOURSELF TO BEING YOUR BEST AUTHENTIC SELF. Intentions are powerful. When we have a truly committed intention, our subconscious mind gets onboard. It starts to present solutions – sometimes insights that enable us to let go of what we have been holding onto, sometimes a book or a YouTube clip appears, or sometimes we meet a coach or mentor who can help. Becoming authentic is key to becoming unstuck. So many people are masking, and in order to mask we stay tense and hide from ourselves and others.

4. CHANGE YOUR STORY. Our subconscious blueprint expresses itself to us consciously as our fundamental attitudes and the story we tell ourselves over and over, often in the back of our minds or as the internal critic. When we consciously start to catch what we are doing, we can experiment with changing the story – which in turn filters down to the subconscious and begins to change the blueprint.

These four steps alone will go a long way to initiating deep change. Print them out – stick them on the fridge or your computer and find the time to give them space in your life.

If you need more help, I am Steven Lane, A Transformational Coach working online and in person. I have more than 25 years of experience and many thousands of hours of client time. Check me out on www.achangeofmind.ie

02/10/2024

DEEP TRANSFORMATIONAL COACHING – A JOURNEY WITH YOUR SOUL

Are you ready to embark on a journey of profound personal and spiritual growth and transformation? Deep Transformational Coaching is designed to facilitate deep, sustained change by helping you connect with your true self and unlock your highest potential.

At A Change of Mind, this is one of my (Steven Lane) key services. I specialize in guiding individuals through this transformative process.

My approach is inspired by the pioneering work of Leon VanderPol, author of A Shift in Being and founder of the Center for Transformational Coaching and Living as well as my own personal development and spiritual journey during the last 40 years, including 7 years as a Buddhist monk.

What is Deep Transformational Coaching? Deep Transformational Coaching goes beyond traditional coaching methods and even beyond most transformational coaching approaches.

It focuses on creating a growth and shift of consciousness and empowering you to live more authentically. This type of coaching is about more than achieving goals—it’s about transforming your inner world and embodying new levels of personal reality. It includes shifting out of the head into the heart, listening to what wants to happen at a soul level, and moving into much greater clarity and purpose.

Transpersonal and Spiritual Dimensions: This form of coaching is deeply transpersonal and spiritual, working with what is wanting to happen at a soul and heart level. It helps you align with your inner wisdom and the deeper currents of life, facilitating a profound connection with your true essence.

Outcomes You Can Expect:

• Enhanced self-awareness and clarity
• Release of stuck patterns and old beliefs
• Greater alignment with and discovery of your true self
• Improved emotional resilience and well-being
• A deeper sense of purpose and fulfilment
• Lasting personal and professional growth

Inspirational Quotes: Leon VanderPol beautifully captures the essence of this journey:

“Transformational coaching is not about fixing what is broken, but about uncovering the wholeness that already exists within.” - Leon VanderPol

Another insightful perspective comes from the Center for Transformational Coaching:

“True transformation occurs when we shift our attention from the intellect to what is emanating from deep within.”

I trained in this approach some 5 years ago with Leon Vanderpol, as a postgraduate certification to my existing Diploma in Leadership, Executive and Personal Coaching and accreditation with the EMCC as Coach Practitioner.

Ready to transform your life?

Connect with me for an exploratory chat.

02/10/2024

A CHANGE OF MIND – BE THE BEST YOU!

Who and What is a Change of Mind – and How Can I Help?

I am Steven Lane, based in Ireland. I have worked in the transformational space for 25 years with an estimated 25,000 hours of experience.

My transformational work includes 2 main areas:

- Coaching – (I am an EMCC accredited Practitioner Coach)
o Life Coaching
o Clarity Coaching
o Transformational Coaching

- Mind Transformation (I have numerous qualifications in psychological therapies, hypnotherapy, NLP and coaching)
o Mindset Change
o Subconscious Mind Change
o Emotional Healing
o Mind dynamics
o Changing recurring patterns

I work online mainly but also see some committed clients from my home in Tullamore, Co Offaly

How Can I Help? In essence – I help you to feel better and to live better.

And if you have an interest in Spirituality, I can help you to discover your true self (my own spiritual journey spans 40 years and includes 7 years as a Buddhist monk).

Check out my revised Website:

www.achangeofmind.ie

One of my clients commented (extract from testimonial)
I never thought it was possible to see such an abundance of experience, expertise, wisdom, joy and profound presence wrapped up in one human being until I started working with Steven.
If you want to experience something similar, look no further!

