The Body Balancing System

17/04/2025

The #1 Thing Your Child Needs From You (And What’s Really Getting in the Way)

According to Dr. Daniel Siegel’s powerful book The Power of Showing Up, one thing matters more than anything else in parenting:

Your consistent presence.

Not perfection.

Not fancy toys.

Not even the “right” words.

Just you—being emotionally and physically present.

Siegel and co-author Dr. Tina Payne Bryson break it down into what they call the 4 S’s every child needs:

1. Safe – A child needs to feel protected from harm.
2. Seen – Not just looked at, but deeply understood.
3. Soothed – Help in managing big emotions and stress.
4. Secure – A relationship that’s consistent and dependable.

When you show up—truly show up—you’re wiring your child’s brain for resilience, emotional regulation, and future healthy relationships.

You don’t need to have all the answers.

You don’t need to fix every problem.

You just need to be there.

But here’s the real challenge no one talks about:

Showing up takes energy.

It takes energy to stay calm when your kid is melting down.

It takes energy to put your phone down and tune in.

It takes energy to listen, to soothe, to be emotionally available.

And when you’re sleep-deprived, stressed, or running on empty from work and life… that energy feels like the one thing you don’t have.

That’s where most parenting advice falls short—it tells you what to do, but not how to find the capacity to actually do it.

At PEP180, we flip the script.

We focus on training your energy and focus the same way you’d train your body.

Because the best parenting strategy in the world means nothing if your tank is empty.

Want to be more patient?

Show up more fully?

Feel like the dad you want to be?

You don’t need more willpower.

You need more energy—and trainable.

Here’s a polished and engaging version of your announcement post, keeping your voice authentic while sharpening the message:

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Big News… I’m Shifting Gears.

For those of you who don’t know, I’m stepping away from the world of healing chronic pain—and stepping into something even bigger.

After 20+ years helping people heal their bodies, I realized something powerful:

What if we didn’t wait for people to break down before giving them the tools to thrive?

That’s why I’m launching a brand-new mission:

PEP180 – The Parent Empowerment Project.

Because the #1 resource parents need—more than parenting tips, more than advice—is energy.

Energy to stay calm.

Energy to stay patient.

Energy to show up, even when life spirals out of control.

My goal?

To help parents train that energy before burnout, stress, or disconnection ever take hold.

So they can raise thriving kids—and feel like thriving humans while doing it.

Watch out for the official launch of PEP180 coming soon.

This is prevention, not repair.

Empowerment, not exhaustion.

The 180 your family deserves.

27/03/2025

If you’ve ever ended the day thinking, “Why did I lose it again?”—this one’s for you.

In this episode of PEP180, we’re going deeper than “just try to stay calm” and actually looking at what drains your ability to stay patient in the first place—physically, mentally, and emotionally.

We’ll talk about:

Why patience disappears even when you start the day strong

What blood sugar, stress, and decision fatigue have to do with snapping at your kid

And the small, doable daily habits that keep your energy steady so you can stay calm when things go sideways

This video is part science, part story, and totally relatable.
No shame. No lectures. Just real stuff that actually helps.

Click this Link to watch!

If you’ve ever ended the day thinking, “Why did I lose it again?”—this one’s for you.Because here’s the truth most parenting advice skips over:You don’t have...

13/03/2025

People don't believe me today when I say I used to have a seriously short fuse.

In fact, when I was a kid, I was the one throwing shoes at windows and even knocking out my brother’s baby tooth I wasn't exactly the picture of calm.

I spent many years working on myself to control my temper.

Fast forward to becoming a dad, and suddenly, all the patience I thought I had was being tested in ways I never imagined.

But over time, I realized that staying patient isn’t just about willpower—it’s about retraining your brain and body to respond differently.

And that’s exactly what I’m sharing in my latest video.

I’m diving into how 20 minutes of exercise a day can help rewire your brain for patience and emotional control, all while improving your overall health.

While it’s not easy, its simpler than you might think!

Check out the video and let me know what you think.

