Embodied Relationships

10/13/2025

There is a power to leading with curiosity rather than assumptions and judgments. Curiosity opens the door to the possibility of a deeper connection. This heart warming story is a testament to that.

So remember when I posted here asking what to do about my neighbor who put up a security camera angled right at our backyard? Yeah, that spiraled fast. There were all kinds of suggestions, some of them wild, and honestly I was ready to march over with a shovel and my loudest voice.

But you all gave me one piece of advice I couldn't stop thinking about: "Ask him why."

So I did. And y'all, he didn't even realize it was angled that way. He'd just gone through a divorce, was living alone, and wanted to feel "less boxed in, but still safe." Then he pointed to a sketch on his patio and said, "I just want to make something beautiful."

That stopped me cold.

Turns out he'd been wanting to redo the fence for months but didn't have the time or skills to get it how he imagined. I told him kind of jokingly, "Well, I work with wood. Been building furniture and outdoor pieces for years. I've got a shop on Tedooo app where I sell my handmade stuff."

He looked at me and said, "Wait, seriously? Would you help?"

What followed was a weirdly amazing two-week whirlwind of building, sketching, sanding, arguing about stain shades, and laughing over pizza breaks. I told him I'd treat the fence like one of my commissions, take full creative lead, and I'd add it to my Tedooo app portfolio to help grow my shop. He agreed.

That photo? That's us finishing the custom fold-down bar table we built into the fence line. Now we've got this setup where we can drop the table on either side for cookouts, pass beers through, or just lean on it and talk about nothing while the grill heats up.

He took the camera down before I even asked.

We had burgers at that table last weekend. His ex came by to pick up some mail and stopped to compliment the fence. He looked proud in a way I hadn't seen from him before.

Sometimes people don't mean harm, they just need connection. And sometimes fences don't have to divide. Sometimes they make pretty great bridges with cup holders.

10/01/2025

Consider this: A big part of bringing your best self to your relationship is owning the ways you sometimes bring your worst self to them.

09/14/2025

In the past I would have thought this quote was not true. Now I see how loving myself fiercely is so good for my relationship, and that love that I have for myself helps me to speak up, and say what I feel, need and what is going on for me. Does this resonate with you?

09/11/2025

Speak your truth to minimize w**ds in your relationship using the “Weed Check” Method

Weeds in a garden if not spotted and addressed can take over and destroy a beautiful garden

“Relationship w**ds” if not regularly spotted and addressed can destroy a relationship

Spot new w**ds:

A Feeling and/or sensations in your body.

Such Feeling sad, angry, afraid, lonely.

Sensation such as tight jaw, empty feeling in chest, uncomfortable feeling in your belly.

Name the w**d:

To yourself and ask yourself what you need.

Then take the chance and say to your partner something like:

“I’ve noticed I’ve been feeling a little distant lately, and I think it’s worth talking about.”

Invite your partner:

“Can we look at this together before it grows into something bigger?”

"I noticed that I want to withdraw from you, related to a feeling that I am having, and I’d feel better if we could talk it through together instead of me pulling away. "

09/09/2025

Sometimes I feel like relationships are expansive and sometimes I feel like that isn’t the case! And you?

09/02/2025

Letting everyone know of a really valuable opportunity for couples to deepen their relationships. Melissa and Sanjay are offering this incredible experience.. Click to find out about it.

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08/22/2025

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10/14/2021

I want to introduce you to my new book. As we are going through profound changes in our environment as well as in our social consciousness, I felt it was time to make a statement about the immense power of deep relationship. Relative to Everything makes the case that necessary adaptations to a new world begin with how we relate to those closest to us. Our committed relationships are suffering from unsustainable patterns of living. The future will need to be one that is more reliant on our social support networks, but sadly we have drifted far apart over the past few generations. Our relationship skills are going to be a crucial part of adapting to a more sustainable planet. Relative to Everything is my attempt to examine how we can cultive the kind of relationships we will require.

Relative to Everything - Reclaiming Intimacy in a Time of Global Crisis

07/26/2021

Join us this October for our first in-person training since pre-Covid. Working with committed couples from an embodied perspective is a profoundly powerful way to invite lasting growth. Find out more here: https://www.exceptionalmarriage.com/training

11/04/2019