Mary T Tierney, MBA
The Leadership Whisperer,
Azurite Consulting Ltd

Be The Best You with Transformational Mind Specialist Steven Lane

20/09/2024

WHY CLARITY IS KEY TO A HAPPY, SUCCESSFUL LIFE & 5 STEPS TO ACHIEVING CLARITY

In the journey of life, clarity stands as a foundational pillar. Without it, we often find ourselves lost, overwhelmed, and unfulfilled. But what exactly do we mean by clarity, and why is it so important?

What is Clarity?
Clarity is the ability to see things clearly, to understand your goals, values, and the steps needed to achieve them. It’s about having a clear vision of what you want in life and how to get there. Think of it as having a well-defined roadmap that guides you through the complexities of life.

Often, if we are stressed, or overwhelmed, or if we are facing changes in direction in our lives whether professionally, or in relationships, we can experience so many thoughts and emotions that we are left with a murky brain! Or we might just feel indecisive or start to make poor decisions.

Why Clarity Matters:
1. Direction and Purpose: Clarity provides a clear sense of direction and purpose. It helps you understand your goals and the steps needed to achieve them, leading to a more focused and fulfilling life. Clarity helps you to get in touch with your needs and to do what needs to be done to fulfill them.

2. Effective Decision-Making: With clarity, decision-making becomes more straightforward. You can weigh options more effectively and choose paths that align with your values and objectives. Decision making is actually made emotionally more than rationally – so often we get stuck because we are mulling things round in our head over and over.

3. Personal Fulfillment: Clarity helps you identify what truly matters to you, leading to greater personal satisfaction and happiness. Sometimes we drift through life not quite knowing what we really want, not fulfilling our true potential and putting up with a less than amazing life. Clarity helps to turn that around.

4. Mental Health: Poor clarity can even lead to mental health problems, especially anxiety and depression. Without clarity inertia can set in resulting in failure to take action and a consequential sense of disempowerment or lack of engagement with the world.

Examples of Clarity in Action:
• Career Choices: Knowing exactly what you want in your career can help you make informed decisions about job opportunities, professional development, and career changes.
• Relationships: Understanding your values and what you want in relationships can lead to healthier and more fulfilling connections with others.
• Personal Goals: Whether it’s health, hobbies, or personal growth, having clear goals helps you stay motivated and focused on what truly matters to you.
• Life in General: Knowing who you are, what you are capable of and what is truly meaningful and fulfilling to you can change how you approach life.

• Emotions: Some people, often due to trauma or adverse childhood circumstances are disconnected from their emotions or sometimes have difficulty knowing exactly what they are feeling. They may have vague or even numb feelings.

How to Achieve Clarity:

1. Self-Reflection: Taking time to reflect on your values, goals, and priorities helps in gaining clarity. Journaling, meditation, and mindfulness practices can be beneficial. This may include using specific tools. For example, if you are seeking to find your ideal self employed work and purpose, using the tool of the Ikigai can be useful (what am I good at, what do I love doing, Will people pay money for it? Does the world need it?) Other tools if you are having relationship problem could be to look at your attachment type via an online questionnaire (check out psychcentral.com)

2. Heart-Centred Inquiry: Getting out of your head, connecting to your heart, and then asking deep questions and giving yourself space and time to allow those questions to be authentically answered. Questions might include, What do I really want, what is wanting to happen, what would make my heart sing etc. ?

3. Slowing Down: If you are sped up or stressed, you cannot be truly in touch with yourself, and a lack of clarity will surely follow. Take time to take time out! Slow down and relax for a whole weekend practicing mindfulness, yoga, going for walks. In this slowed down state your own wisdom will gradually emerge.

4. Setting Clear Goals: Define your short-term and long-term goals. Break them down into actionable steps to create a roadmap for success.

5. Talking to People: Engage with friends, mentors, peers, or trusted individuals to gain different perspectives and insights. But also remember, you need to own your life, and wisdom is ultimately within you.

The Role of Life Coaching:

Sometimes, despite our best efforts, we struggle to gain clarity on our own. This is where life coaching comes in. A life coach can provide the guidance and support needed to navigate through confusion and uncertainty. They help you to deeply get in touch with yourself identify your goals, eliminate obstacles such as self-doubt or procrastination. create a clear action plan, and hold you accountable, ensuring you stay on track and make consistent progress towards a happy, successful life.

Steven Lane is a highly experienced transformational life coach with more than 20 years of experience and many thousands of hours of one-to-one sessions. He offers coaching online via Zoom or Teams.