05/03/2025

Dealing with technical errors and the learning curve of editing software is just one of the joys of starting something new. But after a long day, here’s my fifth video in my new YouTube adventure!

In this video, we’re diving into 5 core principles that can help you train patience like a muscle—because let’s face it, staying calm as a parent is tough. We’ve all been there: you promise yourself you’ll stay patient, and then five minutes later, you're snapping.

But what if I told you that patience isn't just a mindset? It’s about how your body and brain work together to stay in control, even when everything feels out of control.

I’ll walk you through how small changes in your daily routine can help you stay in that "window of tolerance" longer, and how you can train smarter—not harder—so you can show up as the calm, patient dad your family needs.

If you're ready to stop reacting automatically and start showing up more present for your family, hit the link below in the comments. Let’s get you started on this journey of building patience, energy, and connection through body-brain strategies!

20/03/2023

It’s scary to think how emotional experiences that you wouldn’t expect to have an impact, can leave a lasting imprint that can cause you pain.

I was 2 months old when my father died and I’ve since then learnt how this experience, I don’t consciously remember, has shaped my beliefs, behaviors and physical experience in life.

As I've learnt, this stressful period had a huge impact on my developing nervous system and its sense of safety- an essential ingredient for healthy development.

The natural development through reflexes and healthy bonding were delayed and, in some areas, remained underdeveloped causing my sensitivity to touch, light and sound that have affected my work, relationships and confidence in myself.

This sensitivity can you make your brains and nervous system a little too responsive to detecting and responding to danger signal in your environment.

As your body picks up a danger signal it naturally tenses.

If you stop and pay attention to your body for a minute and then thinking about something stressful, you’ll see what I’m talking about.

Maybe you hold your breath? Maybe you feel a lump in your throat or unknowingly clench your fists?

This tension from emotions, poor posture and any other source that activates a stress response, slows the circulation to muscles and organs slowing the nutrient-in-waste-product-out cycle that’s so important to the life of every living cell.

As the cells blood supply is cut off or reduced the cells start to “suffocate” and die (also known as Ischemia.)

As long as those emotional memories are being triggered the patterns of muscle tension will remain causing more cellular death and more pain.

So how do you stop this pattern from happening?

How do you let go and relax the tension?

I’ve found the best place to start is by identifying your unique patterns of muscle tension in your body.

Keep track of these pattern and what triggers activate them you'll create the foundation you need to get rid your pain.

12/03/2023

Are you still look for the answer to why you suffer from:

• Chronic pain
• Persistent headaches
• Digestive issues
• Fatigue
• Constantly feel on edge

Did you know that all the above symptoms can be caused by unprocessed emotional experiences that stem from childhood experiences like:

• emotional neglect
• abuse
• divorce
• witnessing family violence
• exposure to drug or alcohol addiction

Unprocessed emotional experience can follow you into adulthood and may present as:

•Chronic pain
• You're constantly feel on edge and can't switch off your mind so easily.
•You're constantly trying to please, appease and avoid conflict with others at your expense.
•Fatigue

As these emotional experiences are often suppressed making you unaware of their impact you don’t even consider them a problem.

But they affect the way your autonomic nervous system responds to stress.

The above experiences can make your nervous system hyper responsive and triggers the stress response even when you don’t need to be on red alert.

Understanding the impact of unprocessed emotions have on your nervous system can be something you’re missing in your quest to living pain-free.

If you’d like to learn a practical solutions to find out and working with these unprocessed emotions (without the need to talk about them) follow my post over the next few week as I introduce my new Core, Stress and Breath Class.

Stay tuned.

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17/01/2023

I've just spent the last few hours reminiscing down memory lane as I added the different training program I've studied over the years. I love learning new things and have missed it since becoming a dad, immigrating and COVID.

As life settles I look forward to continue learning and growing so I can enhance my skills to help alleviate the suffering in this world.

Have a great week and watch this space to continue to learn more about selfcare, chronic pain and the body mind relationship