Affiance

17/02/2018

One of the great insights of psychoanalysis is that relationships are never just a matter of whether two personalities match. We project our fantasies on to the other, then react with shock when it turns out they’re a real, flawed person – then, often as not, we leave to project the fantasy on to someone else. The problem with real-world relationships is that the truly good ones have bad parts and the truly bad ones have good parts. Deep down, you probably know which yours is. That’s not to say certain kinds of experts – therapists, mainly – can’t help you see what you already subconsciously know!
That's why a good pre —marriage course can be an invaluable method to face your flaws and your partner's flaws.

14/02/2018

Hopefully the relationship with your loved one of whatever gender, is a healthy one. If not - walk!
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14/02/2018

Ahhhhh sure for the day that's in it! 😍
https://www.facebook.com/TED/videos/10160013447940652/

13/02/2018

I totally agree with this article, providing that you still treat each other in a respectful manner.
https://www.facebook.com/theguardian/posts/10156548951576323

Bestselling author of Crucial Conversations says the biggest mistake couples make is avoidance

13/12/2017

True love will always find a way 😍

In July 1958, Mildred and Richard Loving were arrested for in*******al marriage. Photographer Grey Villet spent time with them, years before their case brought down the law. Here are some of his images of the heroic lovers

07/12/2017

Thich Nhat Hanh is a wise man, a great practitioner of Mindfulness who often has gems of wisdom for those considering marriage. This article has such advice. Take a few minutes to read and enjoy....

Falling in love is easy, but staying in love takes work. Thich Nhat Hanh offers advice for cultivating a relationship that’s loving and strong.

25/11/2017

Good communication has saved many a relationship from ending up with the lawyers, bad communication invariably ends up inviting them into your relationship. Take a look at this TED TALK on the art of good communication, and the ability to communicate is an art form that must be practiced, and never taken for granted in your marriage.
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1818246224855242&id=203906229622591

19/11/2017

Good communication is everything!The most politically incorrect pre-marriage course ever, but it still makes me laugh.

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18/11/2017

"On a good day I am commited to you,
On a not so good day I am committed to our marriage
On a bad day I am committed to the commitment I made you"
Couples, gay or straight deal with exactly the problems in their married life. Marriage doesn't discriminate, it's tough for all to navigate! That's why a marriage preparation course can be invaluable. I'ts a massive commitment that you as a couple are making to each other. Regardless of how long you have been together as a couple, how long you have shared the same bed, emptied the same dishwasher, or argued over whose turn it was to clean up the dog poo in the garden (The s*xy stuff!) when you decide to make a legal commitment in front of family and friends and in the eyes of the state, that's a big undertaking, a public commitment, and it involves hard work from both parties.

16/11/2017

I was listening to the radio this week about the positive news coming out from Australia regarding enshrining into law the right of gay couples to marry. Hopefully I am not being ageist when I write that a gentleman being interviewed on a 'vox pop' was a 'mature' age, he contended that gay and straight couples planning to marry had nothing in common. It was like comparing 'bananas and cucumbers' (I kid you not!). I thought long and hard about this...about 20 seconds, and deduced the following..

1. Married people are much happier and likely to be less unhappy than any other group of people.
2. Married people live up to eight years longer than divorced or never-married people.
3. Married people suffer less from long-term illnesses than those who are unmarried.
4. Married people are less likely to engage in unhealthy behaviour such as drug and alcohol abuse.
5. Married people have twice the amount of s*x as single people and report greater levels of satisfaction in the area of s*xual intimacy.
Gay or straight human beings have the same needs, wants and hopes, and marriage is still tough and rewarding for all human beings.

15/11/2017

I have always been a big fan of TED talks, this is one of their better talks on the dynamics of relationships.
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10159592372010652&id=29092950651

Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be?

22/10/2017

Marriage is such a complex situation for two people, with love playing a role but perhaps surprisingly not the only role. Take a few minutes to listen to this TED talk.
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10159485526795652&id=29092950651

Most of us haven’t thought seriously about what we’re seeking from our marriage.